Guess I'm not the average gamer.
You said the average gamer makes 2-3 level 80 characters on WOW, yet I've never bothered to make it past 20 or so. It is a problem when games take time away from other things, but I only find games as a means of entertainment, nothing more or less unless someone wants it to be. Sure, if I totaled up all of my playing time for ONLY my Pokemon games, not counting all of the others I own, I'd probably have more than a week, but I see it this way; there's no way I'd sit in one spot and play a game for a week. The 90+ hours on my Disgaea 3 save is largely a result of me leaving my PS3 on for long periods of time without playing, but I'll readily admit that Mao doesn't teach me anything helpful, even with his 2 million E.Q. However, that's not the point of games to me. Games are a method of getting in touch with your imaginative side, of creating an enjoyable feeling in the player. But I'd never let it interfere with other things. Nor would I just give up on it and throw everything away 'cause I'm playing for half of my waking day. I never sit and play anything for more than an hour, so it's not so fair to group all of my game time together when I do so many other things in between. In short: Games are a form of release, or something symbolic like that. I don't believe that they can be blamed for serious negative or positive effects, unless couples with outside factors. I see your case though, and I wouldn't completely blame games for it.