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Hey guys, I usually pop up sometimes...

See, I've been with this girl for a while... We had everything in common and everything, and right now, I think I feel the other side of me showed up.

See, we haven't dated and anything... She keeps in contact with her ex boyfriend which made me very uncomfortable. She BROUGHT the fucker over... She WAS FUCKING MESSING WITH THE FUCK! I got pissed, she started to tear up. You see, here's one lesson, it's a BAD IDEA to be with a girl who keeps in contact with her ex boyfriend!

If you don't trust her that she just says, "we're just friends.." Forget that shit. If her ex brings her roses, he still gets his chance, a open door way.

Haha, today I finally told her I couldn't trust her. Because for one reason, her ex boyfriend. I didn't like it, she refused to stop to keep in contact with him! So, remember, no matter how you like this girl, you need to make yourself happy first!

So, did I do something right? For myself? Her?

Oh, me and her made it official that we're a couple... But it was a crooked relationship matter in fact. No sense whatsoever...

I still don't know if it's over or not, I need to talk to her to make sure it is or not...

At 10/28/09 03:48 PM, Spaghetti14 wrote:

Even if you like someone, you don't kiss their hand if they have a boyfriend already.

Because they must have a perfect relationship already, obviously,

Well even if it's not a perfect relationship, it's not your place to say.

There's no "law" that says I can't have my own opinion and my decision to do something. Of course it wasn't the most moral thing to do, but you can't always just do what is "expected" of you.

For one, barely any people kiss hands anymore, so it's a little odd.

Apparently not, otherwise you wouldn't be in this situation.

So if she thought it was cute, it would be a different story? No, it wouldn't. Everyone I've talked to, as in, all my friends, said it was a cute move. And it was. Kissing someone on the hand is cute, whether or not you think so. Just because she doesn't like me doesn't mean the action in itself wasn't a good one.

I don't do something about it though, especially when they already have a significant other.
If I were to like someone in a relationship, I'll wait and see if the relationship they are in works out, and if not, then you can go from there.

It's been 2 years, there's no "waiting" to be done. I did what I did to figure it out. To see if she liked me and was in a shit relationship or not, and I don't regret finding out. Otherwise I'd be stuck thinking "what if"?

On the flipside...So I kind of know what you're going/what you went through..

And listen to Knorpfdog, he has good advice. I WAS just trying to empathize with you, you don't have to be insulting me just because your situation didn't work out. You're being unnecessarily hostile here, because of your own failures. So stop calling me out on mine because you're too insecure about your own.
Obviously, if you had done things right, you wouldn't be here complaining about it.

I'd being "hostile" because you're all being pricks. The same way Vincoid was a prick to me before. You guys think that because some poor 15 year old saps come in here looking for advice that you're the oh-so-wise GOD and that you know what's right. That's shown especially in you, when you say that "if you had done things right, it would have been different". That pisses me off, because it has nothing to do with what I did. It's not as if I had made the "right" move she would have fallen for me. There was no "right move" there was only: Find out or Don't find out. I chose to make a move and find out.
Just because you think it would have been a better idea to do nothing instead and just sit on your hands, doesn't mean I agree. I didn't come here asking "What did I do wrong? Ok now tell me I'm a failure"
I wanted to know how I should respond, and what I should do. But you guys didn't reply for 2 days (and yet "teenhut.com" replied faster) and things already developed. I don't expect you to be on time, I expect you to not be assholes. But I guess I expected too much.

I can't speak for anyone but myself when I say this, but I'm not being a prick. I'm honestly trying to help you out here. If you don't want to listen to my advice then that's your decision, I won't lose any sleep over it. All I'm saying is that pursuing a taken girl is going to cause a lot of sweat, blood, and tears, and it's not worth it 100% of the time, in my honest opinion. Like I said, she's with her current boyfriend for a reason. You didn't have to make a move to find out if she'd "go for it" or not, you should've been able to pick up on that just from the situation she's already in :P.

I think you should reread your last reply. It seems to me (and I very well might be wrong) that you have a lot of anger as well as a whole slew of other emotions bottled up inside you, and I'm being honest when I say that I firmly believe you should learn how to control your emotions before pursuing any kind of relationship at all. Like I said, read any one of the long-ass posts made by Vincoid. He wasn't being a prick to you, and he's the only guy around here that actually knows exactly what the hell he's talking about. He's helped me out a lot in the past, so I try to further spread the knowledge he's given me by helping other guys out.

Once more, it's your loss if you don't want to listen to what we have to say. Don't come in here looking for a fight though. We're not here to piss you off.

Update sort of kind of? I need advice though. On Saturday night I asked a boy if we were still going to the movies, because we were going to go see a movie. And he said, No probably not, sorry. but the week of the 7th my family's outta town, we could hang out then. I said, "Yeah, sure that sounds great." But then he asked if I wanted to swap pictures. I said something like, "Not before the first date... or some form of that. I don't recall. But then he said, "Maybe if you send that picture we'll go on that first date ; ) I replied, sorry that's not the way this game works, in which he asked how does it work? So I told him, I'm not easy. And he understood that and asked what type of pictures I thought he was talking about so I told him, "Well most guys don't want to exchange pictures of each others face's.... And he said, Thanks for making me a stereotype, but then again you never asked. I replied to him: I wasn't purposefully stereotyping you. I was just looking out for myself. And I apologize and you definitely gained my respect. And he replied: that's okay and thanks and yea that's smart. And I totally understand about looking out for yourself."

And I haven't talked to him since. But what I'm asking is, what should I do next? I still like him, and I think I've gotten really far, and I don't want to quit.

HOLD ON

i just had a fucking ground breaking idea for all you people... get of the fucking computer and go out and experience life PLEASE i guarantee you will thank me later

At 10/29/09 10:07 PM, Knorpfdog wrote: I can't speak for anyone but myself when I say this, but I'm not being a prick.
...
We're not here to piss you off.

I cannot rephrase what he said more perfectly, especially the part about the pent up emotion.
It really seems like you have more that you aren't saying, or that it's really bothering you, or SOMETHING, because you're being very intense about all this.

At 10/29/09 08:04 PM, TheWolfe wrote: I'm being "hostile" because you're all being pricks.

Well that's nice of you to say. I don't think we're being pricks, we're trying to help, honestly.

The same way Vincoid was a prick to me before.

He was also helpful.

You guys think that because some poor 15 year old saps come in here looking for advice that you're the oh-so-wise GOD and that you know what's right.

Nobody ever said that, but just because you don't hear what you want, doesn't mean you have to pin who's doing what wrong on US. You're dealing with your stress via projection and displacement, two unhealthy coping methods. If you're just some 17 year old guy, according to your userpage, then you're not really any more special than some 15 year old sap.

We're both basically in the same boat, you've just been in it longer. Not that it helps, apparently. I never said I was a god at this or anything, but you asked for advice/input, and that's what you're receiving.

That's shown especially in you, when you say that "if you had done things right, it would have been different". That pisses me off, because it has nothing to do with what I did. It's not as if I had made the "right" move she would have fallen for me. There was no "right move" there was only: Find out or Don't find out. I chose to make a move and find out.

Alright fine, but this is where I'd bring in Knorpfdog's "Like I said, she's with her current boyfriend for a reason. You didn't have to make a move to find out if she'd "go for it" or not, you should've been able to pick up on that just from the situation she's already in :P."
It's not that hard to figure out what's going on.

It's been 2 years, there's no "waiting" to be done

So you think she's obviously unhappy after being seemingly happy in a long term relationship? What made you think she liked you instead of her boyfriend? Is it because you hung out together? Well whoopee, I've hung out with taken girls before. I'm not bragging, I'm just saying, it's not like it makes you a "thing" or a possible "thing" really.

It seems like you might be one of those types of people, who does the sort of thing where they're like "Oh, that girl is smiling at me! She must really like me!".
Not obviously that same thought process or to the same blunt extremity, but something similar, if you catch my drift.

Just because you think it would have been a better idea to do nothing instead and just sit on your hands, doesn't mean I agree. I didn't come here asking "What did I do wrong? Ok now tell me I'm a failure"

You said "Well, what do you think? What should I say?"
I told you what I thought about it and what I thought you should say. I answered your questions. And I never called you a failure, I'm saying that maybe your decisions weren't the best overall. And that's my entitled opinion.

But you guys didn't reply for 2 days (and yet "teenhut.com" replied faster) and things already developed. I don't expect you to be on time, I expect you to not be assholes. But I guess I expected too much.

Oh waah, be a drama queen about it. Because the first thing I do when I log on to my computer every day is to go to Newgrounds.com and see if I can perfectly time a reply to a post in a thread that gets updated every few days. Sorry for not instantly replying to every post in here.
And I admit that I may be a bit harsher on you than Knorpfdog, because he can put my advice to you in a more clear well thought out and well, nicer way than I can. But overall, we're both just trying to help..

Again, I encourage you to read Knorpfdog's posts again once over, and then read Vincoids.

Have a tea.
Watch some sunday afternoon television.
Chill out.

At 10/30/09 11:06 PM, Bruise wrote: Big lecture.

Yeahh, this is my friend's account that I was accidentally on, so pay no attention to the username.
That big rant/lecture/tyrade of inspiration and happiness was from me.

If a relationship becomes pretty predictable after 10 months, is that a bad thing?

Never knew this club existed. Novel idea.

I went to a Halloween kegger tonight and made a bunch of drunken texts to this girl I was pretty intimate with, though she "sort of has a boyfriend" - her words. I have the feeling I'm going to wake up in the morning thinking; what the fuck did I do, but I figure it's better to take the chance and gamble on something that's important to you, opposed to suffering in silence. No one ever accomplished anything, doing nothing. Learn from my pathetic-ness if you are ever in a similar situation, the worst thing that can happen is she says no.

At 10/30/09 11:19 PM, Jawdyn wrote: If a relationship becomes pretty predictable after 10 months, is that a bad thing?

Predictability, in the long run, equates boredom. So it's not a good thing, although I'd need more details to know exactly what you mean.

At 10/31/09 02:33 AM, EternitySpent wrote: but I figure it's better to take the chance and gamble on something that's important to you, opposed to suffering in silence. No one ever accomplished anything, doing nothing. Learn from my pathetic-ness if you are ever in a similar situation, the worst thing that can happen is she says no.

Get rid of the "learn from my pathetic-ness" and you have yourself a good attitude here.

sorry for double post :P

So i like this Gothic Girl and she likes me but like its so hard to starte a conversation with her can any of you give me advice on how to starte a conversation? (We are really good friends right now). I always think about her though i really like her :D

At 11/1/09 04:33 PM, iwantbrainz wrote: So i like this Gothic Girl and she likes me but like its so hard to starte a conversation with her can any of you give me advice on how to starte a conversation? (We are really good friends right now). I always think about her though i really like her :D

Dude... Make your conversation real, don't talk to her for the sake of talking. You shouldn't be like "I like this person, what can I talk to her about?" You should be like "I wonder what this person thinks about fighting zombies, I should talk to her."
Zombie fighting isn't usually a good topic, but it should be something that you both actually want to talk about. Ask her what she wants to do when she gets out of school maybe?

Also, the fact that you reference her as "this gothic girl" raises a few warning flags. Be sure you're getting to know the person behind the goth, she is unique, she is an individual, you should get to know the person behind the trends.

Dude... Make your conversation real, don't talk to her for the sake of talking. You shouldn't be like "I like this person, what can I talk to her about?" You should be like "I wonder what this person thinks about fighting zombies, I should talk to her."

I know alot about her i guess but everytime i talk to her i cant help but to think of what to talk about is that normal for someone to do that?

At 11/1/09 05:44 PM, iwantbrainz wrote: I know alot about her i guess but everytime i talk to her i cant help but to think of what to talk about is that normal for someone to do that?

Yeah that's normal. I used to do that all the time, and I still do it every now and then. Try not to think about it so hard. Live in the moment and take things as they come. Try not to plan conversation topics. Its good to think about the things you're doing, but an important part of interacting with this person is going to be spontaneity-- just flowing with it.

Also, if you feel like you're having a hard time talking to her, spend some time away from her, sometime it's really healthy to spend a day or so away from someone so you don't get stuck in a rut. Don't be a jerk about it or avoid her, but don't go out of your way to find her either. Let nature take its course and you'll have things to talk about.

Hey, while you're away from her you could go on an adventure and tell her about it when you get back. Maybe even bring her some treasure.... like a cool stick... or a lucky bottle cap.

At 11/1/09 05:51 PM, sumguy720 wrote:

At 11/1/09 05:44 PM, iwantbrainz wrote: I know alot about her i guess but everytime i talk to her i cant help but to think of what to talk about is that normal for someone to do that?

Yeah that's normal. I used to do that all the time, and I still do it every now and then. Try not to think about it so hard. Live in the moment and take things as they come. Try not to plan conversation topics. Its good to think about the things you're doing, but an important part of interacting with this person is going to be spontaneity-- just flowing with it.

Also, if you feel like you're having a hard time talking to her, spend some time away from her, sometime it's really healthy to spend a day or so away from someone so you don't get stuck in a rut. Don't be a jerk about it or avoid her, but don't go out of your way to find her either. Let nature take its course and you'll have things to talk about.

Hey, while you're away from her you could go on an adventure and tell her about it when you get back. Maybe even bring her some treasure.... like a cool stick... or a lucky bottle cap.

Thank you man you have my debt if you want anything done ill do it for you except for like sending you money cause thats like out of my power, but if its like asking me to sign a petition or sign up for a site you own ill do it :D

So last year I had a class with my best friend chris's girlfriend, and she was really sociable to me. She finally gave me her number and we called each other and literally talked for hours. On a friday she convinced me to go over to her house. Her mom picked me up, we grabbed long john silvers and took it home. We ate and talked for a bit then she asked me if I wanted to watch a movie. We chose the village of the damned, and now that I think about it I bet she chose it so she could act all scared. We went into her room, door closed and lights out, and watched the movie. About 5 minutes in she grabbed my arm and wrapped it around her shoulder. I started freaking out thinking about chris. She told me my hands were cold and I'm not even sure how it happened but my hand ended up down her shirt and bra. She giggled and very softly kissed my cheek, by now I had forgotten all about chris. She hand one hand on my leg VERY close to my package gently rubbing my thigh. She whispered in my ear to let her take my hand. I knew I was turned on and so did she. Both our hands ran down my chest and slid into my pants. The palm of my hand was on the back of hers, and I wrapped her hand around it. She continued and asked me if I'd do the same to her. I reached down her pants and started fingering her. When we both finished we just laid there holding each other. It had only been dark for a while and she convinced me to watch twilight with her.

The next day at school my friend max, who hated chris, told him. Chris acted cool about it all day until the final bell rang. I was at my locker and he came up behind me and pushed me into my locker hitting my head on the door. Max pulled chris back and told him to calm down. I regained myself and with all the strength I could muster I punched chris in the face, later to find out I broke his nose. The girl, angela, saw it and screamed for us to stop fighting. We didn't get in trouble for the fight because no one told the staff about it.

This year(freshman year) is so much different now, max is my best friend now and I never talk to chris. Angela had been dating me until the beginning of the year and told me she wanted me to take her, as in have sex with her.

I don't know what to do, I just don't.

I don't know what to do, I just don't.

Just discard chris and fuck angela i would do that shitt

At 11/1/09 10:08 PM, lilscientist wrote: I don't know what to do, I just don't.

Dude you gotta stop that shit. Think about it, if she was with Chris and she cheated on him with you, what's going to keep her from cheating on you with someone else? Why do you even like each other? You can't seriously consider being in a relationship with someone without being able to maintain a really good non-physical friendship with them before hand. Clearly you haven't had the time or the patience to really get to know this girl, and if you continue down this path you're just going to end up losing the people who are really going to be there for you for the rest of your life.

My advice, abandon this relationship with... an..gela.... with angela, and make up with chris. You've lost your head.
I know you've already decided what you want to do.
You know it's not right.
The question now isn't should you do it, but Will you do it?
You're in control of your life man, not me or her, or anyone else.

Dear Crew,

I have this problem of not being able to "stay" friends with almost any particular girl, I always try and force myself into somehow bringing it up to a relationship of some sort, and then it completly fizzles, without anything, get depressed, and then I lose a friend, I guess this is just how I am, I have no idea, I always here about this "friend zone" but how do I go about all this shit, Should I ask someone how it all works? damn im clueless, Is it always that the boy goes after the girl? Or is it just my case?

I'm not really in the crew I guess, other than the fact that I've been posting here, but uh...

"I always try and force myself into somehow bringing it up to a relationship of some sort"

There are a few things you should know about relationships that most people don't know. First of all, a friendship is a relationship, and it's the most legitimate type of relationship to boot. I think when you say "bringing it up to a relationship" you mean somehow changing the real relationship you have with the girl to an artificial kind of relationship that's more about hugging, kissing and cuddling with each other than anything else. That's not how it works, man. Pushing a relationship like that totally nullifies anything real you had with the person. At the same time though, take a look around and that's how everyone is trying to do it.

Really if you want to hook a girl you have to get to know her really well. A relationship starts off slowly, usually, unless you get along really really well with a person all the time. You've got to let it evolve naturally and let your relationship grow-- kinda like a tree... if you try to climb it the second it sprouts out of the ground you'll crush it. Let it grow, become stronger, make sure it's the right one for you.

If you can see a hard line between "we were friends" and "we're going out" you're not going to have a secure or strong relationship (of course, there are always exceptions, but most generally this is absolutely true) with the girl. Try staying friends with them. Get to know them better, hang out with them, but don't make sudden moves to romance. Find someone you absolutely like.

Here's the shitty part nobody likes: The shortest time you can expect this to happen in is like two months. The longest time span for me has been four years. But damn, those were two good relationships, and I'm still best friends with the girls. It's a win win. win.

win.
Hey can I join the crew?

Ok you guys, I could really use your help right now.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we currently live at our parents houses. We both work at night and go to college in the morning. We both have Tues/Thurs off and that's when we see each other.

I've been very sick since Thursday and during the days I was home sick, I started thinking about our relationship. I realized I'm bored and don't see myself (anymore at least) marrying or having children with him because along with Cali being an expensive state, we don't make alot together and he's not good at saving. I can't even remember last we had fantastic sex. I almost feel like he's just a really good and close friend and not the boyfriend I need and love right now.

Also, I'm starting to get annoyed at the distance. When we first started going out, he lived maybe 10 minutes away, super easy for us to see each other. Then he moved to where I have to drive on the freeway for awhile, maybe 20 minutes as good speed to see him. Then he moved again, even further this time to where it's almost half an hour and the driving is quite annoying. Now he's moving again, and it's even further. I've never driven there yet but I'm annoyed because it's alot of driving vise versa. I wish he lived near me so we could easily see each other between work and school or what not, not only on our days off.

I told him how I feel and he's upset about it and thinks it's financially and blah blah blah. I thought about breaking up with him and for the first half of the day, I felt empowered and that I was starting anew. Then this feeling sets in of emptiness. That I'm scared I'm going to be single and that I'll have to find someone new and get to know them. Then I also realize how much I'll miss him.

I don't know if it's addiction, love, or just fear because of how long we've been together. I am scared that maybe he'll call it quits and agree with me yet at the same time, I'm sick and tired of the same routine every week that never changes. I'm having an extreme influx of mixed feelings and I would love for you guys to give me opinions.

At 11/5/09 01:58 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: I told him how I feel and he's upset about it and thinks it's financially and blah blah blah. I thought about breaking up with him and for the first half of the day, I felt empowered and that I was starting anew. Then this feeling sets in of emptiness. That I'm scared I'm going to be single and that I'll have to find someone new and get to know them. Then I also realize how much I'll miss him.

I don't know if it's addiction, love, or just fear because of how long we've been together. I am scared that maybe he'll call it quits and agree with me yet at the same time, I'm sick and tired of the same routine every week that never changes. I'm having an extreme influx of mixed feelings and I would love for you guys to give me opinions.

Leaving someone is almost never easy, especially when you have such a long history together and there are still feelings left. Then again, making relationships work isn't that easy either.
What I think is the most important reason to stay in a relationship is love or the possibility of love. A lot of people who are in a crappy relationship start to blame their partner for not being who they want them to be. This causes them to shut their own hearts for the feelings they expect from the other. So what's most important to remember before leaving any relationship is to see how much you can do about it.
For instance, opening your heart to your partner invites him to do the same to you. It might not get him to do so but at least you've tried and you'll know what you're up against. All you basicly can do is become the most loving person you can be and hope to other will be too. If not, it's time to move on and find someone who is.

Now, as for leaving, it's important to understand why you want to leave (or stay). If there is no (returned) love in the relationship and it's making you unhappy then that's all the reason you need to leave. But if you decide to stay it's best to know why. If it is because you think there is a way to work things out, then try to do so. Become as loving as you can, discuss things with your partner and try to work it all out. But if it still doesn't work out after that, don't force yourself to get it to work. It takes two to make a great relationship and not every relationship is meant to work out.

The worst reason to stay in a relationship is fear. Fear of being alone, fear of having to find someone new, fear of having to learn new things that your partner used to do. Whichever fear it is, it all comes down to you not trusting yourself to be able to handle whatever comes your way.
The empowering feeling you felt is true because being on your own does create power. It forces you to take action and take responsibility for your life. There simply is no one else to help you out with everything so you are forced to grow as a person. I think that's a pretty good reason to leave a crappy relationship.

And yes, I'm sure you will miss him. There is no doubt in my mind that you will because, after all, you've been with him for 5 years! There must've been a reason for that. However, that's no reason to stay. When relationships end, two things happen depending on how we are. Loving people tend to remember the good things about their ex and unloving people tend to constantly whine about all of the negative traits of their ex. Sometimes it's a mix of these two, but this is generally how it plays out.
Whichever one applies to you (I guess the loving one), it doesn't take away that you aren't happy in the relationship. So you might remember good things about him later, it won't change the way you feel now.

Finally, meeting someone new. A lot of people think of this as a good reason to stay in a relationship. I think it's one of the worst. Not only does it also mean you don't trust your own ability to handle things coming your way, it also clearly communicates you really don't want to be with this person. You're pretty much saying "I don't know how anyone could love me" while being in a relationship.
The truth is that meeting other people isn't that hard. Like I said before, all you really need to be is be open to it and trust that you will be able to handle it. You might not meet the right person the very first time but you never will if you don't try.

So, in conclusion, I advice you to find out in whatever ways you can improve this relationship. Don't blame your partner but instead look for how you are responsible (without blaming yourself) and be as much of a loving person as you can. If that still doesn't get him to be a loving person as well, it's time to choose for your own happiness, leave the relationship, conquer your fears of being alone and become a stronger person in general.

At 11/5/09 01:58 AM, tarahloveshentai wrote: Ok you guys, I could really use your help right now.

That's a really tough one. But uh, I've been thinking about it... I think you know what to do too.. You have known for some time. It seems to me like you would rather not break up with him and then at the same time not be going out with him anymore. Wouldn't that be cool. I wish that could happen.

Think about it. You know what has to happen, and you don't like it. You've made a decision, but you're afraid to act on it. Bad things will happen either way, but there's no doubt in my mind that delaying any longer will only make things worse for him and harder for you.

He's going to understand. If not today, some day he will, and he'll forgive you. It took me a year and a half to understand when it happened to me, but I understand now. Nothing can corrupt a friendship more than stagnancy.
It takes a long time to get back to normal.
It's hard.
I understand.
I'm sorry.

Hey, sorry for double post, but I've got some shit going down over here.

Theres this girl I met at college last year, and I really fell for her. She's pretty smart, a little goofy, and I guess I wouldn't put her down as dead sexy but I think she's pretty good looking. We get along pretty well, and we hang out sometimes. So last year I fell pretty hard for her last year, and we sort of started going out before the summer.

We wrote letters to each other while she was on an island, and I saw that things were sort of dissolving, on her side. Eventually I got her to talk to me about it on the phone, and she told me that she really didn't like me at the level that she thought she did. She was really nice about it, and I don't blame her. She's actually been head over heels in love with this other guy that's a few years older than her, but he lives far away and there's no potential for a relationship because of the age difference and distance. It turns out that she was using me as a filler for her severed feelings of affection for this other guy, and I don't blame her for that, because it was unintentional, and we've talked about it already.

More recently, this year, I took her on a walk to the river, and I told her that I still had feelings for her, and she told me that she was still not into me, so I was like 'okay', more or less. The thing is, she's really flirty, she gives me thoese sorts of meaningful looks that girls can give, and she intentionally bumps into me in the hall and arond the dorm-- in like... a flirty way. She also gets teased a lot by everyone that she and I hang out with (like poking her and taking things from her), and I'm uncomfortable participating because I feel like I'd be flirting back, which isn't want I want to do.

Anyway, I feel sort of isolated when this shit goes down, and because I still like her I really want to think she likes me, but I don't want to be pulled back into that, I want to let her go, but I just can't. I'm always uncomfortable around her, but I want to be friends with her. I want to hang out with her, but the fact that she knows I like her makes it awkward.
What should I do?

God I hope she doesn't frequent newgrounds.

At 11/6/09 06:06 PM, sumguy720 wrote: Hey, sorry for double post, but I've got some shit going down over here.
What should I do?

You know, I'd love to help you out but I feel like you'd gain more from me quoting someone who thinks he knows stuff about relationships, so here you go:

"Really if you want to hook a girl you have to get to know her really well. A relationship starts off slowly, usually, unless you get along really really well with a person all the time. You've got to let it evolve naturally and let your relationship grow-- kinda like a tree... if you try to climb it the second it sprouts out of the ground you'll crush it. Let it grow, become stronger, make sure it's the right one for you.

If you can see a hard line between "we were friends" and "we're going out" you're not going to have a secure or strong relationship (of course, there are always exceptions, but most generally this is absolutely true) with the girl. Try staying friends with them. Get to know them better, hang out with them, but don't make sudden moves to romance. Find someone you absolutely like."

I hope you get the point I'm making here. I really do since otherwise I would need to explain and I really don't want to do that since it'd be a waste of my time. It might also be funny though...

Well Vincoid, I went to class Thursday morning nervous about what would happened. Wednesday he only texted me twice and they weren't about what was happening but I didn't reply to either. We didn't talk about this whole week about what's going on Thursday so I wasn't sure he'd come or not.

When I got home, I waited around to see if he'd text me or show up and when the time came around when he usually would show up, I turned back to this to read your post. I have to admit, I started crying because I felt like it was over although you last words gave me hope. I texted him, "Are you at least going to get your stuff?" to see what was going on and he said, "I'm on my way." When he showed up I was quiet and then I just hugged him and felt like crying. I don't want to lose him.

We had a really good day and a half together. But I don't know what you mean by the 'open your heart' advice. Can you give me examples?

I'm still confused right now and I feel like I'm in limbo although my boyfriend says he would never break up with me and he doesn't want to lose me. I think he put more in the relationship than I. I don't know how to explain it but I still need you and the clubs help and what to do.

Fuck it. Whats the point. I'm breaking up with her.

She has a pattern. She gets with a guy for 3 months tops, then throws them aside and moves on to the next guy. Well, its been 2 months, and she has feeling for another guy now. Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I'm not just going to sit around prolonging this heartbreak.

At 11/7/09 07:47 AM, CowGoMoo wrote: Fuck it. Whats the point. I'm breaking up with her.

What you did was a very smart thing. The same shit happened to me but in a more complex and confusing way. The good thing is that you kept yourself from getting hurt. My longest relationship was 3 weeks because things were clicking, but in a negative way.

Keep yourself happy, dude! More fish in the sea and plus I already moved on from my breakup.