Growing Up In Your Family 2012-04-17 20:17:15
When it comes to many people in the world, we are raised by adults. Whether they be our parents, grandparents, one parent, or foster parents. We all come from someplace, somewhere, something, and are raised by someone. Those who do raise us, have their own beliefs that they themselves had required from those who raised them, and thus they were molded to either be better than that of those who raised them or to shun those beliefs in place of others that they themselves see to be healthier or with better morality for the child that they are raising.
It is not uncommon for one who has life that they want this life to become better, to be all it can be, many who raise their young want this. For your child to live a long and happy life, this either follows in the form of traditions set down through out the cycle of life from those who raised you to your own child. This makes sense, therefore to many it is common sense.
Many will tell you that there is no guide on raising your child, there is no manual, and they are right. For the human species is too complex to follow the same patterns that other species do when raising their young. There are signs though, because although we are all too complex we are all also still animals and therefore we have the inner workings of animals.
Children learn from observing their adult parents, the ones raising them. They follow their guidelines, beliefs, and much more. They are very impressionable at this young of an age... so what is said to them will usually stick, until the teenage years and that is when they truly begin to develop through puberty and thus different conflicting feelings become a part of them. The question is though, what should fill the minds of children? What usually does?
In my family I was raised to be a Christian, to reject many different things in the world as false. Part of my family are racists. A majority of my family are Republican conservatives, and most of them don't even know what those terms really mean anymore. I was taught that many different people in this world was evil, either by their skin color, where they came from, what their beliefs were, or how they voted. I was taught to reject evolution and believe straight forward in creationism and all the stories of the bible. That's pretty much where it would all come back to is and was always the bible. I was a child though, I didn't necessarily need any evidence for something my parents told me, because I believed it completely. As I got older though, I started to question more and more... I became agnostic over time and stayed this way for many years.
Now for those of you who have read this far (or at least looked for hot button words through skimming) know that this is a religion thread for the most part. Well you see that is where I am intrigued. I was raised in a way by my father and was told things by some members of my family that if I took it all in I would be a different person from what I am today. However my mother and another part of my family taught me to be kind and caring to people and be open minded. Throughout the years I was open to many different ideas and people and I still am today. I went through a lot to get there though, questioning who I was as a person, my religion, and those within it as well.
I want to know other people's stories though. If you are an atheist, I want to know your story of whether or not you were brought up into a religious household and/or community and how you came to be an atheist. Also if you are a religious individual and you too were brought up in a religious household and/or community, why are you still religious and have you given the side of the atheists a fair shot and done the research yourself?
I wonder if raising children in a religious household is harmful to them. By teaching them one thing, but not teaching them another? We know that religion can and has been harmful in the world, but within one's own household, what effects do they have on that of the children? Is it brainwashing or is it merely tradition that is not brought into question?