ARTICLE PRINTED IN THE MCMASTER UNIVERSITY NEWSPAPER, "THE SILHOUETTE"
By: Kareem Sabri
In keeping with the theme of the Sex Issue and Valentine's Day, it's only fitting to reflect on the current---and sad---state of sexual interactions between genders today in North America. It has become evident that there has been an overall role reversal of men and women, characterized by what can only be described as a "pussification" of the North American male and the responsive hardening of the female gender. Allow me to elaborate. Basically, men are wussies. It's everywhere now. They run around hoping that if they do everything right and change themselves to 'what girls want' (which girls themselves don't seem to know), they will be able to get a girl. They kiss ass, shell out money for drinks and become yes-men to women's every word in the hopes that if they don't offend her she will give up some action. A fallacy of logic: if I agree with everything she says, she will want to have sex with me. What these guys don't realize is that everyone, regardless of gender, respects a person who has the guts to stand up for their own opinion. Not only that, but how interesting is it to talk to someone who sits there agreeing with everything you say? How man times do you now see guys looking to get into relationships with a girl who wants to stay single and play the field? How many pansy guys have you heard the following from? He REALLY likes a girl who is his best friend, and she doesn't know (or so she claims) about his feelings and so he pathetically plays the friend role---listening to her complain about other guys, being her shoulder to cry on, cuddling with her when she's drunk, basically doing everything under the sun a surrogate boyfriend could do that doesn't involve the use of his penis. Then eventually one day this estrogen-filled wannabe man works up to confess his love---without bothering to consider whether this action will actually work out for him or taking any steps to ensure it will---and his "friend" is naturally freaked out since she views him as the equivalent of her gay little brother. End of story. The above is a symptom of a much larger problem with the modern man. In addition to this over-emotional state of the average male, men have convinced themselves it is somehow improper to want to fuck. All these guys have this ONE girl they like (you're in university for Christ-sakes, have some fun!) and when the idea of sex comes up, they inevitably respond with "No, it's not like that, I really like this girl." Because obviously you can't want to have sex with a girl you like; you'll only subject the ones you don't give a shit about to your sexual advances, right? In these idiots' minds, females don't have sexual desires and will only be alienated by their sexual urges, so they must present themselves in a wholesome way to win these girls' hearts. Essentially they believe all of those corny movies telling them that women are delicate flowers and so on and so forth. So to make themselves compatible with these asexual woman, they mentally castrate them themselves---thus removing any semblance of their masculinity from their personality---and become the harmless, nice, agreeable yes-men who settle in nicely as gay little brothers. Let the cuddling begin. So where did this phenomenon of the she-man complex come from? The causes are complex and multiple in nature. First, males have no confidence. They have been convinced for some reason that to blessed with a woman bestowing the gift of herself on his bumbling-idiot ass is to be lucky and he must therefore be good so he will earn this gift. But where did this idea come from? I blame two sources. (Here comes the controversy.) The first is women and the second is popular culture. Women get blamed for one simple reason: they say one thing and do another. Most young guys feel it is only logical to ask women what they're looking for---even if they don't ask, women are pretty vocal about it. This step, while being logical, fails them because for some absurd reason women say one thing and do another. They will claim they are looking for a sweet, kind, sensitive, emotional, never-ending-list-of-feminine-traits-and-n
o-masculine-ones guy. However if you compare this fantastical estrogen-filled prince charming with the real guys who women respond to, you'll see a major disparity. But males, instead of observing what is going on around them, take these words at face value and try and change themselves and their nature to become something else. And then once they succeed, they find that they are even more lost than ever before. Now I'm not saying women are lying; I'm saying they have convinced themselves of what they want based on what society has told them they are supposed to desire. Also for some reason males confuse nice with spineless, and no one likes a wimp or a doormat. All that being said, women are not the main problem. The main source of the problem is pop culture. Men have no positive role models to learn from. Males are portrayed in the media as inept yes-men to strong women. "Everybody Loves Raymond," "King of Queens," and "Friends" are all perfect examples of this. These males are constantly apologizing for their idiotic behaviour and trying to make up for or suppress being male so their women don't leave them. Music is no better. With the rise in popularity of emo there's nothing but whiny, effeminate, over-emotional babies crying about how some girl doesn't like them and bitching cause football players get more action then their scrawny asses. (My theory is that every emo singer's so-called angst comes down to nothing but a lack of sex.) Bottom line, men need to get in touch with their masculine side. Fuck getting in touch with your feminine side, you've gotten too much in touch with it and it has taken you over. Try to remember how to be a man and not be ashamed of it.
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Frankly, I can attest to the fact that even I have fallen to this social hegemony... I fear for the future, and can only hope that I can change myself to BE MYSELF again.
