At 9/10/14 07:09 PM, TheGamechanger wrote:
Is it really a good idea to contain your anger and keep all your unsorted feelings in? Or is it better to just let it all out?
That's the difference between an explosive anger personality type and an implosive anger personality type. It really depends on the personality.
If you're explosive, you have many tiny outbursts of anger, sometimes over matters that aren't that important like a game or a petty argument.
But if you're implosive, then you build it up inside...and that pressure builds and builds until one day you just snap and all of that pent up anger and aggression is unleashed on one large instance that pushed you over the edge.
Me personally I'm an implosive type. For the most part I'm cool and collected, but when I'm pushed over the edge, I'm a completely different person. It works for me because I know how to vent safely everyday, I know how to shake it off. It takes a lot to get under my skin, and that's a point of pride. I see that as a strength and advantage through stability.
How do you release your pent-up frustration and anger? Is it easy or difficult for you?
Fap. Play video games. Play out imaginings of violence in my head or in artwork. Since I've been using that energy up in the gym, I haven't had a problem with stress at all compared to the past, so I would highly recommend exercise. Dragonball Z that shit and use all of that anger and insecurity and depression as a fuel, like you're shoveling coals of nastiness into a train engine that's making you stronger. It's only easy for me at this point because of practice, and I've made a methodical effort to surround myself with people that don't piss me off...I got good friends and a good family.
Ohh, and making my kitty happy relieves a heap of stress. His purrs and his company soothe my soul.
Have you ever been mad at yourself? If so, for what?
Idiotic decisions. Dangerous decisions. Mistakes and regret. Missed opportunities and more so in the years passed, wasted time.
Would you stay mad at someone if they wronged you in the past? If so, for how long? If not, would you forgive them?
Wow that really depends on the situation. I've made up with people who have done me wrong. Friends that became enemies that became friends again. People that I've met who I straight-up hated and eventually came to like them.
A decision to stay mad at someone without ever accepting the possibility of forgiveness would have to be something incredibly harsh. It just depends on what's important to you, and if that person vexed that. It needs context that only YOU could decide if that kind of treatment is justified.
Is there any truth to the phrase, "forgive and forget?"
You can to be polite and to be socially healthy you can forgive and ignore the wrong-doing...never bring it up again, kinda sweeping it under the rug...but you'll never forget. If it was serious, you'll never forget...and if it was petty and forgettable, than it must not have been important in the first place.
Would you forgive someone if they had done something horribly wrong, no matter how bad?
Depends on the context. Did they steal some candy or did they rape my sister? "No matter how bad" is ocean broad.
Would you forgive yourself if you had done something just as bad?
"You are your own worst critic."
I have difficulty forgiving myself for some of my mistakes that friends have assured aren't that big a deal...and those are the ones they know about.
Is there a limit to just how far forgiveness can go?
Depends on the context. At some point, you might be lying to yourself and creating a fantasy world just so your scope of forgiveness can extend broad enough to envelope an evil that no one should forgive.
Love can do that.
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...So what prompted this, OP?
