At 7/4/10 03:13 PM, Scarface wrote:
How could I possible keep up a monogamous relationship if I keep having temptations for people of a gender different than my partner?
Bisexuality doesn't work that way. Heterosexuals contantly have fantasies of people of the opposite gender other than their spouse, but still manage it. The same way straight men give up the hope of screwing porn models and settle for their pretty friend of a friend that they have a lot in common with and fell in love with, bisexuals in monogamous relationship just give up the hope of screwing people of one gender, and people of the second gender that isn't their partner. Which sex a particular individual bisexual ends up with depends entirely on their personal preference, and who they fall in love with/who falls in love with them. Some end up in a heterosexual monogamy, others in homosexual monogamy.
And how can you say you don't believe in bisexuality, when your argument is about bisexual monogamy? Bisexuality exists, you are living proof, if you are as you say. The question isn't wherther bisexuals exists, but can they work in a monogamy. If you are the type with strong libido and high curioisty about both genders, then thne you might have a problem, the same wa a straight, or gay man, or woman with a high libido has trouble with monogamy. I'm pretty sure there are loads of bisexuals in commited monogamous relationships. It's just hard to document, because soociety assumes man+woman=straight, man+man=gay woman+woman=hot... I mean lesbian, while a sneaky bisexuals could lurk in ANY of these combinations.