At 3/9/05 04:33 PM, scratchscientist wrote:
The way I see it as long as you don't still want this girl and it was just a one-off then there's no point telling her.
If you go down that road, you should be ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that you don't let slip that your girlfriend finds out.
The damage that kind of situation causes gets exponentially worse over time, I know from the recieving point of view. If you kiss someone and own up - big thing. Easy choice though. Either you stay with the person because they still want you, or you're dumped (hey, don't do the crime if you can't do the time, eh?).
However, if you leave it 3 years down the line, you'll have built up a great relationship, then boom. Out of the blue they might find out that you've been lying and decieving them for a prolonged period - and in their mind, if you can lie about that, what else can you lie about?
Also, if you're able to effortlessly keep secrets from the person you're with, I do question your love for them - since if I love someone, I find it hard to decieve them.