At 3/6/09 02:02 AM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote: Ahh yes, the typical story of this generation losing the sense of devoutness for pleasure. I applaud you my friend for your devout nature.What I must say is if you don't like what she's doing, but love her, you must LEAVE HER! That may seem harsh, but if your relationship with her is as futile as I am lead to believe, there is little point in continuing it. She will, as you say, only see you as the 101st guy to come after. My advice: Find someone who's devout like you. She will help you by being what a woman who says she's muslim should be. Islam is very strict about these types of things, and for good reason I guess. Anyhow, my point is, if you claim to be a muslim, YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MOCKS YOUR FAITH WITH THEIR ACTIONS!!(note to all of you who who might think I'm being biased towards women: Islam is strict about these things, and if you claim to be Allah's follower, you'd better start acting like it)

I'm not really that devout or pious. Or religious. But I still know what's wrong and right in my religion. Like, having sex before marriage is wrong. Drinking is wrong. And drugs is wrong too (since it kills you and killing yourself is a sin. I think it's the biggest since you are ending the life that god gave to you for no reason.)

You're right. I think I will leave her. She will always be my friend but that's it right? Thanks SOH. Oh and a sidenote, I'm really not religious. Just a normal guy. Like most people. My best friend is religious though. But he has a real " I'll kick your ass attitude" for a religious guy. It's weird I know, but at least he protects me from being bullied.

Though you may not be pious, at least you are moral

okay so this girl has a crush on me, but i barely know her. her friends have been hounding me for the last week or two to ask her out, and i'm not really sure if i should, because i don't know if we would match, or what.

eventually about two days ago her friends finally cornered me and said i had a week to decide.

what do i do? i don't want to go out with someone i barely know, and even if a did im too much of a wimp to ask her out.

At 3/7/09 09:39 PM, fluffkomix wrote: okay so this girl has a crush on me, but i barely know her. her friends have been hounding me for the last week or two to ask her out, and i'm not really sure if i should, because i don't know if we would match, or what.

eventually about two days ago her friends finally cornered me and said i had a week to decide.

what do i do? i don't want to go out with someone i barely know, and even if a did im too much of a wimp to ask her out.

Why do her friends want you to go out with her? Cause if you barely know her, there's no point in a relationship with her. Tell them no.

At 3/7/09 09:39 PM, fluffkomix wrote: what do i do? i don't want to go out with someone i barely know, and even if a did im too much of a wimp to ask her out.

Barely know her?
Well here's my advice;
If her friends want to force something between
two people that barely know each other, then
the whole idea of having a relationship probably
doesn't mean much to them.

That should help you decide.
Who knows, it all depends on the girl.
Maybe her friends mutually decided you for her,
and are pushing the same thing on her?
Investigate a little, and please don't go out with her
if you know you'll be out of the relationship
within a week or so.

Hope this helps, no idea if it's legitimate or not
but it's what I would do.

oh, and be sure to use The Force. :]

At 3/7/09 09:39 PM, fluffkomix wrote: okay so this girl has a crush on me, but i barely know her. her friends have been hounding me for the last week or two to ask her out, and i'm not really sure if i should, because i don't know if we would match, or what.

Isn't that the whole point of going out; getting to know her?

eventually about two days ago her friends finally cornered me and said i had a week to decide.

what do i do? i don't want to go out with someone i barely know, and even if a did im too much of a wimp to ask her out.

Just go talk to her before asking her out. See if she's someone you'd want to hang out with, and if not, just don't ask her out.

As for K-Guare and Soldier, why mention relationships? Going out with someone doesn't mean you have to go into a relationship with them.

At 3/8/09 06:27 AM, Vincoid wrote: As for K-Guare and Soldier, why mention relationships? Going out with someone doesn't mean you have to go into a relationship with them.

I suppose I was using it as a blanket term. It's not that I think relationships and dating are the same, but it's just that I find dating somewhat....pointless

At 3/8/09 06:27 AM, Vincoid wrote:

Just go talk to her before asking her out. See if she's someone you'd want to hang out with, and if not, just don't ask her out.

well goddamn if i weren't enough of a wimp to talk to her personally, but she's always hanging out with her friends and im too big of a wimp to single her out.

Hey guys. Im having trouble with this relationship i want to start with my friend. We have known each for about 2 years now, and she has been dumped twice already. We both like each other, and I've talked to her about this, but she says it won't work out because she lives in a different town and we don't see each other any more. Its been like this for a month now and I can't stand it.

I know she might find other guys in her other town, but I don't want to risk getting her hopes up with some guy that might be a big bitch or will dump her again. I don't want to be seem overprotective, but I want whats best for her, whether its me or not. She also said she might come back to my high school in about 2 years, when i'm in 11th grade.

What should I do?

At 3/9/09 03:30 AM, PWN411N00BS12 wrote: Hey guys. Im having trouble with this relationship i want to start with my friend. We have known each for about 2 years now, and she has been dumped twice already. We both like each other, and I've talked to her about this, but she says it won't work out because she lives in a different town and we don't see each other any more. Its been like this for a month now and I can't stand it.

I know she might find other guys in her other town, but I don't want to risk getting her hopes up with some guy that might be a big bitch or will dump her again. I don't want to be seem overprotective, but I want whats best for her, whether its me or not. She also said she might come back to my high school in about 2 years, when i'm in 11th grade.

What should I do?

I know your situation. I only get to see my girl 3 times a week. If you can't be with her, then be like her big brother. Protect her. Make sure she knows how much you care about her. She'll come around sooner or later.

At 3/9/09 07:47 AM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote: I know your situation. I only get to see my girl 3 times a week. If you can't be with her, then be like her big brother. Protect her. Make sure she knows how much you care about her. She'll come around sooner or later.

Three times a week is a lot different than living in different towns, especially because I'm assuming neither of them can drive yet.

I think you should do your best to forget about starting a relationship with her for the time being, and then have some fun with other girls that live in your town. If you want to look at it this way, you could experiment, see what you like, etc. for the next two years, and then who knows? if you're single when she comes back to your school, maybe something will happen. But yeah, there's no need to get so hooked up on one girl. I forget the stat Vincoid uses, but it's something like...the female population doubling the male population? Basically, the chances of you finding a girl you like that lives in your town are very high :P.

At 3/8/09 05:55 PM, fluffkomix wrote: well goddamn if i weren't enough of a wimp to talk to her personally, but she's always hanging out with her friends and im too big of a wimp to single her out.

So? Why would you need to single her out? Can't you get to know her by hanging out with her and her friends?

They won't bite, try it.

At 3/9/09 03:30 AM, PWN411N00BS12 wrote: Hey guys. Im having trouble with this relationship i want to start with my friend. We have known each for about 2 years now, and she has been dumped twice already. We both like each other, and I've talked to her about this, but she says it won't work out because she lives in a different town and we don't see each other any more. Its been like this for a month now and I can't stand it.

Then stop it. There is no use in 'being together' when you can't be together. Unless you care about being seen as a guy with a girlfriend (as in ego driven, approval seeking asshole) there is no need to go there. It simply won't work out, no matter how much you like each other.

I know she might find other guys in her other town, but I don't want to risk getting her hopes up with some guy that might be a big bitch or will dump her again. I don't want to be seem overprotective, but I want whats best for her, whether its me or not. She also said she might come back to my high school in about 2 years, when i'm in 11th grade.

What should I do?

Stop worrying about her life and start living yours. Seriously, what the fuck: let her live HER life.

Also don't worry about coming across as over-protective because you're not. You're coming across as scared, insecure, controlling and egocentric. You might want to focus on fixing that instead of her life.

At 3/9/09 01:22 PM, Vincoid wrote:

At 3/8/09 05:55 PM, fluffkomix wrote: well goddamn if i weren't enough of a wimp to talk to her personally, but she's always hanging out with her friends and im too big of a wimp to single her out.

So? Why would you need to single her out? Can't you get to know her by hanging out with her and her friends?

They won't bite, try it.

she's shy as well, so she doesn't speak that much. it's easy to talk to her friends but with her she's just the girl who stops talking when im near.

so, there's a few problems that i have
1 there's this semi unattractive girl who kind of clings to me but I'm just too nice to tell her to leave me alone

help?

2 there's this girl who's in a different grade than me but I have known her for nearly all my life she's very hot and has massive tits and is really sweet and smart but kind of has bi-polar disorder

go for it???

At 3/9/09 11:20 PM, norcemastero wrote: and has massive tits

what does that have to do with anything?

At 3/5/09 05:00 AM, Vincoid wrote: Not that it really matters though because it's not like she won't like you anymore because of this missed opportunity.

Ok cool, I was hoping i didn't f up too badly.

What I suggest you do is hang out with her again. Just do your thing like you did last time, only now end it the way you should end it.

We're gonna go to the school play Wednesday after school. Would it be ok to kiss her after that when she drops me off at my house (she drives, i don't) even though it's not really a date date. I feel like I need to escalate things soon or she'll get too bored/frustrated to keep waiting.

At 3/9/09 11:20 PM, norcemastero wrote: help?

You're stupid, right?

What you need to do is so obvious, I simply won't help you.

At 3/10/09 02:49 AM, k14pc wrote: We're gonna go to the school play Wednesday after school. Would it be ok to kiss her after that when she drops me off at my house (she drives, i don't) even though it's not really a date date. I feel like I need to escalate things soon or she'll get too bored/frustrated to keep waiting.

Sounds to me like you already know what to do. Just go for it man ;)

Leaving a note in her locker so she'll see it first thing tomorrow: good/bad? It wasn't a meaningful note, just a short one about some stuff I usually tease her about. I figured I'd try it out, thought that it fit into the spontaneous category pretty well (first time i've ever left a note for her about anything :P). /shrug

Long-Story Short.

This girl, gets abused by her (of course) out of high-school deadbeat.

I come along, and we start talking, A lot, Hes extremely jealous, W/e.

Ive known her for a long time (like 4 years) but never thought about us having a chance together.

Hes basically imo(and she said this too), abusing her, forcing low-self-esteem, etc.

Im a super-nice guy and I (literally) couldnt believe this, so I'm totally fine with her, but im pissed at her Bf, who throws all his time and money into his truck, and only gives a shit about her for sex (basically).

So now im in a bind, If I had the balls I would confront this big,massive, asshole, which i don't.

She says she needs time too dump him, shes been with him for 2 years, which she has, And ive explained how he has basically made her feel like shit (ive given her subtle compliments and she wont believe a thing, I tell you they are true)and I think shes grown to him in a way, She is a very sweet,nicet girl and definitly does not belong with this asshat.

So, What should I do now, She just asks for time and stay friends for now, which is ok with me.

If you want a gigantic long assed story just ask, ill blow it out.

At 3/10/09 06:16 PM, Tykwa wrote: Long-Story Short.

This girl, gets abused by her (of course) out of high-school deadbeat.

I come along, and we start talking, A lot, Hes extremely jealous, W/e.

Ive known her for a long time (like 4 years) but never thought about us having a chance together.

Hes basically imo(and she said this too), abusing her, forcing low-self-esteem, etc.

Im a super-nice guy and I (literally) couldnt believe this, so I'm totally fine with her, but im pissed at her Bf, who throws all his time and money into his truck, and only gives a shit about her for sex (basically).

So now im in a bind, If I had the balls I would confront this big,massive, asshole, which i don't.

She says she needs time too dump him, shes been with him for 2 years, which she has, And ive explained how he has basically made her feel like shit (ive given her subtle compliments and she wont believe a thing, I tell you they are true)and I think shes grown to him in a way, She is a very sweet,nicet girl and definitly does not belong with this asshat.

So, What should I do now, She just asks for time and stay friends for now, which is ok with me.

If you want a gigantic long assed story just ask, ill blow it out.

First things first: How old are you? if he's jealous, but you're a minor, there's not much he can do legally.
Second: how old is she? if she's below the age of consent, he's raping her, consentual or not. That could put him away for a long time

At 3/10/09 06:16 PM, Tykwa wrote: So, What should I do now, She just asks for time and stay friends for now, which is ok with me.

Have a nice long talk about these problems and other important things in both of your lives with her, turn on all of your charm, look her in her eyes at the right moment and tell her that if she doesn't see that you two are meant for one another than she might as well stay with the loser. If you really have a chance with her that should work.

At 3/10/09 06:24 PM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote:

First things first: How old are you? if he's jealous, but you're a minor, there's not much he can do legally.
Second: how old is she? if she's below the age of consent, he's raping her, consentual or not. That could put him away for a long time

Im 17, Shes 17, Ans hes like, 19~

So.. Hmm...

I really wouldnt need too pull that whole convo on her would I?

So basically......I like this girl and I want to ask her out, problem is she switched schools and we hardly see each other anymore. So how would I go about getting to ask her out in a way that doesn't involve technology.

I also just realized how stupid my situation sounds typed out

And follow up question, What if I were to ask her out online? Would that be bad?

At 3/10/09 10:48 PM, Tykwa wrote:

At 3/10/09 06:24 PM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote:

First things first: How old are you? if he's jealous, but you're a minor, there's not much he can do legally.
Second: how old is she? if she's below the age of consent, he's raping her, consentual or not. That could put him away for a long time

Im 17, Shes 17, Ans hes like, 19~

So.. Hmm...

I really wouldnt need too pull that whole convo on her would I?

No. She's above the age. But, what I would do, is man up. Don't hit him, but let him know you got her back. If he abuses her, fucking take him out(not kill him) get help if you need it. And as for the relationship, don't worry about him. He can't hit you or her anyways. Deal with that when you come to it

anyone help me out here?

At 3/11/09 11:10 AM, fluffkomix wrote: anyone help me out here?

Just get to know her. If she strikes you as a person you like, go for it

At 3/11/09 05:06 PM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote:

At 3/11/09 11:10 AM, fluffkomix wrote: anyone help me out here?

Just get to know her. If she strikes you as a person you like, go for it

thats the thing. its really hard to get to know her.

i can't single her out cuz im a wimp, i cant get to know her with her friends cuz she stops talking when i get near, etc

At 3/11/09 06:53 PM, fluffkomix wrote:

At 3/11/09 05:06 PM, Soldierofhentai21 wrote:

At 3/11/09 11:10 AM, fluffkomix wrote: anyone help me out here?

Just get to know her. If she strikes you as a person you like, go for it

thats the thing. its really hard to get to know her.

i can't single her out cuz im a wimp, i cant get to know her with her friends cuz she stops talking when i get near, etc

You gotta initiate the convo,you hear? and find that courage hidden deep in your balls that all men have, and do it. If you don't get together, at least you might make a friend.