At 10/27/18 08:52 AM, Ever-After wrote:
I feel rather guilty for this but I really want to start having sex and I'm already talking to someone and seeing someone right now that I like but a friend of mine ( Alex who's 22) says he wants to hang out with me and have sex. The problem with alex is that he lives in New Jersey and hopes that I can pay for the first date, transportation and I can't afford to date him because we are both broke.
The guy I'm dating ( Tim who's 40) has a car, has a college degree and I like him. Tim lives close to me. I'm trying to start a business and he has a business as well. But I feel like I'm wrong for talking to Alex because alex has feelings for me and wants to marry me once I get my money together but I'm already dating and seeing someone already. Should I just tell Alex that I'm seeing someone right now? Me and Alex haven't talked in a long time and I don't want to stop dating/ talking to Tim.... I'm 19 and I know that I'm way to young to be dating Tim but I like Tim. I feel bad for stringing Alex along and I haven't really told him my peverted little secret. But do you think that I'm wrong for not saying anything to Alex about me seeing Tim?
On the one hand you have this guy, Alex, who is much more the same age as you, so I guess you probably have a lot in common. But he lives far away. On the other hand you have this grown man. 40 years of age, both feet on the ground, he has a business and you want to start one - but he is much older than you. That makes your inner conflict. You have these two guys in your life who couldn't be more different. The one is the young, the adventurous one. The other is the stable one.
But the real question is not if you should tell anybody of these guys something. The real question is: Do you know what YOU want? I don't think so. So take a break from both and explore your own self. Explore, how your life should develop in the next few years. If you prefer to be with the old guy because you feel safer with him and you lay all your focus on your business: Do it. If you think that starting a business can wait because you want to enjoy your life atm: Do it.
But if you made a desicion: Never regret it. There is NEVER a "true" or "false" in life. There will never be the right or the wrong way. Because there is actually no way. YOU are BUILING the way while you are living your decisions. At that is how life works. Do what is right for you NOW and not in probably 10 years.
