At 7/24/08 12:57 PM, poxpower wrote:
See I don't know about that.
I certainly agree that if the priest grabs your balls, you'll be able to get over it soon enough, even if you're a little kid. I think the whole idea of 'once you're a victim of sexual assault, you're ALWAYS a victim of sexual assault' is very dangerous and has most certainly caused more harm than good. But I'm sure that kids who are being molested by their uncle regularly, and it's 'their little secret', are being harmed by it. But the odd grope by an adult isn't gonna cause any lasting damage.
I've got my own examples but they're TOO DEEPLY REPRESSED. Like there was this little (male) kid who fucking OBSESSED over me when I was in Boys Brigade when I was like 9 or 10 and he'd always try and feel my balls. And my brother's old guitar teacher was a weirdo whose weird behaviour stopped him from taking lessons. And my dad went to a Christian Brother's high school and recalls the priests being far worse than my brother's old guitar teacher. But you get over it, you see it for what it is, until some therapist tells you otherwise. The 'cult of victimhood' for victims of abuse is very bad indeed.
But then none of these stories are similar to what that poor dog had to go through. It'll never get laid now, it'll never have the confidence to approach other dogs, and then it wont be able to keep it up because it'll always be thinking of those nightmarish days in that house with that woman.