At 11/3/08 05:23 PM, Bramly-apple wrote:
And how many kids watch Naruto and didn't manage to kill their friends?
Irrelevant, they still imitate it.
I agree with you about kids needing to be bought up more mature, and the best to make develope maturity is to give kids the responsibility to fend for themselves sometimes.
Parents need to teach their children better than they do. just putting your kid in front of a tv to let em watch imported cartoons of superhuman fighters beating each other to death and slinging energy balls around and not teaching them anything is begging for trouble. Maturity needs to be taught, its not something that develops naturally.
well.... it CAN, under the right conditions, but kids today are not in that kind of environment. Today's environment teaches children to be irresponsible and outright stupid. Kids today can gorge themselves on food and not have to hunt it down or grow it. and many parents don't lift a finger to control their kid. (hence, why they are fat bastards) They have little control over their children, even in a public place. Either that or they simply try to keep their kid in line by yelling and threatening them with a beating every time they step out of line and the kid doesn't learn any respect for the parents. In time the kid is too old to beat, the kid knows it, and knows the parents can no longer effectively do anything to them.
Which brings me to my next point. Kids today are not taught respect. They neither give it nor do they receive it. When a parent calls on their kid, you usually hear "What?" often in an annoyed tone. Parents should never tolerate such behavior. they need to teach their children to respect them, and in turn they should respect their children. On the flip side, Parents need to stop spoiling their children by giving them what they want when they want it. Make them EARN their keep, even if its by doing menial chores around the house. Also too many parents are too willing to bend to their child's will just to make them stop whatever they are doing. If the child says "I want" and you say "no" and the child makes a scene, punish the child, don't reward such behavior by saying "ok fine, just shut up." Remind the child that they are only embarrassing themselves by making a scene and go about your day as usual. show the little punk brat that you are not phased by his behavior. When you get home, punish the child in a way that will torment em. For instance, taking away something they like, perhaps their video game or radio, computer, or phone privileges.
Remind your children who is in control and who will remain in control. YOU. If your child decides to try turning rebel, handle the situation accordingly. as he tries to overpower you by acting worse and worse, keep piling on the punishment, all the while, letting the kid know he can end his suffering at any time by apologizing and acting right.
If your kid breaks the law, let em go to prison. Don't bail the little bastard out. Let em have a taste of real life. Too many parents try to shield their children from the "real world" then later the child becomes an adult, enters the real world and gets swept away by bad influences.
Basically what I'm trying to say is this: Keep your child's life in perspective. Don't allow them to believe that they are in control of anything that they are not indeed in control of. Make them personally responsible for their own actions, but still push them in the right direction. make them do their homework before they do anything fun. assert the necessity of a good education. If the child falters, put em back in the right path. if they insist on going down the wrong road, get tough with them. you are the parent, you are in control.
Don't allow your child[ren] to become another statistic.