At 12/22/10 01:49 PM, SirCannabisClock wrote:
You've obviously never had sex, because no one in their right mind would use a condom.
Really? Then it is your own fault for getting this girl pregnant. Sure, sex without a condom is WAY better than sex without one, but if you take the risk of having sex with a girl you barely know, its on you if you get a disease or get her pregnant. I've had sex without a condom before, but with someone I was in a very trusting and loving relationship with, and she was on birth control because we didn't want any damn kids when neither of us were even out of college.
She should respect the fact that it's mine too and I don't want it.
If you knew this girl, even just as a close friend instead of a random hook up, both you and her might have had a conversation about an abortion or other options. You could have come up with a solution that both you and her can agree with and isn't too much against your beliefs. But you don't have that type of relationship, and ultimately, the choice is hers. You don't want it, then fine. Don't be a father to it. Pay your child support and live with it the rest of your life.
Also I find it odd that you are pro-life as well as she is, but you are trying to FORCE her into getting an abortion just to save your ass. Maybe now you understand how difficult it is to be in this situation.
And you need to man up and tell your girlfriend that you cheated on her and that the girl is pregnant. You keep using the "But I love her and don't want to fuck it up" excuse and you need to stop it. If you love her as much as you claim you do, than you wouldn't have cheated on her. But lets say in a moment of weakness you did anyways. If you love her as much as you say you do, you would tell her, because you should respect her enough to let someone you LOVE know the truth. You're just like a little kid right now, afraid to get caught. Well suck it the fuck up and tell her.
Will she be pissed and will you experience the full furry of a woman? Probably, but so what. Work through it and try to come out better. Otherwise you have no business being in this or any other relationship and she deserves better.
And its not good to hide things from someone you love. Eventually the truth will get out there, and then she'll be more angry at you for lying than cheating. Then you will lose her.
I'm sure you'll come up with some excuse to not follow this or other's advice because you're afraid, but grow up. Do the right thing, even if it hurts you. You made the mistake, you have to live with it. You're not looking for advice on the right thing to do, you're just looking at someone to feel sorry for you and coddle you and say, "You're right, its ok, everything will be alright." and then feed you cookies or some bullshit. The people in this thread who have given you advice have given you the right thing to do, and in most situations, that's not what you want to hear, but its what you have to do.
And I apologize for being so heated and angry in this post, but for you to throw away people's advice when you asked for just because you don't like it, it makes you look childish. And for you to keep finding excuses for this woman to have an abortion to make you feel better and help you is wrong as well. Your attitude with your girlfriend and the truth is deplorable as well.
I have given you my advice. Please take it. Do what is right for your relationship (tell her the truth) and do what is right for your unborn child (take responsibility).
And now for something that nobody has said yet.
Good luck.