I know internet dating increases the chance of finding the 'right' one, but does saying you met her via the internet not sound romantic? You probably will get bad reactions out of it.
I mean I hate to imagine coming home with my gf I met online, and telling my parents "I met her via the internet"

At 1/28/15 08:57 AM, klompors wrote: I know internet dating increases the chance of finding the 'right' one, but does saying you met her via the internet not sound romantic? You probably will get bad reactions out of it.
I mean I hate to imagine coming home with my gf I met online, and telling my parents "I met her via the internet"

Of course saying via the internet is stupid, that is like saying "I met her via the physical world", Saying you both went to the same website and found each other there is like saying you both frequent the same coffee shop. Stuff like that.

At 1/28/15 09:08 AM, Ragnarokia wrote: Of course saying via the internet is stupid, that is like saying "I met her via the physical world", Saying you both went to the same website and found each other there is like saying you both frequent the same coffee shop. Stuff like that.

This. Also who gives a shit, the internet is amazing

At 1/28/15 09:15 AM, Teddiikun wrote:

At 1/28/15 09:08 AM, Ragnarokia wrote: Of course saying via the internet is stupid, that is like saying "I met her via the physical world", Saying you both went to the same website and found each other there is like saying you both frequent the same coffee shop. Stuff like that.

This. Also who gives a shit, the internet is amazing

Yep, some people may just be dicks and refuse to acknowledge people can find people online, others may just be so jaded that they think EVERYONE online is out to rape and murder them, but apparently they are not like that themselves despite using this internet service which apparently makes EVERYONE like that.....yea no intelligence there.

Take Newgrounds for example, behind all the general stupidity and spam and stuff people can post, users are still all people and behind the way they enjoy posting lies the true person, you can get to know people well and build good friendships due to similar tastes, and if you both enjoy being with each other it can even lead to a relationship. It's why people meet others outside of dating websites themselves which obviously exist for the exact purpose of dating, as they become friendly with others who enjoy the stuff they do and it blooms.

I myself could never go on a dating website, as I need to become friends first and foremost to enjoy being with the person if I am going to end up being with them, I definitely couldn't go for just one night stands and random dating, would need to be someone I loved and loved me, and what do you know, I find the perfect person right here!

Meeting online is like meeting in person, both somewhere you would frequent either way. I don't think there's as much of a stigma with it as Long Distance Relationships, because you haven't or won't physically see each other. Which is good for some antisocial people who are completely comfortable with it. I don't think that's any way to be though, it's really no different than just watching porn, only she blows you a kiss, says your name, and might sleep with you over skype. It's not great, it fucking hurts man and I don't recommend it for anybody.

If you're going to be with somebody, it doesn't matter how you met them, but be with them. Literally, physically be with them or else it'll just fuck you up man. It fucked me up.

At 1/28/15 08:57 AM, klompors wrote: I know internet dating increases the chance of finding the 'right' one, but does saying you met her via the internet not sound romantic? You probably will get bad reactions out of it.

Well, most people will find it weird. I know all of my classmates, family and friends do. I met my boyfriend online, and none of my friends believed we were going meet or last at all, but we're meeting soon, and it's going to be awesome.

Meeting "the right one" online is very romantic to me, and I definitely believe it can be done.

I mean I hate to imagine coming home with my gf I met online, and telling my parents "I met her via the internet".

Telling my parents about this guy was scary and awkward: I had no idea how they would react to it and whether they'd actually accept it. Though, I absolutely do not regret telling them.

I guess meeting your boyfriend/girlfriend online still is pretty unusual, and so it might draw quite some attention and questions from different people. Personally I'm definitely not looking forward to when the rest of my family will find out about my relationship with this guy, because I know they'll ask a lot of questions. However, I know it'll be great when this attention has faded.

Honestly, I actually do believe that having a relationship via internet will make that relationship stronger, if one manages to make it work.

I believe one factor is that people find the internet scary, and don't understand how one can trust a person one met online, and I do understand why.

At 1/28/15 10:50 AM, Monster-64 wrote:

At 1/28/15 10:38 AM, WahyaRanger wrote: Yeah I've tried that shit once or twice.

I didn't like it.

I tried online dating. All I got were sluts who probably have had 500 dicks in them.

Also, let's consider the fact that they messaged me with, "Hey, baby ;)"

Don't these women understand that I have moral standards?

I automaticly assume they're bots.
Cus there's a ton of them on these kind of sites

IMO, Internet dating websites are very unlikely to produce results anyone would desire. Those kinds of sites are just broken by design more-or-less since unreasonable unrealistic expectations etc, yadda yadda. I am fully convinced anyone, no matter who you are, can do better IRL than by using those websites. I'm really not sure what it is. Maybe only the people with unreasonable expectations (and thus why they can't find anyone IRL) mostly use them? All I know is you'll pull several points worse using those than you would IRL.

Internet dating (not using dating websites), on the other hand, might work. It certainly has as much chance of working as various random other ways of meeting people. Problem will be though if you have a way of meeting in person at least eventually because otherwise what's the point? You really shouldn't use non-dating websites with the intentions of dating though, but if it happens then it happens sort of deal, just like anywhere else.

I have friends who have married people they met online. In some cases it can work. In some cases it doesn't. Just like anywhere.

At 1/28/15 10:57 AM, Voltage wrote:

At 1/28/15 10:54 AM, NeonSpider wrote: Problem will be though if you have a way of meeting in person at least eventually because otherwise what's the point?

And if that person makes excuses to not meet, you say fuck it and forget about it.

Kind of why dating through the web is total and utter bullshit.

Oh I agree there are phenomenal amounts of bullshit and good luck actually meeting a person even if you seemed like you really liked each other online and had chemistry and some kind of long distance relationship and talked every night on the phone and exchanged dirty pictures/videos for their eyes only and were "together" as "a couple" or whatever. Then push comes to shove and any time you were supposed to meet up, something always "came up" at the last possible moment. How (in)convenient.

So many flakes out there, but there are flakes in person as well. Anyone who gave you their number one night and then "doesn't remember you" when you call them, for example.

At 1/28/15 11:34 AM, Voltage wrote:

At 1/28/15 11:19 AM, NeonSpider wrote: So many flakes out there, but there are flakes in person as well. Anyone who gave you their number one night and then "doesn't remember you" when you call them, for example.

Fuck snowflakes man, they only can exist for so long until they vaporize.

Thing is, I'm guilty of flakiness as well, to an extent. Well with me it's more I just kind of disappear for a while or I don't keep in contact enough or whatever. But mostly it's because I'm up inappropriate hours and I don't figure people will much appreciate 3AM or 4AM phone calls so sometimes people can go quite a while without hearing from me -- like months or years. I'm quite quite sure there are people who don't know if I'm even still alive because there are people I don't know if they're even still alive.

It's damned if you do damned if you don't.

I would probably be happy for you because girlfriend and internet are 2 words that you rarely hear in the same sentence.

Meeting people online is the norm these days. You should care less about what other people think of your relationship those people are who keep you warm at night. If they have a problem with you meeting someone online you can stand enough to date That's their fault not yours to fix.

I met my girlfriend three years ago on Omegle. We started out as friends and then a few months ago we got together. I don't think that sequence of events is particularly weird, yet I always have some explaining to do when I tell people how we met. I've also noted that many people, both younger and older ones, seem quite surprised hearing about it. Even though a lot of people meet like this nowadays there still seems to be certain prejudices against it, or at least a lack of knowledge about how it all actually works. Whether they believe everyone is out to have sex, or rape each other, I don't know. But there seems to be some misconceptions out there.

Some of us would still be living with our mothers, had it not been for online dating.

At 1/28/15 05:58 PM, Voltage wrote: dude fuck that, I got locked outside of my house because my mom is a cunt

Did you "come out" to her or something?

I am against Internet dating, I only meet people in person if I want to date them.

It's only not creepy if you meet people through beautifulpeople.com.

There are no women on the internet. Open your eyes, guys.

At 1/28/15 05:50 PM, je171 wrote: Internet "dating" isn't really dating. It's an invented euphoria involving the persona that you think you know. While some people could argue that "dating" people in real life is the same thing, I would say this: in real life, Girl = Female. Online, Girl = Guy In Real Life. When you date someone, you are most likely going to know if it's a Tranny or crossdresser. And even if you're fooled for an entire date, you're going to find out a lot sooner than you do online. Also, while "Trolling" has become all the rage online these days, Real Life Trolling doesn't happen to the point where people troll Real Life Relationships.

Yeah, except no, because this isn't the 1990's Internet. There are ways of verifying things such as pictures, voice chat, and video. You can 100% verify the person you are speaking with is cis female. There are even sites where you can realtime video chat. Did you know about this amazing turn of events since the 90's?

So yeah you can easily verify the person exists and is what you prefer on a physical level. But what you can't protect against is flakiness, which seems extra common online. Plan to meet someone months in advance and ... then some excuse. Reschedule for a few weeks and ... another excuse, etc...

At 1/29/15 11:41 AM, je171 wrote: You are obviously either young, or very inexperienced in these matters. You can't judge by someone's voice if they are male and female: that's one of the first things they train you on if you ever work in a Call Center of any type. Pics (and even video) are extremely easy to fake and it happens all the time. Like I said, you will find out EVENTUALLY (most likely via live webcam). But...how long do you want to flirt / fool around in some ways with someone, before you find out via some cam session weeks later that they aren't what you thought? That was my point. Real Life = faster and more reliable/trustworthy. That's an undeniable fact.

Riddle me this. You have pictures of the person doing whatever things you asked. You have videos of the person. You can live video chat with the person. You can talk on the phone or online with the person. You can't verify much (after all they could lie about all sorts of stuff) but you can certainly verify they exist and what they look like and what they sound like, just as you could in person. That's certainly enough information to determine gender, in most cases. So how is all that proof faked, as you claim, just because it happens to be online?

And, I'm sorry, but if you can't determine someone's gender who you can see and talk with online then how in the hell would IRL make any difference? You would be just as fooled IRL in that case, if they really are that good you can't tell.

I don't see why people couldn't find their love on internet. They still physically meet each other in the end.

At 1/29/15 02:13 PM, je171 wrote: Again that wasn't my point. I said it's EASIER/FASTER to tell irl. Not all women are sluts and show you anything sexual the first 1-3 days you "date" them online. It could be weeks before you even find out. There's a difference between finding a legit person of the opposite sex to do Sexual things with immediately, and actually finding a long term companion for a serious relationship. You are only proving my point that "Internet Dating" isn't dating. It's a bunch of guys trying to masturbate whenever possible with someone.

I don't know what kind of women you "date", but I wouldn't sleep with one immediately. Let alone consider a serious relationship with one who jumps right into bed with guys. "Dating"...lol. You just want hookups. Go use Tinder, Craigslist, or random PM friends of your friends on Facebook, if that's all you want. You are a typical immature male who wouldn't be good for any sort of serious relationship in the long run. Congrats.

You sure do jump to a lot of conclusions! Keep in mind I never said Internet dating was a good idea. I never said anything about doing sexual things the first 1-3 days. I never said any of this stuff you're jumping to. In fact I never said anything at all other than pointing out how wrong you were in your claims that you couldn't verify someone was your preferred gender online. Somehow, out of that, you erroneously conclude that I'm doing Internet hookups left and right and that I'm an "immature male who wouldn't be good for any sort of serious relationship in the long run". Right, because you actually know me, yes? Oh no, you actually don't. Sorry.

You know what's really immature? Hastily jumping to conclusions about others without even knowing them. "Oh but you're the typical blah blah whatever". Oh you have it all figured out do you? No, you don't. That's your own mental biases blocking your cognitive reasoning abilities because it's easier and significantly less mentally taxing to default to your own existing prejudices. And your existing prejudices say that it's not possible to verify someone's gender online and that every girl online must actually be a guy in disguise trying to trick you and, since someone challenged that, that person therefore *must* just casually hookup with everyone online all the time, right? Right? Except there's no logical chain there. May as well blame poor people for being poor or spout some racist statements because those are also born of people's preconceived notions and prejudices combined with a lack of actual knowledge or willingness to learn from others or accept that you might actually be wrong about something.

You may want to apologize. That would be the mature thing to do.

At 1/30/15 11:25 AM, je171 wrote: I didn't jump to any conclusions: these thoughts were based off the words used in your responses. If you don't want people to get certain impressions of you, word yourself better. And your examples of "comparable arguments" are laughable at best. It just shows which side of the fence you sit on. You talk as if arguing "it's their own fault if poor people are poor" isn't valid. But we won't get into any of that kind of stuff. Everything I said, still stands, and even if you want to deny anything I stated it doesn't matter. It doesn't make any of my points less true.

I won't be responding further to your posts, even if you try to put a "Final Post" that "puts me in my place". I'm ending it, which makes this your game over with no continues. Good day.

Jumping to conclusions? --Check
Not apologizing for your inappropriate accusations? --Check
Adding me to your blocklist? -- Oh God please let this be a check!

And yes your words indeed speak for themselves. They speak volumes to anyone who's following along.

The problem seems to be that there have been so many horror stories of people not being who they say they are and people getting drugged/beaten/killed off of Internet dating hookup's that most people seem to be increasingly afraid to actually do it.

At 1/30/15 08:29 PM, DreamsOfBurningSkies wrote: The problem seems to be that there have been so many horror stories of people not being who they say they are and people getting drugged/beaten/killed off of Internet dating hookup's that most people seem to be increasingly afraid to actually do it.

These fears are not unfounded. Indeed, they are very reasonable as those things could happen. It is a risk like any risk and people must decide if they want to take that risk or not.

I've actually been considering joining a dating website, since my weekly schedule really isn't putting me in the same place as people I would be compatible with, and I think a computer is probably better at sorting through a city of three million people than I am.

In response to the OP, there are a lot of truths that kill the idea of romance. Marriages only fall apart now because people live long enough to find out that they aren't compatible; the previous generation's marriages were no more stable or loving. Either that, or it wasn't culturally acceptable to divorce. 'The one' doesn't exist. Soulmates don't exist. Love doesn't exist. Monogamy is a byproduct of possessiveness, jealousy, and insecurity. What all is left, when you take away the oxytocin? The emotional support is transient, pounded into us by years of television and music telling us about the 'power of love.' People label it as cynicism because they don't want to give up the idea of something that seems mysterious and exciting, but it's really just another kind of religion that people are trying desperately to hold onto.

At 1/28/15 10:54 AM, NeonSpider wrote: Internet dating (not using dating websites), on the other hand, might work. It certainly has as much chance of working as various random other ways of meeting people.

This is something I suspected myself. It makes sense - it's really the same as going into a bar and trying to pick up people. The chances of having a serious relationship from a situation like that are practically nil, since that's not what most people are looking for.

--And I am reminded of Christian Weston Chandler's 'love quest'.

I suddenly want to bathe.

At 1/31/15 09:52 AM, NGPulp wrote: --And I am reminded of Christian Weston Chandler's 'love quest'.

I suddenly want to bathe.

Whoever dates Christian Weston Chandler must have --- Lo-wered Ex-pec-taaaations

How a prospective dater could piss him off. Show up to the date cosplaying as Sonic ...

... wait for it ....

with blue arms!

It's become the norm. The internet is like a massive bar where people can meet. If you don't want to say you met on the web, I'd say mention where you first met in person. Maybe a bar, or maybe a restaurant or something.