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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-13 18:10:29 Reply

At 6/13/10 09:18 AM, richard91b wrote: im a total failure with women and i need help i get tongue tied around women and i cant help it

I think your scared to talk to their face, because your so concentrated on their beauty.
Here's a tip whenever you talk to them just stare at their forehead. It will just look like your staring into their eyes.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-14 00:13:18 Reply

Hey- Vincoid:

I would just like to say thank you. Until about a year ago I was completely obsessed with this one girl, almost to point of being like- a stalker. I was on Newgrounds one day and decided to come here for help, and you pretty much told me that I needed to grow up and find someone else. You were so right. Sadly, I didn't grow up in time and she stopped talking to me about a year ago ( I think she might have changed her phone number and everything :/ ). Now, I've completely moved on, and actually have friends- but I think I'll be staying away from relationships until I'm older.

So thank you, for at least trying to talk some sense into me. I just wish that I had behaved differently.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-14 08:08:06 Reply

Hey guys, I come again for advice.

Today I was on Omegle, an anonymous to anonymous chat room. While wading though trolls and pretends, I decided that I shall be a 15 year old girl from New Zealand to see if I could get any lulz to extinguish my boredom.
After some horny males which I brushed off, I met a 15 Chinese girl named Ma Jimu. I thought 'okay whatever' and the conversation went for over an hour. While this time me and her became good friends and she said she was so happy that I was her first foreign friend, gave her my 'alternative' email since she begged.

She said she will mail me often, but I'm not sure if should keep my identity as Katie, the 15 year old from NZ, or my normal 17 year old male in NZ self.
What do I do NG?


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-16 20:58:47 Reply

At 6/14/10 12:13 AM, bgraybr wrote: Hey- Vincoid:

I would just like to say thank you. Until about a year ago I was completely obsessed with this one girl, almost to point of being like- a stalker. I was on Newgrounds one day and decided to come here for help, and you pretty much told me that I needed to grow up and find someone else. You were so right. Sadly, I didn't grow up in time and she stopped talking to me about a year ago ( I think she might have changed her phone number and everything :/ ). Now, I've completely moved on, and actually have friends- but I think I'll be staying away from relationships until I'm older.

So thank you, for at least trying to talk some sense into me. I just wish that I had behaved differently.

You're welcome man. And just remember, what you did wrong yesterday, you can do right today, tomorrow or any other time in the future as long as you want to. The most important factor in changing who you are is willingness. You're on the right track.

As long as you keep in mind that you're doing this for you, to be happy with who you are, you'll be fine. Probably better than fine though, somewhere between great and perfect ;)


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-19 20:05:12 Reply

At 6/16/10 08:58 PM, Vincoid wrote: You're welcome man. And just remember, what you did wrong yesterday, you can do right today, tomorrow or any other time in the future as long as you want to. The most important factor in changing who you are is willingness. You're on the right track.

As long as you keep in mind that you're doing this for you, to be happy with who you are, you'll be fine. Probably better than fine though, somewhere between great and perfect ;)

That makes me feel better, but I don't know...
I just bothers me to know that there's a couple of people out there that absolutely hate me because of my immature, obsessive behavior... I know there's nothing I can do about it now- but I see her in the hallways at school sometimes, and she usually walks as far away from me as possible. It bothers me to know that someone out there hates me that much. I haven't tried to talk to her in almost an entire year- why would she think that I would try now? I just want to show everyone that I've changed...

But maybe the best way to show that is to just act like nothing ever happened- lol.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-20 01:44:13 Reply

At 6/13/10 09:18 AM, richard91b wrote: im a total failure with women and i need help i get tongue tied around women and i cant help it

What you need to do is have more confidence in yourself. It's hard to just get up and talk to girls randomly, I know, but in any given situation (not just with girls) you need to have confidence and just be yourself, and talking to people (and girls) will be much more comfortable for you. Easier said than done, yes, but it's not hard to work on. Just think of it as just talking to another person and try to keep a good conversation.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-27 05:16:28 Reply

i was sent here by my buddies in the general portal.

i like a girl who i'm near certain likes me but we don't mention this to each other ever. we've been friends for years and i'm too nervous to say anything about it. what should i do guys, i've helped my buddies out in these situations but i just don't have the balls to do it in my case


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-27 06:03:41 Reply

I want to ask out a good friend, I'm not one to be scared to ask some one out, but how should I ask her out to just dance.


A lot of people have pictures for their signatures. But that's stupid. I'm not going to do that. That is so 2008. Not even kidding. Jeez, you guys are stoopid.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-06-29 23:13:43 Reply

Bump.


A lot of people have pictures for their signatures. But that's stupid. I'm not going to do that. That is so 2008. Not even kidding. Jeez, you guys are stoopid.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-06 14:40:32 Reply

Does anyone here know how I can have a threesome, or am I going to have to sign up for a porn video?

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-06 18:38:28 Reply

At 6/19/10 08:05 PM, bgraybr wrote: That makes me feel better, but I don't know...
I just bothers me to know that there's a couple of people out there that absolutely hate me because of my immature, obsessive behavior... I know there's nothing I can do about it now- but I see her in the hallways at school sometimes, and she usually walks as far away from me as possible. It bothers me to know that someone out there hates me that much. I haven't tried to talk to her in almost an entire year- why would she think that I would try now? I just want to show everyone that I've changed...

But maybe the best way to show that is to just act like nothing ever happened- lol.

Or you stop caring. Why would you even let it bother you that anyone hates you? Life isn't a contest about whom is liked better. As far as I'm concerned, it's all about how much you like you.
I have people giving me shit about the way I live my life every single day. The reason I don't care is because I live my life the way I do because it makes me happy. The reason some people don't like me has to do with all sorts of things, ranging from not knowing how to deal with someone who understands that certainty does not exist and does everything as it goes to jealousy. The reason that a lot of people do appreciate what I do is that they recognize somewhere deep down that all that matters is how you feel and in particular how you feel about yourself. They don't want to be me, but they want to see themselves in the same way that I see myself. In order to achieve that you need to let go as much as you can any value you attach to the opinion of others about you.
Letting go of everything is very hard and I'm not saying that it's particularly helpful since positive feedback from others feels great and not caring at all kind of sucks as feel neutral quickly declines to feeling like shit, but the most important part is not to let their opinion influence how you act and feel about yourself.

Trying to get people to like you actually creates the opposite effect. Your craving for their approval makes them think of you as weak, while depending on yourself makes them think of you as strong and gets them to appreciate you for being you. Kill your need and you'll gain what you previously wanted. That way you won't be dependant of it but you'll gain all the benefits of having it.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-11 02:13:35 Reply

dear relationship crew,

it has come to my attention thats girls are really really really complicated (well to me anyway) so how do you figure them out?

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-16 14:57:56 Reply

I know this crew hasn't been active lately, but if any of the regulars happen to drop by, I have a really serious problem I need help with. Preferably over PMs.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-16 20:27:36 Reply

I come in need of advice. See I have been talking to this girl for some time but I just don't feel like it's going anywhere. And then just a couple days ago one of my exes texts me and says she is single now and wants to hang out and catch up. Well me and her have a 3 year history eith each other while it's only like 3 months with the other chick. I just would like some guidance of what would be the logical thing to do in this situation cause my head is nothing but cloudy and can't think straight when it comes to that.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-17 04:52:27 Reply

At 7/16/10 08:27 PM, I-Love-Caitlyn wrote: I come in need of advice. See I have been talking to this girl for some time but I just don't feel like it's going anywhere. And then just a couple days ago one of my exes texts me and says she is single now and wants to hang out and catch up. Well me and her have a 3 year history eith each other while it's only like 3 months with the other chick. I just would like some guidance of what would be the logical thing to do in this situation cause my head is nothing but cloudy and can't think straight when it comes to that.

To me this sounds like you're desperate for a girl, any girl for that matter. Why would you even have to choose between the two? Why would you even have to choose one of them in the first place?

Chances are that, seeing as you feel it's not going anywhere with this new girl, it's not going anywhere at all. I usually don't take other people's words about observations like this for granted, but I think you should always trust your gut instinct and go with that. Pursuing this girl would only result in massive amounts of negative energy, ranging from anger to disappointment. In the end you'll feel crappier and have no girl...

As for your ex, getting back in touch with her for me would depend on a number of things. The most important one is how you feel about her. You need to ask yourself if you really want to get back with her or if you simply want a girl in your life and she's your best (and easiest) option right now.
Second, why did you break up? What was it that made your relationship not work? The reason you guys broke up can be a good indicator of whether or not a new relationship would end up in the same way.
If, after this, you decide to still see her in order to pursue anything with her, question her motives. She just came out of another relationship. Why does she want to get back in touch with you right after? Is she looking for a quick lay or for something serious? I'm not saying you should be suspicious of her, but don't walk blindly into something you don't want.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-17 14:11:19 Reply

is it psychotic to stab 30 holes into your ex's bathroom wall ?

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-17 14:38:35 Reply

At 7/17/10 04:52 AM, Vincoid wrote: If, after this, you decide to still see her in order to pursue anything with her, question her motives. She just came out of another relationship. Why does she want to get back in touch with you right after? Is she looking for a quick lay or for something serious? I'm not saying you should be suspicious of her, but don't walk blindly into something you don't want.

Yeah that's what i keep thinking. But I am very aware of everything and also observing all angles of the current situation. And it's really not that i am desperate but i just can't seem to find my way at the moment with all that life is pilling on and having to try to figure all this out at the same time, is rather confusing to say the least. But I do want to get back with my ex but it would take time to rebuild everything with her considering how long we have been broken up. But in any case thanks for the advice Vincoid and any further advice would be greatly appreciated.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-18 04:55:11 Reply

At 7/17/10 02:11 PM, jakkelster wrote: is it psychotic to stab 30 holes into your ex's bathroom wall ?

Only if you're not helping her redecorate.

At 7/17/10 02:38 PM, I-Love-Caitlyn wrote: Yeah that's what i keep thinking. But I am very aware of everything and also observing all angles of the current situation. And it's really not that i am desperate but i just can't seem to find my way at the moment with all that life is pilling on and having to try to figure all this out at the same time, is rather confusing to say the least. But I do want to get back with my ex but it would take time to rebuild everything with her considering how long we have been broken up. But in any case thanks for the advice Vincoid and any further advice would be greatly appreciated.

I get what you're saying, but to me it sounds like getting into a relationship isn't really the answer to what you're looking for. It actually sounds like what's happening is life, and since life is unpredictable and mostly chaotic, you're looking for some stability, some security.
The thing, however, is that a relationship won't help with that. Sure, the great feeling you'll feel will numb out some of the worries you have, but you're going to have to deal with all that life sends your way anyway. What I'm saying is not that you shouldn't get into a relationship, but if you're doing it to find stability, you'll probably end up making it more chaotic, especially in a situation like this where you're getting back with your ex.

What I think you really should do is learn to deal with the insecurities and unpredictability of life. Instead of trying to control your life, let go of all things outside your reach and just go with it. Go with whatever happens and make the most out of every situation.
I believe that we only have control over 2 things; What we do and how we feel. We don't control what others do or what happens to us, but we can take control over how we feel about it. If we try to take control over that which we have no control, we end up feeling like we have no control at all and end up struggling all the time. If you let go of trying to have control, you instead learn how to go with any given situation, thus creating control over your own life.

Besides all of this, I also believe we should always fix our personal life in order to improve our relationships with other people instead of the other way around. Doing so could cause a lot of stress and extra pressure on the relationship since you're not only expecting yourself to feel better because of it, but also expecting her to make you feel better. Putting that kind of responsibility on her is not only unfair, it's most likely going to destroy all feelings she has for you since she can't live up to your expectations.

So try and fix your personal life as much as you can by actually letting go of it. The answers you're looking for can come at any given moment as soon as you let going of trying to find them. Most of the time, the only thing we need is peace of mind so your brain can actually give you an answer to your problems. Stress and all kinds of negative emotions end up clouding our brain and creating an endless cycle in which you only get more stressed out. All you need to do is let go.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-18 15:21:37 Reply

At 7/18/10 04:55 AM, Vincoid wrote:

:. Stress and all kinds of negative emotions end up clouding our brain and creating an endless cycle in which you only get more stressed out. All you need to do is let go.

That makes perfect sense. And I will try to put that plan into action then seem where it takes me and how it effects things. It should all work out for the better but life is unpredictable so there is no way of telling which way it will go. So i will just hope for the best and plan for the worst.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-21 14:47:16 Reply

Dam, I cant belive how long its been since I've been to this crew. Well its probably since I havnt been in a relationship for a while so Iv had nothing to post. Nor have I felt like I could contribute anything since Iv seriously been depressed for a couple of months.

But Im seriously happy that vincoids been here giving amazing advice. Il try to offer my advice too if thats okay, Im sure I can be of great service (once again lol)


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-22 03:42:20 Reply

So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 months, but i cant help but worry way too much about her. She knows how much i worry about us and keeps on saying that i should stop and that everything will be fine, but i find that a bit hard to accept...for a couple of reasons actually:
1. Shes had like 7 boyfriends before that (most of them) havent last more than a few weeks (im her longest, her first make-out, etc.)
2. Shes my first gf and really i've been heartbroken quite a bit before and dont want to be with someone like her
3. Its the summer and we've barely see each other (only been 3 times this entire summer...)
4. Shes in Mexico right now (until the 26th), but apprantly im one of the few people who know.
Is there a way to get rid of thinking like shes going to break up with me?

Also, should i really get involved with her? i mean whenever i always say my gushy romantic stuff (:/), i'm always haunted by the fact that we're only 15 and that we're probably going to break up later on and meet other people and that more i love her the more heartbroken i'm going to end up being in the end. I really love her, but im afraid to be because of that.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-23 15:49:20 Reply

At 6/27/10 05:16 AM, Madnessfreak13 wrote:
i like a girl who i'm near certain likes me but we don't mention this to each other ever. we've been friends for years and i'm too nervous to say anything about it. what should i do guys, i've helped my buddies out in these situations but i just don't have the balls to do it in my case

hey guys help, Please

c'mon i need it and i trust you guys

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-07-23 23:39:41 Reply

At 7/22/10 03:42 AM, PWN411N00BS12 wrote: So me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 months, but i cant help but worry way too much about her. She knows how much i worry about us and keeps on saying that i should stop and that everything will be fine, but i find that a bit hard to accept...for a couple of reasons actually:

You should listen to yourself and your girlfriend. You admit that you worry too much, the problem is that you also believe you can't help it. This is where you're wrong. Obviously you wouldn't have come here and ask for help if you truly believed that you are beyond help. The reason you should listen to your girlfriend is simple; she's telling you to do what you deep down know is the right thing to do. She gets you on a level that you can't comprehend and trusts that you, with her guidance, will find your way. Besides that, she also obviously has trust that you will, which would be odd for a girl that wants to dump you since they really don't care much about you.

I think you know what your problem is and that you simply do not know how to solve it. I also think that I can provide you with a solution. First, let's take a look at your first problem by going through the reasons you give below.

1. Shes had like 7 boyfriends before that (most of them) havent last more than a few weeks (im her longest, her first make-out, etc.)

What you just said is that you are in every way different from her previous boyfriends. She has stayed with you longer, she found you worthy (or hot) enough to make out with you, etc. If you are in every way different from the guys she dumped, why worry about suffering the same fate? You should be proud of having been better than all of those before you.

2. Shes my first gf and really i've been heartbroken quite a bit before and dont want to be with someone like her

Do you know how fear of dogs works? People say that dogs smell fear. Part of that is true since we emit pheromones when we're afraid that dogs can smell. The other part is that dogs read body language and recognizes fear. The way dogs react to this fear is the way it expects you to react, namely to defend itself by attacking you. Fear of dogs is thus basicly an endless cycle which ends with you evoking that which you are afraid of.
The solution to this problem is simple, namely not being afraid of dogs. That way you don't threaten the dog and it won't feel like it should attack you.

The reason I'm telling you this is because people are similar. When you are afraid your relationship will end, you'll do all kinds of things that will deteriorate the quality of the relationship. Eventually this will all build up and evoke a reaction from your partner. This reaction is similar to that of the dog; she will do exactly that which you are afraid of.
If you instead have no fear of your partner leaving you, you will, just like the situation with the dog, be able to do whatever you want without evoking your previously feared reaction.

If you fear she'll break up, your actions will eventually get her to do so.
If you fear that you'll be hurt by the relationship ending, it will.
If you have confidence in the relationship and that you'll handle whatever happens, you will handle it.

3. Its the summer and we've barely see each other (only been 3 times this entire summer...)
4. Shes in Mexico right now (until the 26th), but apprantly im one of the few people who know.

Again, you're the odd one out here. And in contrary to most situations, you're actually on the side of the people she trusts. Doesn't sound like a bad thing, does it?

Also, it's not really about how often you see each other, it's about the quality of the time that you share. It's about making the most of that time. You also need to realize that she has a life of her own, and in contrary to what you might think, it's for the best that there are things more important to her than you.

Is there a way to get rid of thinking like shes going to break up with me?

There are several. The first way is by getting rid of your first problem, namely thinking too much about the wrong stuff. Your mind is set to doom scenario mode and turns any information into something negative without looking at it in more detail. As I've shown you, the reason you gave are actually all positives and aren't even close to meaning she'll dump you.
Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively, start questioning yourself. Ask yourself if it's really all that bad or if you're overreacting.

Secondly, call yourself on it. If you find yourself thinking that she'll dump you or anything along that line, stop what you're doing. Actually say (or think, if that feel betters) to yourself to stop. Say: "habbi! Everything is going perfectly fine. Whatever happens, I'll handle it, learn from it and grow from it".
By doing this, you create a feeling of control over what you feel and interrupt your bad habit. Doing this is crucial since it's the only way to erase that habit completely. By saying to yourself what I just said, you'll not only erase the bad habit, you'll replace it with a new healthy one. This habit will shift your mind to a constructive way of thinking whenever something "bad" happens. Then you'll find that which you previously feared was either not to be feared at all or is actually a pretty valuable lesson to you.


Also, should i really get involved with her? i mean whenever i always say my gushy romantic stuff (:/), i'm always haunted by the fact that we're only 15 and that we're probably going to break up later on and meet other people and that more i love her the more heartbroken i'm going to end up being in the end. I really love her, but im afraid to be because of that.

The truth is that you most likely will break up at some point and that you will meet new people. The truth is also that you will move on and love other people. The truth is that life will always hurt at some times. The truth is also that it will feel great at some times. The big difference is you. You have the control to decided what to do when these things happen. Do you choose to experience breaking up as a bad thing or as an opportunity to use what you've learned in another amazing relationship and simple appreciate all you've been through with her?

Appreciate what you have today and realize, but do not fear, that it may be gone tomorrow. It's nothing but realistic to accept the fact that things do not always go as we want them to. However, it is foolish to ignore what we have today because we fear that it may be gone tomorrow. That way we don't really have it at all.

At 7/23/10 03:49 PM, Madnessfreak13 wrote:
At 6/27/10 05:16 AM, Madnessfreak13 wrote:
i like a girl who i'm near certain likes me but we don't mention this to each other ever. we've been friends for years and i'm too nervous to say anything about it. what should i do guys, i've helped my buddies out in these situations but i just don't have the balls to do it in my case
hey guys help, Please

c'mon i need it and i trust you guys

Trust yourself, rely on yourself, not us. If you don't have the balls to do what you tell others to do, you won't have the balls to do what any of us will tell you. None of us will be able to magically give you a pair. Only one person can do that and that is you. And the only way to do that is by doing that which you know you should be doing.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-01 06:31:24 Reply

At 7/23/10 03:49 PM, Madnessfreak13 wrote:
At 6/27/10 05:16 AM, Madnessfreak13 wrote:
i like a girl who i'm near certain likes me but we don't mention this to each other ever. we've been friends for years and i'm too nervous to say anything about it. what should i do guys, i've helped my buddies out in these situations but i just don't have the balls to do it in my case
hey guys help, Please

c'mon i need it and i trust you guys

Alright, you can actually try teasing her for a few days. If she gives you a positive response means her door is still opened. One good method you can try is to "push and pull" i.e. to tease her and compliment her, tease her, compliment her. Wash rinse repeat.

If she doesn't tease you back or anything, that means its a neg response, which means her door is closed and your relationship with her will be "friends only". Go try again and post out the result. Good luck mate ;)

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-02 20:33:34 Reply

Wow, I haven't been here in ages. Life is good. I have a shit ton of prospects, and to be honest I should have serious girlfriend by 2nd semster. Anyways, that's besides the point. Has anybody here been to Warped Tour? And if so, is it a good place to hook up with chicks? Just wondering.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-11 15:37:53 Reply

Hi,
Well anyways this girl started talking to me on facebook. She lives about an hour or so away from me and shit but thats beside the point. Well anyways she asked me for my number and I gave it to her thinking nothing of it. Then she starts asking me all these weird questions such as "Are you a virgin ;)" after that it was apparent she wanted my balls. And after that she started talking about her feelings and she said she was suicidal and shit. So I was like fuck. I asked my friend what to do he said just play along. So I did. I wish I didn't. She starts telling me all this sexual stuff she wants to do to me. The next day I was at my friends house and I recalled her talking about her past boyfriend who asked for nudes then left her. So I thought maybe she would think I was the creep if I asked for nudes (she was like I'm never doing that again :C) and acted like a total dick to her. That did not work in the slightest. It made her like me more. Last night I turn on my phone to find 7 new texts from her. Then I go on facebook and I have 2 messages from her. Since then I have been ignoring her. But she still pesters me even when I do that. What do I do? I just want her to go away.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-12 05:06:53 Reply

So guys, I've recently been presented single thanks to a boyfriend who's cheated on me and is still talking to that very person behind my back.

I've been out of the dating game for 6 years. I've had suitors along the way but I've always turned them down because I was taken.

I'm scared of being alone but I can't be with someone that's going to lie and break promises every time this girl contacts him. I've already given him a second chance and he blew it.

How do I get back into the dating game?
I don't like being single and I don't want to "enjoy" the single life?


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-12 06:17:15 Reply

At 8/11/10 03:37 PM, Iseewhatyoudidthar wrote: Well anyways this girl started talking to me on facebook.

It may sound cruel, and blatantly rude - but you need to get it through to this girl. Initially you need to outright tell her your not interested at all. Dont exactly insult her, but make it firm enough for her to get the point. hen eventually you two will continue talking more rarely, as friends. Thats your best bet. Firm, somewhat rude, but not outright mean. Some girls need it that way, or they get caught up.

Its the nicer alternative. For a girl like that, your next best bet is the block button.

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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-15 23:50:04 Reply

At 8/12/10 05:06 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: How do I get back into the dating game?
I don't like being single and I don't want to "enjoy" the single life?

I hate to break this to you, but part of it might be to enjoy the single life. I've dealt with a kind of big breakup before (a little over a year, and I truly did love her), and part of getting over it/ getting back into it is to enjoy being with yourself. Take the time to do things you couldn't do in a relationship. Go out with your friends. Listen to something new. Be yourself. If you can't be happy by yourself, then it's hard to truly be happy with someone else. You may not like being single at first, but it's not a good idea to jump into a relationship again so soon. Maybe the best thing in your situation after being in such a long relationship is to be by yourself.

And trust me, I know this is going to be hard to just "do." I didn't hear this from some psychologist or Dr. Phil or anything; this is something I just experienced on my own. It really is easier said than done, because this is a really hard time for you. I've been there. A lot of other people have too. I know plenty myself. It may take months for you to find someone else. In fact, it's when you aren't looking for someone is when you find them.

Take my advice however you will, but this is just how I dealt with the same thing.


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Response to Relationship Crew 2010-08-31 02:17:03 Reply

Hey I like a girl that i've liked for almost a year which i guess isn't much but as i started to try harder, she got back with her old boyfriend (this was a few months back) and now i'm still into her, while she's taken.
I'm okay friends with her current boyfriend as we're all in the same group of friends, but he's a lot more attractive and muscular than me, and if i pissed him off, he could/maybe would do some serious damage to me.

i dont wanna break them up because theyre both happy, i dont have the right, i dont think i could even if i did want to, and i would get hurt badly.

TLDR -
like girl
shes taken
im sad
wat do