At 4/7/08 09:33 PM, blamninja1 wrote:
Here's my story;
So I go to this dance every first Friday of the month, and in the last two months I danced with this nice girl and we made out and stuff, and this month she wrote down a phone number and I wrote down mine.
So later during the weekend I call it, and instead of it being her cell, I get "Mazak Midwest Tech Center". No big deal, I think, I call one of my friends and eventually, I'm told that she doesn't have a cell, that this number is her home phone.
I was pretty nervous because I didn't want her parents to answer and think I was some weird stalker or something. I waited until today to call her. Unfortunately, it was her parents. I told them my name and asked if I could talk to her.
Then her mom goes "She says she doesn't know who you are."
Her mom asked if I was in her class. I go to a different school, so I said "no" in a morose tone, said I was sorry, and hung up, so the mom doesn't get really upset and stuff.
And I really thought thiswas the one. Even if I only saw her for a few hours, and barely talked, I still really, really liked her. What should I do if I see her at the next dance? I'm really depressed about it.
Tell me how it sounds when I summarize this:
- You meet a girl at a dance, dance with her, make out, etc.
- You see her one month later. You get a phone number.
- You call, find out it's her home number (and here's when I started laughing really hard) and you're scared that it's her parents who answer. And like that's not worse enough already, you're afraid of being thought of as a stalker because you call her... how moronic is this?
First obvious mistake you made: you actually cared about what her parents might think. It's not about her parents, it's about you. It doesn't matter what others think of you.
Second mistake: 'when I call people up, they will think I'm a stalker', doesn't sound so logical right, so why did you think that? What you're basicly saying is that everyone who uses a phone is a stalker.
As for your not so obvious mistakes, I'll just have to guess, but I'm pretty sure that it's all true.
Buyer's remorse. I have no doubt that this girl very well knew who you were when you called. But on the other hand, I also believe that you started this thing in the wrong way, blocking any chances of it getting anywhere. All she knew about you is that you dance, that you're interested in her, and that's it.
She might have made out with you, but that doesn't mean anything at all. There are numerous reasons why she might have given you the number, but what I know for sure is that she didn't give it so you could call her back.
Why? Probably because she didn't know you well enough for it. I mean, what can expect from a guy you only know from dancing and making out?
Another mistake, and this one is a killer. You're talking about how she might be 'the one'. Let me tell you this, I could go on for hours about how a dumbass you are for thinking that, and I would have a few months back, but I realise it's not your fault.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS THE ONE!
In your case it's even worse than normal since you've only spent a couple of hours dancing with her.
Let me tell you what seeing someone as 'the one' will do for you:
- You'll get clingy and needy, two things women despise in men.
- You'll do anything for her in order to get her, including handing over your balls and selfrespect to her.
- You'll end up in either one of these situations: you end up depressed, you end up trying to buy her affection, you end up kissing her ass for years while she doesn't even care about you, you end up alone end never get a girl.
Seriously, check back every page till page 122, I've written several parts on some of the pages in between that might actually teach you something about women. So do yourself a favor and read those (from 122 to this page), because the fact that you said you are depressed because 'the one' didn't know you after dancing a few hours, doesn't give me the slightest impression that you know anything about girls.
