At 6/3/13 07:38 PM, deathbymanga wrote:
There's a difference here. I want financial success. I want to get a successful job and career and to live my life peacefully. Having relationships is still important to me, but as of now, having a successful career and job is more important. once i have a steady income and a home, food, and cable internet, then i can start putting more effort into friends. and by then, the friends i have now will be long gone living their own lives.
The same rules apply. Wether it's relationships or financial success, you achieve both in exactly the same way.
You see, financial success and success in relationships both depend on the very same thing: you. It's your personality, your beliefs and your passion that creates the success. You'll need some knowledge about the things you want to achieve, but that's nowhere as important as your character.
At 6/3/13 09:13 PM, Sequenced wrote:
oh well. girls are fucking indecisive as shit.
Here's your problem; you know this but you don't act on it.
Let me explain. What most men these days don't seem to understand is that men and women are vastly different from each other on every single aspect. When men do know, they don't seem to encorporate this knowledge in their actions. For instance, they way you try to let girls know you like them is by doing the exact same thing people do when they're making friends. If you want them to know you like them, act that way.
Another thing, women are indeed indecisive. This is because of a little thing called energy. Men generally have more masculine energy than feminine energy and women vice versa. Only few men and women have neutral energies and even less men have more feminine energies and women vice versa.
This energy determines the way we act, think and desire. Feminine energy wants to enjoy life carelessly, wants to run wild and not be contained but also wants to be handles with passion and wants to be dominated by masculine energy.
Masculine energy often wants to dominate, live life purposefully, wants to achieve and keep control of their energy.
Because of these different energies, men and women enrich each other. These opposites attract. That's why many couples show different energies, same sex couples often consist of a person with a very masculine energy and one with a very feminine energy.
Masculine energy wants to see the feminine energy run wild, enjoy life and get carried away by it. Feminine energy wants to run wild but be steered in the right direction by the masculine. This causes women to be indecisive, because they want the masculine to show control and to take the decisions. They want to trust the masculine and let their own energy flow freely instead of burdening is with responsibilities, choices, stress, etc.
When you know this, it'd be stupid to blame women for being indecisive. It'd be stupid to want them to make the choices, come after you, tell you they like you etc. They'll never be attracted to you if they'd have to do this. They want you to lead, to take charge, to sweep them of their feet. They don't to have to tell you it's ok for you to try and attract them to you. There is no strength in doing so, you can't dominate or lead them when they do. More important, they can't trust you or your energy if they have to tell you.
So instead of waiting for them to tell you they like you, make them like you. That's doesn't mean you should someway force you of course. But there's a giant difference between taking them out to dinner and hoping that's strong enough of a signal, and sweeping them of your feet with charm, confidence and masculinity.
And as said by DarkSoldier, women know, within the first minute of seeing you, exactly what they think of you. And even before that minute is over they'll know if you like them. What's important to know is that it's a feeling they have, an unconscious process for most. They won't be able to tell you right then and there they do like you or that you like them. However, if they do, your energy, actions, etc. will create attraction or it won't. If you're not sweeping them of their feet with jokes, confidence, charm, etc, their initial attraction toward you will diminish and there's only thing to blame; you created no attraction and chemistry.
So stop blaming the feminine for being what it is and start playing the game the way it's being played.