Very soon my girlfriend goes away to Bolivia with our daughter for an internship for an entire five weeks. This will actually mark the first time in my life that I've been alone since ever. I've went right from living with my parents, to girlfriends throughout college and my entire after college life. I don't really know how to handle myself.

What should I do?

Should I become a professional super hero and roam the streets at night fighting crime? With nobody to wonder where I was all night it could be a very possible thing.

Should I live in my van for five weeks without entering my home to see what the life style of being homeless by choice is like?

Go to the bar whenever I want and eat all the bad foods I wish I could?

A homeless person who fights crime and goes to the bar and eats bad food whenever he wants?

Help me out guys, I've never had the freedom. All serious answers will actually be considered.

Try asking your family for support.

I highly recommend becoming a Super Hero.
Become....3 TOED SLOTH MAN!
Fight crime and look like the animal equivalent of a rapist while you do it.

All that internet porn isn't going to watch itself.

I seem to remember you getting married at one point and I'm going to run with the assumption that this lady you call your girlfriend is also your ex-wife. Was there an amicable divorce?

You could simply embrace the loneliness and not do anything out of the ordinary except maybe take a vacation.

At 5/9/15 09:34 PM, CGA-999 wrote: Try asking your family for support.

I give you full freedom to give advice for me to do anything crazy, interesting, etc... And you waste it on this? I'm spending zero time with family during this time.

This song just about sums up my advice to you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0AKJMGxwpE

At 5/9/15 09:36 PM, GoryBlizzard wrote: I seem to remember you getting married at one point and I'm going to run with the assumption that this lady you call your girlfriend is also your ex-wife. Was there an amicable divorce?

You could simply embrace the loneliness and not do anything out of the ordinary except maybe take a vacation.

Married and luckily divorced very quickly. That was actually quite a few years ago. Just wasn't meant to be. I'm sure I will natural enjoy being alone. There isn't too much time throughout the day where I'm not required to interact with people or be of service of people. It'll be a vacation in itself to just be home with no responsibility.

At 5/9/15 09:37 PM, Fro wrote:

At 5/9/15 09:34 PM, CGA-999 wrote: Try asking your family for support.

I give you full freedom to give advice for me to do anything crazy, interesting, etc... And you waste it on this? I'm spending zero time with family during this time.

You asked for a serious answer.

Here I thought you actually needed help. I think you're joking implying how much you'll miss her though. It's a long time but it's not forever. Behave yourself while she's out, you don't want to lose a wonderful girl for a petty nut bust. Just resort to porn if you need to.

I vote for the bar answer you provided myself.

Being distanced even for a minute from your partner can feel bad, just need to keep her in mind and know that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside her again, if able to chat over skype or steam or similar programs that helps loads also. At least you know a definite time that it will take so that helps a lot.

I'm currently distanced from mine after meeting him in his country, due to stupid bullshit reasons of not being allowed to just stay there without financial and legal shit getting in the way and making me come back home.... I just need to do the same thing I advised, thinking that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside him again. Sadly without knowing how long exactly it will be before holding him close again is painful, but at least we can talk over skype etc. to help that not feel as bad.

At 5/9/15 11:34 PM, Ragnarokia wrote: Being distanced even for a minute from your partner can feel bad, just need to keep her in mind and know that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside her again, if able to chat over skype or steam or similar programs that helps loads also. At least you know a definite time that it will take so that helps a lot.

I'm currently distanced from mine after meeting him in his country, due to stupid bullshit reasons of not being allowed to just stay there without financial and legal shit getting in the way and making me come back home.... I just need to do the same thing I advised, thinking that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside him again. Sadly without knowing how long exactly it will be before holding him close again is painful, but at least we can talk over skype etc. to help that not feel as bad.

It always boggled me how people can maintain relationships between countries. I mean, it's cool, it's inspiring, but even though I live a stone throw's away from Canada I feel like I could never make it work with a girl there.

Even though I could do long distance within the state, the physical border is a pain in the ass. I'd have to wait two hours on a Friday night just to get over into Canada, and then risk all the issues of car searches, yada yada. Seems like alot of work.

Credit.

Start daydrinking. Time will fly and in no time you'll be back with the people I'm assuming you love.

Just remember that time doesn't stop, or slow down or speed up for anyone, so 5 weeks should be over pretty quickly. If you think that you can't handle being by yourself, just invite some friends over. I personally don't see what the big deal is, to be honest (then again, I'm not in love or in any long term relationships atm), but just remember that your special friend will be back in no time.

All in all, enjoy the solitude if you can. Throw a party, browse the internet, whatever. Enjoy it while you can!

At 5/9/15 11:42 PM, BanditWoolyBear wrote:

At 5/9/15 11:34 PM, Ragnarokia wrote: Being distanced even for a minute from your partner can feel bad, just need to keep her in mind and know that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside her again, if able to chat over skype or steam or similar programs that helps loads also. At least you know a definite time that it will take so that helps a lot.

I'm currently distanced from mine after meeting him in his country, due to stupid bullshit reasons of not being allowed to just stay there without financial and legal shit getting in the way and making me come back home.... I just need to do the same thing I advised, thinking that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside him again. Sadly without knowing how long exactly it will be before holding him close again is painful, but at least we can talk over skype etc. to help that not feel as bad.

It always boggled me how people can maintain relationships between countries. I mean, it's cool, it's inspiring, but even though I live a stone throw's away from Canada I feel like I could never make it work with a girl there.

Even though I could do long distance within the state, the physical border is a pain in the ass. I'd have to wait two hours on a Friday night just to get over into Canada, and then risk all the issues of car searches, yada yada. Seems like alot of work.

Credit.

It is unquestionably difficult and upsetting when made to distance again, but we plan to be together soon, personally wanting to see it done within a year for good once I figure out how the whole emigrating thing works (which I probably need help with since idk how it works yet at all nor who to ask / where to search for things either).

At 5/9/15 09:36 PM, Prinzy2 wrote: All that internet porn isn't going to watch itself.

Yeah, but now there isn't someone to watch girl on girl with me and have sex at the same time.

At 5/9/15 10:56 PM, BanditWoolyBear wrote: Here I thought you actually needed help. I think you're joking implying how much you'll miss her though. It's a long time but it's not forever. Behave yourself while she's out, you don't want to lose a wonderful girl for a petty nut bust. Just resort to porn if you need to.

Im really not interested in being with another girl unless my girlfriend is included.

At 5/9/15 11:14 PM, RydiaLockheart wrote: I vote for the bar answer you provided myself.

This will probably happen weekly inside of the bimonthly bar visit I was having.

At 5/9/15 11:34 PM, Ragnarokia wrote: Being distanced even for a minute from your partner can feel bad, just need to keep her in mind and know that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside her again, if able to chat over skype or steam or similar programs that helps loads also. At least you know a definite time that it will take so that helps a lot.

I think I'm going to miss my daughter the most. It'll be the first time since she was born that she hasn't been with me. She'll be turning two while she's gone and I'm saddened that I'll never be able to experience her second birthday ever again. She's going to change as a person so much. She's at the age where she's learning at an extremely fast paced and I know I'm going to miss a lot of things in five weeks when even now I'm amazed at how she learned so much day to day.

I'm currently distanced from mine after meeting him in his country, due to stupid bullshit reasons of not being allowed to just stay there without financial and legal shit getting in the way and making me come back home.... I just need to do the same thing I advised, thinking that every day that passes is another day closer to being beside him again. Sadly without knowing how long exactly it will be before holding him close again is painful, but at least we can talk over skype etc. to help that not feel as bad.

I hope things get worked out for you.

At 5/9/15 11:47 PM, Monster-64 wrote: Just remember that time doesn't stop, or slow down or speed up for anyone, so 5 weeks should be over pretty quickly. If you think that you can't handle being by yourself, just invite some friends over. I personally don't see what the big deal is, to be honest (then again, I'm not in love or in any long term relationships atm), but just remember that your special friend will be back in no time.

The big deal is, other than work I'll basically have no responsibilities for the first time since ever. It's like experiencing sex for the first time. I have no clue what it's like for people not to be dependent on my existence every hour of the day. I don't think I'll be lonely, I think I'm really going to enjoy the silence and the complete freedom of not having to consult someone and finding. Baby sitter every time I want to do something.

At 5/10/15 12:52 AM, Hoodie wrote: SHE'S LEAVING FOR FIVE WEEKS, NOT FIVE YEARS DUDE.

Five weeks is still enough time for me to do something magical!

At 5/10/15 12:55 AM, Sensationalism wrote: Go to the gym and get swoll.

I was thinking about it, but it's basically already done. Gym = basement.

You should jack off and watch porn 24/7!

At 5/9/15 09:29 PM, Fro wrote: Very soon my girlfriend goes away

will go away

to Bolivia with our daughter for an internship for an entire five weeks. This will actually mark the first time in my life that I've been alone since ever.

the first time in my life that I have been alone

I've went right from living with my parents, to girlfriends throughout college

I went, or I have gone

and my entire after college life. I don't really know how to handle myself.

after-college life

better still: life since college

Should I become a professional super hero and roam the streets at night fighting crime? With nobody to wonder where I was all night it could be a very possible thing.

superhero

Should I live in my van for five weeks without entering my home to see what the life style of being homeless by choice is like?

lifestyle

Go to the bar whenever I want and eat all the bad foods I wish I could?

should be separate sentences:

go to the bar whenever I want? eat all the bad foods I wish for?

A homeless person who fights crime and goes to the bar and eats bad food whenever he wants?

Help me out guys, I've never had the freedom. All serious answers will actually be considered.

sorry didn't understand a word of that

Thanks Ejit! Will you correct all of my posts from now on so people can understand my gibberish?

Ask woman of your house for tips on the chores you'll have to do while she's not home. Otherwise your house will turn into a wreck. When I started living alone I would miss lots of chores and do lots of dirty, sloppy work. I would even turn on fire on my cooker and fry some sausages over the fire like it was a campfire. Later I decided to buy myself a graphite frying pan that I have preserved till today, despite very thin non-stick layer that is the only thing that separates my food from dirty aluminium plate.

Stay in your home, cherish it. I guess you got it off some kind of credit or it's not yours at all, since you get stupid ideas instead of caring for your home.

At 5/10/15 09:01 AM, Makakaov wrote: Ask woman of your house for tips on the chores you'll have to do while she's not home. Otherwise your house will turn into a wreck. When I started living alone I would miss lots of chores and do lots of dirty, sloppy work. I would even turn on fire on my cooker and fry some sausages over the fire like it was a campfire. Later I decided to buy myself a graphite frying pan that I have preserved till today, despite very thin non-stick layer that is the only thing that separates my food from dirty aluminium plate.

Stay in your home, cherish it. I guess you got it off some kind of credit or it's not yours at all, since you get stupid ideas instead of caring for your home.

Lmao, I don't know what kind of shot you were trying to take at me here. My day usually involves taking my girlfriend to college so she can get her doctorates, taking my daughter to daycare, going to work for eight hours, pick girlfriend and daughter up, come home make dinner, clean the house, do dishes, laundry, and any yard work needed, then go do contracting work for about three to four hours, come home with enough time to give my daughter a bath, and spend the rest of the night with my family.

Everything is paid for with my earnings alone. We have zero debt. I recently took out a small loan to buy us a new car, but paid it off within six months. Caring for my home takes such little work. It's sad that you have the misguided understanding that the women in your life should be the ones to do it though.

I'm going to enjoy the freedom, but it doesn't mean I'm not going to do dishes, mow the yard, or pick the garden like I've already been doing. Why would you assume I'm being catered to or having things handed down to me or given to me? Do you think her trip to another country is free? The one that I paid for out of pocket?

I'm the one that does all the house work so she can focus on her career. I've already been given the position that I wanted so I'm doing everything in my power now to makes things easier for her. Luckily I'm going to be given a nice five week period where I don't have to do anything. How hard can the dishes, laundry, and house work be when it goes from doing it for three people to just myself.

At 5/10/15 09:36 AM, Fro wrote:

Well, I'm not sure what kind of "shot you're trying to take at me here". You never specified in this OP that you pay for and take care of everything yourself, but mentioned some immature ideas. I was free to speculate that you're a not serious person without respect to your household, probably because you don't have basic feeling of owning one.

It's actually sad that you do all the housework, but obviously you have driven yourself to such situation yourself, so it's what you deserve, not matter if you add some ideology to it and say you wanted it or not. Also, I don't see how you came up with the idea that I have some "misguided understanding" that women should do all the household chores.

Super Hero on cocaine

At 5/10/15 09:52 AM, Makakaov wrote:

It's actually sad that you do all the housework, but obviously you have driven yourself to such situation yourself, so it's what you deserve, not matter if you add some ideology to it and say you wanted it or not. Also, I don't see how you came up with the idea that I have some "misguided understanding" that women should do all the household chores.

It's not sad, her school work and work load puts her around 12 plus hours of work a day. We share the cooking responsibility, but I'm man enough to take the majority of the work and let her focus on getting through college, which is hard enough in itself. A lot of the time she's already up till 1:00 to 2:00 doing assignments, but when you have someone taking double the class load so she can finish sooner that's just what's going to happen.

The idea that you think women should do the house work came from your comment about how I needed to ask the women in my life how to do chores.

I won't lie though. Deep down inside I am waiting for her to graduate, land that big job, and let me retire to just one job so I can have some more free time.

Hit up friends irl, do something. Hang out. Read a book. Find or grind away at a hobby. Make repairs to your home or car that you've been putting off.

Is your vehicle's inspection up to date? Whens the last time the oil was changed? How are the brakes?

At 5/10/15 10:04 AM, Fro wrote:

At 5/10/15 09:52 AM, Makakaov wrote:

It's actually sad that you do all the housework, but obviously you have driven yourself to such situation yourself, so it's what you deserve, not matter if you add some ideology to it and say you wanted it or not. Also, I don't see how you came up with the idea that I have some "misguided understanding" that women should do all the household chores.

It's not sad, her school work and work load puts her around 12 plus hours of work a day. We share the cooking responsibility, but I'm man enough to take the majority of the work and let her focus on getting through college, which is hard enough in itself. A lot of the time she's already up till 1:00 to 2:00 doing assignments, but when you have someone taking double the class load so she can finish sooner that's just what's going to happen.

The idea that you think women should do the house work came from your comment about how I needed to ask the women in my life how to do chores.

I advised you to ask your woman on tips for the chores I assumed she was doing reguraly, so you might do the job as well as she did, because I assumed she actually does something to upkeep the house.

I won't lie though. Deep down inside I am waiting for her to graduate, land that big job, and let me retire to just one job so I can have some more free time.

You know, it doesn't really matter if you actually believe you're doing all these chores because you're "man enough" or you're claiming she's wearing the pants in the family and makes you do it. Circumstances usually matter only for those who seek to know the foreground of actual actions which are the most important. I, myself, just wouldn't put so much trust in a person and work hard so she can simply have easy life, because even if you're 100% sure she won't leave you she still will be to, when she will get what she want, despite how you percieve her. From what I can tell from this thread you have already been married once irresponsibly, perhaps it was a good lesson for you, perhaps it wasn't.

I'm not saying she actually will dump you and your child after getting a degree, but I guess it will be nice of me to leave you wise quote from Mark Twain for a reminder.

If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man.

don't think about it too much.

At 5/10/15 11:26 AM, Raab wrote: don't think about it too much.

Luckily she couldn't fit nearly that many in her mouth at once. Jaw problems.

That homeless superhero gig sounds pretty sweet. You should look into it. Sure you might be homeless, and you could get injured or die by becoming a hero, but hey, look on the bright side. You'll be a wandering vigilante, roaming the streets endlessly in his search for justice.