Something I've been wondering, do you consider men who are attracted to very feminine and passable trans women or crossdressers gay?
Increasingly as I've gotten older, I've realized that I'm not attracted to men that look like men at all. I've also realized that the thing that draws me to women like that is their feminine parts... if I see a pretty face, breasts, and a nice body I just don't care about there being a penis attached to it. Genitalia is a tiny factor in determining if I'm attracted to someone.
When I bring this up, I always get the inevitable WELL THEY'LL NEVER SCIENTIFICALLY BE FEMALE HURRR. I know that. I'm not mentally retarded. I know that being attracted to someone with male genetalia is technically homosexual. But if my subjective idea of what a "woman" just includes ones that are male, who's to say that I'm gay, in the typical sense? Since when did emotions lines up with what's technically correct anyways? Feelings rarely make a huge amount of logical sense, and that's just how I feel, and who's to say that if someone feels like a woman and makes an effort to look/act like one that they can't call themselves one?
Seems like an issue that people get pointlessly pissed stubborn about. "I refuse to let them tell me to call them women because they're genetically male!" Fuck off.