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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-14 14:39:32 Reply

At 4/14/10 01:15 AM, Sensationalism wrote: If it doesn't come up, there's no reason to talk about it.

To be honest, unless I plan to date them I see no reason to mention it. Even then, it's a "bi the way" (to quote TVTrope (is that right?)) thing where I just casually say it. I wouldn't expect them to engage in threesomes and I'm not going to be in their face I like both sexes (e.g. I wouldn't tell a girlfriend how sexy a guy looks, unless they actually mention it and ask for my opinion). I just find my sexuality as part of me, just like I'd let them know my beliefs on certain things and what mental problems I have. If someone's going to date me, I'd rather they know at least most things about me. However, in terms of people I talk to, if it comes up, well, it comes up. Otherwise, I'm not going to tell them.

I told my ex just off hand that I was bisexual and I met the girl I'm into at a gay/bi chat (she's pansexual, with a preference to men, work that shit out). Even then, my sexuality is only bought up when it's relevant. I'll only bring up to my ex that I like the same sex as well if I've met a guy I'm into or if I'm questioning how homophobic she is. The girl I'm into, well, she brings up my sexuality more than I do myself.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-14 15:53:07 Reply

At 4/14/10 02:39 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: Even then, it's a "bi the way" (to quote TVTrope (is that right?))

Because why waste a good opportunity to get people hooked on this site


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-14 17:53:16 Reply

At 4/14/10 08:27 AM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
At 4/14/10 01:15 AM, Sensationalism wrote: Being bi it's not a big deal, especially when I'm in a relationship because if it's with a dude I guess people assume I'm straight and if I'm with a girl they'd probably assume I'm lez.
I confused many people when I first dated a guy. Even my best friend still thinks I am gay. I just never really bother to correct anyone because I don't care.

Since we're linking to tvtropes now...

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-14 19:36:15 Reply

At 4/14/10 05:53 PM, Sensationalism wrote: Since we're linking to tvtropes now...

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We're like ninjas, or chameleons.

That reminded me, when I was talking to a friend about my sexuality (I never bothered to come out to him, I think someone else told him or I think he figured it out when I rocked up to a party with another guy), he said "oh, you are bisexual, I think that makes sense, like the guy from torchwood who will sleep with anyone as long as they are attractive enough"

Jack Harkness in particular is described as 'omnisexual' by the series's creators, having come from a future where the Kirk approach to first contact is common, and one character believes he will go for anyone who is "gorgeous enough"

Thanks, popular culture. :-/


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-15 03:11:17 Reply

At 4/14/10 07:36 PM, HungarianSupermarket wrote: Thanks, popular culture. :-/

Hey, Jack Harkness is awesome! Don't be hatin'


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-15 10:47:35 Reply

At 4/15/10 03:11 AM, JohnnyWang wrote:
At 4/14/10 07:36 PM, HungarianSupermarket wrote: Thanks, popular culture. :-/
Hey, Jack Harkness is awesome! Don't be hatin'

Harness be rollin', they hatin', hoping to catch him riding dirty.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-15 13:21:27 Reply

At 4/15/10 10:47 AM, Lost-Chances wrote: hoping to catch him riding dirty.

Is he ever ddoing anything but?


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-15 23:08:11 Reply

Also, I just found out today that Joey Comeau (part of A Softer World) is queer (although he also goes on to slag off the term Bisexual). First Ricky and now Joey. I swear to go that my gay-dar is broken.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 00:28:00 Reply

At 4/15/10 01:21 PM, JohnnyWang wrote:
At 4/15/10 10:47 AM, Lost-Chances wrote: hoping to catch him riding dirty.
Is he ever ddoing anything but?

Hahahahaahaa!!! Nice one!

At 4/15/10 11:08 PM, Lost-Chances wrote: Also, I just found out today that Joey Comeau (part of A Softer World) is queer (although he also goes on to slag off the term Bisexual). First Ricky and now Joey. I swear to go that my gay-dar is broken.

I can't tell what people are either. I don't think my gaydar is broken, I think I just never got one.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 02:17:36 Reply

I'M bismexual.

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 08:28:51 Reply

At 4/14/10 07:36 PM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
Jack Harkness in particular is described as 'omnisexual' by the series's creators, having come from a future where the Kirk approach to first contact is common, and one character believes he will go for anyone who is "gorgeous enough"
Thanks, popular culture. :-/

So apon further reading on omni/pansexuality, I'm fucking confused. What exactly makes this different from bisexuality?

I'm a people person. If I like someone, I like them. And whether they have a penis or vagina doesn't bother me. But that is my definition of bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just too black-and-white about there being two genders, male and female?


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 14:55:11 Reply

Hello, I found this club, and it peeked my curiousity. I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).

I'm not sure how to handle this, though. My sister is very open minded, and I think she suspects it. My brother, on the other hand, is near-homophobic.

Any thoughts on how to deal with this situation?

I'd really appreciate it...

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 17:34:09 Reply

At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote: Hello, I found this club, and it peeked my curiousity. I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).

I'm not sure how to handle this, though. My sister is very open minded, and I think she suspects it. My brother, on the other hand, is near-homophobic.

Any thoughts on how to deal with this situation?

I'd really appreciate it...

Well, I'd say might as well come out with it. He may be near-homophobic, but he's not entirely.

Sorry, I can't really give good advice, my own coming out was rather smooth. My parents were surprisingly understanding, and I immediately went into the military after high school where all the guys thought it was cool that they could still look at porn around me...

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-16 23:03:57 Reply

Happy Day of Silence :D

I participated, i put a big piece a tape with "Shut Up" pre-printed on it.

I got a lot of glares and a few remarks, which made me kinda angry. But for the most part, it was fine. At least 80% of my friends participated.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 02:39:00 Reply

At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote:
Any thoughts on how to deal with this situation?

I'd really appreciate it...

I would tell him to fuck off, give him a few slaps, and stop being a retard. It's your lifestyle not his.

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 04:09:46 Reply

At 4/16/10 08:28 AM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
At 4/14/10 07:36 PM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
Jack Harkness in particular is described as 'omnisexual' by the series's creators, having come from a future where the Kirk approach to first contact is common, and one character believes he will go for anyone who is "gorgeous enough"
Thanks, popular culture. :-/
So apon further reading on omni/pansexuality, I'm fucking confused. What exactly makes this different from bisexuality?

I'm a people person. If I like someone, I like them. And whether they have a penis or vagina doesn't bother me. But that is my definition of bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just too black-and-white about there being two genders, male and female?

I consider myself a bisexual but I *could* be called a pansexual, because rather than limiting myself to males and females, I'd have no probably being with people transitioning or identifying as a gender different from their sex, whatever, I don't care. Love is love, right?

At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote: Hello, I found this club, and it peeked my curiousity. I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).

I believe you mean it piqued your curiosity ;)
I'm attracted to both in a person, but definitely attracted to looks first.

I'm not sure how to handle this, though. My sister is very open minded, and I think she suspects it. My brother, on the other hand, is near-homophobic.

Any thoughts on how to deal with this situation?

I'd really appreciate it...

You don't really have to tell them unless you are in a relationship with the same sex, and even then it's up to you whether to say anything or not. If you want some support, telling your sister might be a good thing, depending on how she reacts to the information. Remember even if people react negatively at first, they may just need some time to adjust and could come around. Your brother may even be more supportive than you think. Hating a group of people is harder to do when you know one, especially if it is someone you love. Maybe you'll be his exception. Who knows?

At 4/16/10 11:03 PM, hhcash wrote: Happy Day of Silence :D

I participated, i put a big piece a tape with "Shut Up" pre-printed on it.

I got a lot of glares and a few remarks, which made me kinda angry. But for the most part, it was fine. At least 80% of my friends participated.

Very awesome, glad most of your friends participated as well!


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 04:10:53 Reply

At 4/16/10 08:28 AM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
At 4/14/10 07:36 PM, HungarianSupermarket wrote:
Jack Harkness in particular is described as 'omnisexual' by the series's creators, having come from a future where the Kirk approach to first contact is common, and one character believes he will go for anyone who is "gorgeous enough"
Thanks, popular culture. :-/
So apon further reading on omni/pansexuality, I'm fucking confused. What exactly makes this different from bisexuality?

I'm a people person. If I like someone, I like them. And whether they have a penis or vagina doesn't bother me. But that is my definition of bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just too black-and-white about there being two genders, male and female?

I consider myself a bisexual but I *could* be called a pansexual, because rather than limiting myself to males and females, I'd have no probably being with people transitioning or identifying as a gender different from their sex, whatever, I don't care. Love is love, right?

At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote: Hello, I found this club, and it peeked my curiousity. I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).

I believe you mean it piqued your curiosity ;)
I'm attracted to both in a person, but definitely attracted to looks first.

I'm not sure how to handle this, though. My sister is very open minded, and I think she suspects it. My brother, on the other hand, is near-homophobic.

Any thoughts on how to deal with this situation?

I'd really appreciate it...

You don't really have to tell them unless you are in a relationship with the same sex, and even then it's up to you whether to say anything or not. If you want some support, telling your sister might be a good thing, depending on how she reacts to the information. Remember even if people react negatively at first, they may just need some time to adjust and could come around. Your brother may even be more supportive than you think. Hating a group of people is harder to do when you know one, especially if it is someone you love. Maybe you'll be his exception. Who knows?

At 4/16/10 11:03 PM, hhcash wrote: Happy Day of Silence :D

I participated, i put a big piece a tape with "Shut Up" pre-printed on it.

I got a lot of glares and a few remarks, which made me kinda angry. But for the most part, it was fine. At least 80% of my friends participated.

Very awesome, glad most of your friends participated as well!


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 04:27:38 Reply

Ok, perhaps telling my sister isn't a bad idea. I'm sure she can come up with something to smoothen the situation. My mother believes I'm gay anyway, she thinks I've been in a relationship with my best friend for 5 years now...

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 04:43:32 Reply

It's weird how parents think like that. My parents are like that too since I'm always at my friends playing x-box.

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 07:23:02 Reply

At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote: I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).

...What the fuck?


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 07:39:14 Reply

At 4/17/10 07:23 AM, Lost-Chances wrote:
At 4/16/10 02:55 PM, Athlas wrote: I have a strong suspicion that I'm bisexual, meaning I'm attracted by a person's personality, rather than their appearance (e.g. being male or female).
...What the fuck?
I was lurking.

Your reading it the same way I did at first. He doesn't mean that being attracted to a persons personality is deemed as Bisexual, he means he can see past your gender, and if someone is a genuinely loving person, or whatever, he can love that. Not the appearance, meaning male or female. He loves the person, not the genital.

I got lost there for a second too.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-17 07:46:45 Reply

At 4/17/10 04:09 AM, Sensationalism wrote: I consider myself a bisexual but I *could* be called a pansexual, because rather than limiting myself to males and females, I'd have no probably being with people transitioning or identifying as a gender different from their sex, whatever, I don't care. Love is love, right?

With that logic, I too would then be pansexual. But I refuse to go by that because I think its just another stupid label to put on things. Even if I were to be with a person who is between genders, I would consider myself bi.
I am a people person. Let's just call that bisexual.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 05:54:08 Reply

At 4/17/10 07:39 AM, Renu wrote:
Your reading it the same way I did at first. He doesn't mean that being attracted to a persons personality is deemed as Bisexual, he means he can see past your gender, and if someone is a genuinely loving person, or whatever, he can love that. Not the appearance, meaning male or female. He loves the person, not the genital.

I got lost there for a second too.

Thanks for explaining that, mate. I should have been a bit more clear :-)

I think I'll tell my sister today, I'm a bit nervous though...

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 09:37:32 Reply

At 4/18/10 05:54 AM, Athlas wrote: I think I'll tell my sister today, I'm a bit nervous though...

Well, let's put it this way, what's the chances of having a same sex relationship? If it's pretty slim, why tell? Why come out before you actually get into a same sex relationship and feel good about it?


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 14:55:30 Reply

At 4/18/10 09:37 AM, Lost-Chances wrote:
At 4/18/10 05:54 AM, Athlas wrote: I think I'll tell my sister today, I'm a bit nervous though...
Well, let's put it this way, what's the chances of having a same sex relationship? If it's pretty slim, why tell? Why come out before you actually get into a same sex relationship and feel good about it?

That was my logic until I dated a guy. No point coming out if I was only going out with girls lol.

But on the other hand, now that I have come out, I feel great about it. So if you think it is a positive thing and you want it to be out there, by all means tell her.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 17:14:50 Reply

I say tell your sister. Maybe not because she may have some right to know (which is arguable), but rather because talking about it and having it be something other than just your secret is likely to feel better. Merely vocalizing how you feel to another person is surprisingly helpful when it comes to coming to terms with something and having it feel real.

Though, I don't know if I would necessarily recommend telling your brother until you're totally sure of your sexuality and/or are in a relationship.

At 4/16/10 11:03 PM, hhcash wrote: Happy Day of Silence :D

I totally forgot about Day of Silence until midday when one of my friends started writing messages to me instead of saying them, and by that point I was just like, "whatever, I'll do it next year."


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 17:31:30 Reply

Okay, I delayed telling my sister. I couldn't work up the nerve. Thanks for all the constructive advice, everyone!

I think telling my therapist first may be a better idea. She's very open-minded, and I think it'll feel good to talk about it to someone.

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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-18 17:42:25 Reply

At 4/18/10 05:31 PM, Athlas wrote: I think telling my therapist first may be a better idea. She's very open-minded, and I think it'll feel good to talk about it to someone.

She's paid to listen to you and not make judgements, so you can do if you want. I'd personally want to come out to someone who can speak their mind without being sued or fired, but do whatever you want.

I also found out about the day of silence thing a bit late, at about 1am the following morning. At that point, I just figured "eh, American thing".


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I forgot all about Day of Silence and wasn't even reminded until the next day so obviously I didn't participate. I think I was at home that day anyway so it wouldn't have mattered.


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Response to Newgrounds Gay/bisexual Users Club 2010-04-19 04:37:20 Reply

I have never even head of day of silence. Anyone care to explain? Guess its not an Australian thing.


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