Mostly, being told I'm "not the only one" just makes me feel like a useless whiner, which in turn makes me feel worse obviously. It's like, of course I'm not the only one, that doesn't mean it sucks any less, the less people feeling this way the better, right? When people say that it just makes them seem condescending at best.
Exactly. It ultimately goes to show that the person doesn't understand the problem. It's a well intended argument, it just isn't well thought out/ you know? It's meant to be comforting like "you're not alone in this" except it's missing the kindness factor of that statement. It's just an easy answer to give.
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