"How Are You?" "Fine." "Good."

[Kiwi]

When someone asks you how you are, do you generally respond by saying that you're fine or good? I've noticed that the majority of people do this, even when they're not fine or okay.

Generally, I've noticed that I do this with strangers or acquaintances. If a close friend asks me how I am, I'll be honest and won't reduce my answer to a one word response.

Has anyone else noticed this? Does anyone do this? Have you ever known anyone who gave you their whole life story when you asked them how they were?

[Painbringer]

People tell me that "how are you?" is really just a greeting.

[FoAngel]

I usually use those responses because apparently telling everyone to fuck off is rude.

Seriously tho I try to be nice when I can or when I have to be

[YonusBahtzee]

At 12/8/16 07:58 PM, Alias wrote: When someone asks you how you are, do you generally respond by saying that you're fine or good?

I usually reply back with good.

I've noticed that the majority of people do this, even when they're not fine or okay.

Yeah. For the most part I think it's just a quick and polite way to end the conversation with minimal interaction.

At 12/8/16 08:37 PM, FoAngel wrote: I usually use those responses because apparently telling everyone to fuck off is rude.

This too.

[WahyaRanger2]

It's to avoid human interaction and creating something that they want to talk about.

Duh

[Kwing]

I usually say "I'm okay," which is usually the truth, though I sometimes substitute "tired" or "busy" to which I always get some kind of "me too" response.

If I'm sitting down with someone instead of just passing them I'm more likely to not respond or honestly say if something's wrong.

[Oddlem]

It's better than droning about how sad/happy/angry you are when people usually don't care. :P

[StaticSkull]

I'm doing motherfucking fabulous!

[mothballs]

Yeah, sometimes I do but that's only because I try to get rid of people instead of engaging in a conversation. Every now and then I'll say "eh, could be better".

[CiviLies]

At 12/8/16 08:37 PM, FoAngel wrote: Seriously tho I try to be nice when I can or when I have to be

Same, lately though I've been considering fucking with people by saying, "I'd be better if I knew where to hide a body" or just other really stupid shit.

At 12/9/16 12:29 AM, Zornuzkull wrote: I usually tell them they soon stop asking...

How are you doing today, Zornuzkull?

At 12/9/16 12:57 AM, ZadiztikAphiid wrote: Replying with "I'm good" is actually incorrect usage of the queen's English. You're supposed to say "I'm fine."

But I AM good. Good at saying #FUCKTHEQUEEN

[SatanBrain]

I usually refrain answering since my answer is of no importance to the asker.

[Decky]

At 12/8/16 07:58 PM, Alias wrote: When someone asks you how you are, do you generally respond by saying that you're fine or good?

I usually say "Well, an important part of me turned grey and fell off yesterday, on top of that they say it traumatised the nearby children and now have to pay for their therapy. God damn town council."

[Cyberdevil]

I usually go with the middle-ground OK if I'm not feeling better than that. Otherwise: good. I don't think I'd ever tell a stranger if I'm not feeling OK, though, that's the minimum state of being I'll showcase. Definitely depends on who asks. And the circumstance.

[DamnedByFate]

At 12/8/16 07:58 PM, Alias wrote: When someone asks you how you are, do you generally respond by saying that you're fine or good? I've noticed that the majority of people do this, even when they're not fine or okay.

No, I always respond, "Shit, as always."

[Cyberdevil]

At 12/9/16 09:57 AM, DamnedByFate wrote: No, I always respond, "Shit, as always."

The more you say it, the more you'll feel it. :/

[NeonSpider]

IMO it's actually somewhat rude to ask those sorts of questions. So any reply you give is justified, even if the asker "totally didn't want to know that" or whatever.

If you want to have meaningful conversation, ask meaningful questions. Better yet, don't ask questions; just start out with relevant conversation.

Better to remain silent than to "small talk". Small talk just indicates you have absolutely nothing in common and thus why even bother interacting anyway?

[Lionelion]

Unless im having a super shitty/amazing day, I usually just reply with a "pretty good" regardless of how im actually feeling, and then respond in kind. Rarely do I have anyone give me more than a 1-3 word answer to the question, and if they do, its just a short sentence explaining what they were up to in the past hour or two

[Moblin]

I usually answer with good because I aint got no time, but I sometimes talk about my day. I don't really have a problem talking about my personal life with people I barely know, maybe they'll give me some good advice.

[Phronemophobia]

Yeah, I've complained to co-workers enough that most of them know to not ask or immediately apologize before I have a chance to respond. For customers, I generally ignore the question and ask how I may assist them. I've actually offended three people in the last decade for doing that. "Oh, ok. I guess you're FINE then!" or something bitchy along those lines. In some cases, I will respond with various bits of nonsense, such as
"I'm what you kids would call 'groovy!'"
"I still have all nine of my fingers."
"I can still taste the fish oil I had this morning."
"I didn't do it! Wait, what did you say?"
"Mur. Also... mur."
"What? What?! WHAT?! This better be about pizza.
"I hugged a dog. He farted. My day's complete."
"I want to tell you I'm doing well, but that'll jinx it, and my day will be ruined, but I can't say I'm not doing well, because I might convince myself of that, and both of us would be worse off for the response, so I'm going to say a whole bunch of stuff really fast and we can both get back to doing productive stuff, like not burning more of the chicken I left in the fryer earlier. I'm sorry for the smell."
"I hate everything. You?"

[ratchili]

At 12/9/16 05:39 PM, Phronemophobia wrote: I will respond with various bits of nonsense, such as
"I'm what you kids would call 'groovy!'"
"I still have all nine of my fingers."
"I can still taste the fish oil I had this morning."
"I didn't do it! Wait, what did you say?"
"Mur. Also... mur."
"What? What?! WHAT?! This better be about pizza.
"I hugged a dog. He farted. My day's complete."
"I hate everything. You?"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V2sBURgUBI

[CiviLies]

At 12/9/16 01:14 PM, Zornuzkull wrote: I got laid last night so pretty happy...

Ayyy, my man. That's what I like to hear.

[Klaudesin]

I just walk right pass the person without saying a word. Is that rude?

[brettyboy]

I always say I am good even though I am always sad.

[Swag-in-a-Bag]

Yeah those "auto responses" we sometimes give, but recently I ask how a stranger was doing and they replied "terrible" and I just thought to myself, "well that's too bad" and kept on about mines; but that was an invitation for further conversation to maybe ask what was troubling them; but in that moment I did not care.

[DamnedByFate]

At 12/9/16 10:08 AM, Cyberdevil wrote:

At 12/9/16 09:57 AM, DamnedByFate wrote: No, I always respond, "Shit, as always."

The more you say it, the more you'll feel it. :/

I listen to emocore, for fuck's sake. And I even enjoy it.

At 12/9/16 11:17 AM, NeonSpider wrote: Better to remain silent than to "small talk". Small talk just indicates you have absolutely nothing in common and thus why even bother interacting anyway?

You have just become my new favourite person.

[Cyberdevil]

At 12/10/16 10:12 AM, DamnedByFate wrote:

At 12/9/16 10:08 AM, Cyberdevil wrote:

At 12/9/16 09:57 AM, DamnedByFate wrote: No, I always respond, "Shit, as always."

The more you say it, the more you'll feel it. :/

I listen to emocore, for fuck's sake. And I even enjoy it.

Well if you feel good saying it, I guess it's all good! XD

[DamnedByFate]

At 12/10/16 11:33 AM, Cyberdevil wrote: Well if you feel good saying it, I guess it's all good! XD

So you don't think feeling good about regularly singing along to suicidal lyrics is weird?

[Cyberdevil]

At 12/10/16 01:47 PM, DamnedByFate wrote:

At 12/10/16 11:33 AM, Cyberdevil wrote: Well if you feel good saying it, I guess it's all good! XD

So you don't think feeling good about regularly singing along to suicidal lyrics is weird?

Well if you feel good it's good! Weird or no. Long as it's not harming anyone else. Personally I'd rather go for some more motivating and self-affirming lyrics, but to each his ownage.