At 1/14/09 05:48 PM, Everlasting-Elements wrote:At 1/14/09 05:09 PM, Knorpfdog wrote: It's been....3 months and 5 days since I started seeing my GF. It's all gone pretty well, and I don't really think there's anything to indicate she's lost interest in me, but that's the problem. I keep feeling like she's mad/annoyed/tired of me, and I don't know why. I've been getting WAY better, but I stress over really small, unimportant details sometimes.You're just sketching out, man. You should definately stop doing that. You're, most likely, stressing over nothing. If you think you're failing, step your game up and play it with a different set of dice man. If you think you're failing, sit down and analyze certain things.
Worrying itself is often the root of the problem. You think you see a problem, you start worrying, and by doing that you create a problem. What suck is that if you go through with this, things will go wrong and you'll say to yourself: "See, I was right", causing even more trouble in the future.
What you need to do, just like EE said, is relax. Understand that if there is a problem at all, it's most likely you being worried about nothing. Don't fall into this trap and enjoy your time with this girl.
I always like to think of it in this way: "He who's most afraid of losing something is the one who's most likely to lose it", just as it's equal opposite: "He who's least interested in getting something, is the one who's most likely to get it". Think about it and apply it to yourself.
Basically, it was amazing when we first started seeing each other. Now, it just seems like she's laughing less, acting less happy to be around me, etc. BUT, she also told me at the beginning of this month, something along the lines of "I might start acting weird/irritable until jan 25." Does that just mean it's her time of month? But isn't that supposed to be shorter than 3 weeks? :S. I don't know.
Maybe there's something on the 25th that she's worried about.
As for first seeing, it's always just a little bit more exciting in the beginning. That's when you meet someone new, get to know them better, experience the high of being together. After that it can get a bit less, but depending on the things you do, you decide wether it goes up again or goes down.
And besides that, there's one more problemish thing. At lunch (in high school :P) I usually sit with a few of my buddies, and then my GF comes over with one or two of her friends and sits with us. One of my friends clearly has something for my GF. He's always directing things at her, he seems too eager to make any sort of physical contact with her, all that. Now I used to be a very clingy, jealous guy, and while I've gotten rid of 99% of the clingyness, some of the jealousy is still with me. And when my GF laughs at some of the shit this kid says, it kills me inside. I stay calm on the outside, but I'm in despair on the inside. I just dunno what to do about it, because it doesn't seem like my GF has any sort of actual feelings for this kid, but I'm not the best at reading people, either.You sir. Stop! You see, perhaps that's just a test. To see if you'll bitch out, er some shit. Obviously, if this is the case, you're failing this test. It's great that you're able to contain it, though. Seriously, think of it like this. Who is the one that gets to kiss her on a regular basis? Mmhm, that's right. So stop fretting and let them balls drop, buddy. =]
EE's right, you need to stop bitching and start realizing what's really going on. Too many guys see a guy with interest and think they're about to lose their girl. Don't you have any faith in your girl? Or even worse, don't you have any faith in yourself?
What this guy wants and what this guy thinks is irrelevant. His thinking and his needs won't have any positive effect for him on your girl. In fact, if he starts to go all out to get her, he'll simply come across as needy.
You're containing the emotion though and that's good because it keeps your relationship healthy. However, a healthy mind is more important then that because a troubled mind is more likely to make mistakes and trouble itself even more (by worrying).
There is a reason why this girl is with you and that's because she's attracted to you, which you have yourself to thank for. This is a fact that should rule out any form of jealousy, as she wouldn't be with you if she wanted to be with him.