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Love hurts 2017-06-17 12:30:09 Reply

Me and my girlfriend broke up after 2 years last week.
It's been hard, i wake up everyday expecting to talk to her,
looking at my phone for replies that probably won't ever come.
She blocked me and deleted me from everything.
My phone number. Kik. Snapchat. Instagram. Facebook. Even youtube.
( we used to send each other playlists of our favorite songs, and i can't find them)

We broke up after 2 years because she went to college in California and i lived in Texas.
She got tired of me saying that i would come see her, and after this long not having gone once
Of being alone every night.

But we were soo deeply in love i thought it wouldn't matter.
Till last week, she told me she had been speaking to someone else.
They cuddled, she kissed him. She broke me.

The question is
Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.
Cause i'm lost without her. I haven't eaten an actual meal in days.
And i know shes probably happy with another man.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 12:57:22 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote: Me and my girlfriend broke up after 2 years last week.
It's been hard, i wake up everyday expecting to talk to her,
looking at my phone for replies that probably won't ever come.
She blocked me and deleted me from everything.
My phone number. Kik. Snapchat. Instagram. Facebook. Even youtube.
( we used to send each other playlists of our favorite songs, and i can't find them)

We broke up after 2 years because she went to college in California and i lived in Texas.
She got tired of me saying that i would come see her, and after this long not having gone once
Of being alone every night.

But we were soo deeply in love i thought it wouldn't matter.
Till last week, she told me she had been speaking to someone else.
They cuddled, she kissed him. She broke me.

The question is
Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.
Cause i'm lost without her. I haven't eaten an actual meal in days.
And i know shes probably happy with another man.

Don't worry man, you'll recover. Love is a maliceous form, it's either the worst or the best experience.
You'll find another girl, that will make you. That will give you love, happiness, and maybe even a family.
Girls change their mind almost every time. (Especially in a relationship).
Finding your true love is very hard and takes long days, months, or even whole years..

You don't have to care about her anymore,
She broke your kind heart,
She cheated on you.
And she will get punished for that, no matter how much she will pray to god.

I hope you will find happiness again and find an actual girl
That will love you no matter what.

-Regards, SimpleCubic1497

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 13:03:26 (edited 2017-06-17 13:08:47) Reply

Yep but I'm glad I learned at a younger age that the best state to be is comfortably knowing the FACT that people in general are attracted to what's in front of them. If you put your penis on a leash and give the chain for her to drag around then you'll end up lonely.
Society wants you to believe the 'right' thing to do is this whole "I'm wait until she cums back she gunna love the shit out of me again" thing but you should really be concerned about your own sanity and health in this situation.

Songs like THESE DON'T help and are created to pull the strings of people in that situation further reaffirming the self-destructive beliefs.
Don't start listening to them even if it's considered the norm.
Cigs and Alcohol don't do shit either. DON'T start on those.

Try and reach an emotionless state where you're only concerned what logically needs to be done, address your hunger and basic survival needs first and when you're comfortable then you can start addressing your emotional state.

Replace your thoughts of the typical

"she gunn' cum the fukk back"
"she'll realize she en't worth shit without me"
"I complete the shit out of hurrr da same way she cumplete da fukk outta me"

with

"Ok. I accept that right now I'm an emotional mess."
"How can I address this? What are my resources?"
"Are my friends qualified enough to be giving advice? Who should I listen to?"

EDIT:
Also most importantly is FORGIVE your Ex for doing that to you and don't judge her for it.
ACCEPT that it's natural for people to be attracted to what's in front of them.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 13:19:39 Reply

GHOST HER

IT ALWAYS WORKS
LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO'S NOT SADISTIC
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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 13:22:31 Reply

At 6/17/17 01:19 PM, OcarinaOfBlowing wrote: GHOST HER
IT ALWAYS WORKS
LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO'S NOT SADISTIC

whats that mean?


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 13:23:23 Reply

I watched a friend burn to death and listened to his dying screams.

But hey, yeah, love, it matters or something.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 13:49:41 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote: Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.

Yes. Between the ages of 15 and 18 I was in two fairly serious relationships. I had left school at age 13 and didn't really have a life outside of them, so the level of attachment was extremely unhealthy. Toward the end of 2013 it was already pretty clear that both relationships were dying - I was fighting constantly with one and barely talking at all with the other.

Since many will be curious, they did know about each other. One said it initially bothered her, but after seeing a guy that would intentionally try to make her jealous when she was around she said that me seeing other people didn't bother her because I still made time for her and treated her with respect. The other girl was somewhat upset but didn't make a big deal about it until SHE started seeing another guy. To the best of my knowledge she did this as a way to blame me for the breakup rather than herself or the other guy.

The breakups happened within about a month of each other. There was no immediate heartbreak, mainly because neither really took me by surprise. It wasn't until years later that I was finally able to sit down and cry about it, and I'm still trying to figure out how I can form any sort of trust with anyone.

I can't say how long it will take for you to recover (if you do) but I can give a rough idea of what it might look like. You may lose your attraction or respect for her, or you may not. If you remain attached, that attachment will likely go into a state of hibernation because there's nothing to continue stimulating that connection. You'll still miss the feeling of being from her but it will likely become detached from her as a person, and you'll find yourself missing the feeling more than her in particular.

Also not sure why I'm sharing this but it's a very good video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ7LdrAqL0Y


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 14:17:14 (edited 2017-06-17 14:17:56) Reply

At 6/17/17 01:23 PM, FUNKbrs wrote: I watched a friend burn to death and listened to his dying screams.

But hey, yeah, love, it matters or something.

Pain comes in many shapes and forms my brother.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 14:17:36 (edited 2017-06-17 14:18:07) Reply

At 6/17/17 12:33 PM, Jurornumber3 wrote: Nope. I've never loved anyone.

I guess it's one of the benefits of being emotionally unavailable. You never have to deal with heartbreak.

That sounds great right about now.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 15:28:28 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote: The question is
Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.

yes
i am deeply in love right now. we're just friends, and i'm pretty content with that. (just being in her presence absolutely makes my day) she used to love talking to me, but recently, she started to slowly (over a few weeks) seem to stop. then, suddenly, she started to like talking to me again! it was like magic! she was laughing at my jokes again, we were enjoying each other's company, and it really reminded me how much i love her. it's just stressful and i get worried she doesn't enjoy talking to me sometimes. i wake up and she is literally the first thing on my mind. "where is she" "what is she doing" "i wonder if shes enjoying her summer"

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 16:41:40 Reply

Yeah. Relationships are fun.

The late, great prophet nails it.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 17:50:23 Reply

I know it's tough but what really can you do besides stalk her where she lives?

lol, aside from that you unfortunately just have to get over it.

I was so into this one girl on this site that for years I only showed up to talk with her, we exchanged numbers became friends and sort of exchanged lewd photos, but I was a dick and she moved somewhere and got with some other dude and that really sucks but she doesn't even want to talk to me anymore so I have to just live and learn.

You should do the same.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 19:39:20 (edited 2017-06-17 19:40:45) Reply

She broke me.
poor guy

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 20:31:04 Reply

As Alfred Lord Tennyson said, "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

So quit your whining. Some of us can't get love even for the briefest of periods, much less two years. You insensitive jerk.

I'm only half kidding.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 22:51:34 Reply

its give and take. often not balanced but its like that. everyones done the people in question though haven't they? isn't this just one big party that falls flat sometimes but picks back up later?

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-17 23:23:22 Reply

ive recently gotten out of a 3 year relationship and i wanna die

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-18 00:33:05 Reply

I'm just going to quote Nazareth lyrics...

"Love hurts
Love scars
Love wounds and marks
Any heart not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain
Love hurts
Ooh love hurts"

You're young.

Don't let it mess you up too much, but let it mess you up a little so the next time you fall in love you know how to do it.

Or at least understand the power of love.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-18 00:49:42 Reply

You've let yourself be attached. That was the problem.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-18 07:02:14 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote: Have you ever loved someone

No, and @Satan shall take me if I ever do.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-18 12:06:43 Reply

At 6/17/17 01:22 PM, EhWasTaken wrote:
At 6/17/17 01:19 PM, OcarinaOfBlowing wrote: GHOST HER
IT ALWAYS WORKS
LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO'S NOT SADISTIC
whats that mean?

Ignore her and never speak to her again.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-18 23:07:42 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote: Me and my girlfriend broke up after 2 years last week.
It's been hard, i wake up everyday expecting to talk to her,
looking at my phone for replies that probably won't ever come.
She blocked me and deleted me from everything.

been there bro, after 6 years of dating a girl she split, did the same shit, the lets be friends thing, next day blocked everything,and was fuckin another guy basically the day after that, of COURSE that wasnt all planned out in advance, so just, know thats what yours is doin and you'll replace all that hurt with just, hatin the bitch, trust me it will grow to straight up hate.

Read the bible, women are fucking evil dude.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 03:00:32 Reply

At 6/18/17 12:06 PM, OcarinaOfBlowing wrote:
At 6/17/17 01:22 PM, EhWasTaken wrote:
At 6/17/17 01:19 PM, OcarinaOfBlowing wrote: GHOST HER
IT ALWAYS WORKS
LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO'S NOT SADISTIC
whats that mean?
Ignore her and never speak to her again.

I really probably should.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 03:01:09 Reply

At 6/17/17 11:23 PM, Hoodie wrote: ive recently gotten out of a 3 year relationship and i wanna die

suicide pact!


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 04:36:52 (edited 2017-06-19 04:38:29) Reply

DON'T LISTEN to all this 'advice' encouraging you to be a piece of shit grumpy angry grandpa.

I bet anyone, ANYONE wouldn't think twice about sticking it in if a bunch of random Jennifer Lawrences appeared out of nowhere and expressed interest.

FORGIVE your girl. Move on. Take this exp as FEEDBACK; learn from your mistakes and when you're ready get back on your feet again and improve yourself enough so you don't get Spermwarred with the next one.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 08:49:49 Reply

I've been in your skin, and in that girl's skin.
I know it sucks to leave you, but in my experience leaving ... At first with the other guy everything was cool, but after a month I got tired. It was simply an excuse to end something that had to end.
Do not worry, at first it's weird, it takes a while to get used to not being with her, but you'll find a woman who will make you feel happy again, surely when you're happy being alone. That's cool, because you can choose to have it or not, and you choose to have it because it will be worth it, you do not need it, you want it.
Anyway, a lot of encouragement, sorry for my bad English (Spanish girl) and if you want to chat, you can message me!

*Lot of Hugs*

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 09:58:29 Reply

At 6/18/17 11:07 PM, Leidolfr wrote: trust me it will grow to straight up hate.

Hate is supposed to be how you control the world, not how the world controls you.

You seem to be confusing hate with love.


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-19 11:35:54 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:33 PM, Jurornumber3 wrote: Nope. I've never loved anyone.

I guess it's one of the benefits of being emotionally unavailable. You never have to deal with heartbreak.

True but you never get to feel love, and trust me its amazing. Until I fell In love myself I thought the same thing

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-20 10:57:42 Reply

been there dude its hard but you'll survive... only a woman is capable of being as cold as that...


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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-20 12:32:47 Reply

At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote:

Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.

There's your problem right there.
You've allowed yourself to become dependent on another human being. Always a bad idea outside of a like threatening situation.
Whenever you decide to let your entire existence be dictated by another person, it can, and will, always end in devastation.
That is not to say you can't love and be loved. It's just that you have to always keep a part of yourself. Never give anyone everything, because then there's nothing left.
Most women want a partner, not a dependent.

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Response to Love hurts 2017-06-20 12:58:40 Reply

yes it pains everyday to remember how I treated her