At 2/24/08 03:37 AM, smth wrote:
ive read alot of these posts being in here and if i can post just some general advise in here its that most relationships are all give and take.
I'm just gonna mess up your post here and tell what is true and what is not.
i hear alot of "dont be her slave" or what ever. its ok to meet the needs of the girl your with. but she also needs to take care of you. its really all about comunication. the biggest thing you could do wrong in a relationship is to assume. you can spend years inside a femals mind and still have no fuckin clue what the hell shes gonna feel next. so ask. and you gotta tell her how you feel too. cuase females like to say they have us figured out but guess what they probably dont. you guys have to relay to eachother what you want and what your looking for in your relationships.
You really have no idea right? "cuase females like to say they have us figured out", are you serious? If a girl tells you that she has figured you out, guess what happens? There is no challenge anymore. She doesn't want a guy who she has figured out. She wants mystery, not boredom.
A woman telling you that she has you figured out, is actually the worst thing to hear. Hear that and you're done.
Guys tend to have this idea in their heads: if I tell a girl how I feel, she will hear that and understand it, and thus feel the same for me. Guess what? That's logic. Men use logic, women use their feelings. And telling your feelings to a girl, will make her feelings go: "Ewww, get the fuck away you wussy!".
Sure, when you're in an actual relationship, things are different. You can tell a girl that you love her. But don't do it all the time, and only say it when you want to, not when she says it first. And don't go in depth about your feelings, women are women still when you are in a relationship with them, and women want to relax with you, have a good time, not the dramatic wussy.
Yes, it's ok to meet the needs of the girl you're with. The catch here though, is that you are talking about different needs than I am. I am talking about needs that she will find in your persona, not in material.
I'm talking about needs like: a man who is on his purpose and his path, a man who she can feel safe with, a man who is relaxed and thus makes her relaxed, a man who is funny, a man is always himself, a man with high status, a man who is in control of his emotions.
That are the needs women have.
another thing ive seen in this forum is people are worrying about weather or not there gonna get laid, lucky or what ever. never worry about that if you constantly think about whats the best way to get in her pant it wont happen. if you just wait for it and look for the right signals then it will happen but dont go looking for it. most likely the girl will initiate. or shell drop hints about how she likes it when guys make the first move in which case its all about timing.
True: don't worry about it, it's not the most important thing there is.
False: Just wait.
YOU are the one to create the sexual tension. If she initiates, it's because you build up the sexual tension in a way that makes her throw herself at you. It's not at all about who initiates, it's only about sexual tension.
some other general advice i can give is you guys gotta know when enough is enough. you break up with a girl thats it, done, finito. dont wait for girls to come back to you. move on. find something else. because once you do the girl always relizes what she had when she lost it and of course shes gonna come back. shes jelouse cause her little game didnt work. you dont find that later on in life. thats really i high school thing or a middle school thing. but even if you are in those grades you have plenty of fish in that ocean just move on. leave it alone.
Truth, with a hint of B.S. You should indeed move on. And yes, they might indeed come back. In fact, getting back with an ex, this is the only way. To just move on. BUT, the bullshit part is this: 'it's a high school thing'. This is something that is always going on, whatever the age is. Why? Because it's something females do. Are they suddenly not females anymore when they leave high school? No, of course not.
Just move on, and everything will be fine. You'll either get back with your ex, or you'll meet someone else. Looks like a win-win to me.
if you want to get a girl just be yourself. be "the friend" girls really like that security of being able to tell you anything and everything. if your nice and not a dick and make it seem like all your looking for is the puss and your billy badass with a twelve inch dick then the girls will come to you. youll come to relize that you hang out with alot of girls. from then on you just pic one. take them to the movies. buy them what they want. take them to a fun dinner. none of this has to be expensive but fun make her feel good about herself. once you do that your in like flin.
Dude, you really don't know shit about women, and this part proves it. Being 'the friend' with women will only make them look at you as a friend. You're not going to be able to get with them once they qualify you as a friend.
Any idea why women usually go for the bad boy instead of the nice guy? Because they don't want a wussy who they talk with about their feelings, but a man who does his own thing and couldn't care less.
Please, stop talking about what girls want, because you really don;t know anything about it. Seriously, that part about buying a girl anything is like THE BIGGEST BULLSHIT I'VE EVER HEARD!!!
What you're telling here, as 'general tips' is exactly why 99.9% of men around the world fail to get the girl they really want. You basicly telling us what your mom tought you. And guess what? What your mom tought you is what will work when you're married for 50 years, not if you want to get a hot chick.
its always all about the girl. no matter what. and if you remember that youll benifit cause if you take care of her then shell take care of you. show the girls that shivalry is nbot dead. be a gentalmen because all girls are looking for that. they want that perfect gentalmen who they can bring home to there perents and not hide them. youll always find better results that way.
Translation for this part: Be the guy who your mom tought you to be, instead of being yourself like I tried to say in the previous part.
It's not always about the girl. It's about you. It's about you enjoying yourself. It's about you being the man she wants, instead of you trying to be the man who you think she wants.
Women find it more attractive if the guy they're with doesn't give a shit about what her parents think of him, instead of one who her parents 'approve' of.
And yeah, be a gentlemen. But guess what the real meaning of the word gentlemen is: "a man of good social position esp. of wealth and leisure". Translation: a man with high social status.
The meaning of the word gentlemen has been fucked in the past decades, and now, to the wusses of our society, it means that you are a nice guy.
Here are two saying I really like:
Nice guys finish last,
No nice deed goes unpunished.
So please, smth, stop writing this crap, you're only making things worse.
At 2/24/08 04:06 AM, Black-Lightning wrote:
According to Ember, she said she'd rather have me be like her one ex who hit her with a skateboard rather than what I did today. She's fucking retarded. She's talking about how she won't ever come back, so I just said 'Don't text me anymore' I wanna text her, but I won't. If it's meant to be, it'll happen, if not, I'll just focus on running =]
She's not fucking retarded. Sure, what she says sound crazy, but her emotions have higher value to her than her physical feelings. And since you simply destroyed all attraction there was, you are indeed a lot worse to her than the skateboard guy.
And please, don't wait, just start running already. Don't cling to this one girl. She's not special, and certainly not 'the One'. Move on, think 'NEXT'.
And if you're not a pretty guy, like smth said, you can still get girls. Looks don't matter, creating attraction does.