At 6/17/17 12:30 PM, EhWasTaken wrote:
Have you ever loved someone so much, they became the reason you woke up in the morning.
Yes. Between the ages of 15 and 18 I was in two fairly serious relationships. I had left school at age 13 and didn't really have a life outside of them, so the level of attachment was extremely unhealthy. Toward the end of 2013 it was already pretty clear that both relationships were dying - I was fighting constantly with one and barely talking at all with the other.
Since many will be curious, they did know about each other. One said it initially bothered her, but after seeing a guy that would intentionally try to make her jealous when she was around she said that me seeing other people didn't bother her because I still made time for her and treated her with respect. The other girl was somewhat upset but didn't make a big deal about it until SHE started seeing another guy. To the best of my knowledge she did this as a way to blame me for the breakup rather than herself or the other guy.
The breakups happened within about a month of each other. There was no immediate heartbreak, mainly because neither really took me by surprise. It wasn't until years later that I was finally able to sit down and cry about it, and I'm still trying to figure out how I can form any sort of trust with anyone.
I can't say how long it will take for you to recover (if you do) but I can give a rough idea of what it might look like. You may lose your attraction or respect for her, or you may not. If you remain attached, that attachment will likely go into a state of hibernation because there's nothing to continue stimulating that connection. You'll still miss the feeling of being from her but it will likely become detached from her as a person, and you'll find yourself missing the feeling more than her in particular.
Also not sure why I'm sharing this but it's a very good video.