At 7/5/10 05:43 PM, Scarface wrote:
I'm mainly worried about friends. All of my friends, even the ones who are open-minded towards homosexuality, think bisexuality is weird. None of them know yet, and I'm afraid to tell them. I know that if they're really my friends, they'll accept me, but I don't want to risk losing them.
There will ALWAYS be that risk. Some people will tell you and comfort you "it's fine, I'm sure everyone will accept you", chances are it wouldn't be everyone who will be accepting. You will most likely get one person who will at least lose respect for you, partially due to stereotypes. I had a bad time coming out to someone who I thought would accept it, but it ended up with me and her breaking up and about a year of just generally feeling crap, as though I did something wrong. The only thing you can do is take a leap of faith and hope it works out.
Also, my parents. They know that I'm confused right know, and they support me, but I can see that even though they still love me, deep down they don't want me to be gay. I was raised Catholic, so I find it very hard to accept my own sexuality. I don't see anything wrong with it, but my surrounding peers make me feel like it's not normal, and that being gay will earn me a place in hell. I don't want to pretend to be something I'm not, and hide my sexuality, but I don't want to just drop my beliefs because I'm gay. I'm too afraid. I keep wondering if maybe all my Christian friends are right.
The only thing I can think of is actually explaining to them that being gay or bisexual isn't the sin, nor is loving someone of the same sex. It's only when you sexually get involved with someone of the same sex, it's classed as a "major sin" (something that is very bad, like blasphemy and even murder) as opposed to a "minor sin" (like just eating too much or drinking too much). Which even then, if you ask for forgiveness then everything is fine. It's personally a horrible system to run by and for a religion that encourages love, it breeds hatred.
It's because of this contradiction, I can't help but think that there may be a God, but it got lost in translation. That the message was broad-casted and then altered to shape the will of men. Such as the homophobic rules in the bible may just be propaganda via folk-devils of the Greeks by the Romans. After all, there is no logical reason why a god would hate people of a certain group who display love in a different way to the majority which that love comes to them naturally and they can not alter. It's like saying no blacks may go into heaven because their skin does not reflect the colour of clouds in the kingdom of Heaven.
I'm just sorry that things are the way they are and you will very likely have to deal with homophobia upon coming out the closet. However, if you do find love in another man, it may be best you do come out.