Okay, this is bullshit. Yes I've been there, still there. I'm actually skeptical whether anyone else who gave this above 2 has ever stayed there at all.
I mean, the only way they stay together in the game is doing nothing but throwing dull, meaningless love lines to each other? Man, do you really think that gets anyone anywhere in reality? And that even downsizing the more important casual conversation which is really the connection to the life of the other person.
That's what i'm really pissed by. I chose all the alternatives, every single one, because that's how we maintain our relationship. We trade songs, talk about dinner, debate about news around the world, all the little things that makes all the importance and constitutes her life, who she is. Of course I miss her, love her, and I tell her that too. But more important is being with each other, knowing and acting we are with each other.
I love the person, her brilliance and character towards her world, and that is shown in our daily conversations, contemplating and enjoying our lives and problems just as if we are with each other. Nothing too much or too deep, just keeping the connection and knowing its importance. Sometimes saying nothing at all. This becomes far more important in long distance, I thought this was obvious.
Instead I get this two dull people stuck in their dull lives whose only way to maintain connection is by being lovesick to each other. Yeah, this is sad, pathetic. Thank god this isn't true. Listen I'm serious. Saccharine, wishy-washy, cookie-cutter way of expression of love leads nowhere, not even in short distance. It doesn't last long just look around you. It's sloppy, hypocritical, maybe even possesive and paralyzed. Interested less in the person than what's in it for you. Inertia, wanting to let her face you than to face her yourself. Self-conscious of the relationship, automatic responses, need I go further?
I know this well because I've been there. That was me. I've been in both kind of relationships, I know both ways: what works and what doesn't in long distance. Long distance is hard, definately, but it's not the reason for any breakups. It's not a pitfall, if anything in the least it's a test, a trial to see if this love is long lasting and sound. Perhaps you wanted to express that but unfortunately your "right choices" are not the sign of long lasting relationship.