A question for the gentlemen...

[Perseph0ne6]

I really need some advice on my boyfriend. I love him very much, and he's the best boyfriend I've ever dated, but there is just one thing I can't understand...

Whenever we can have sex he's pretty good about foreplay and romance... pretty much... but a lot of times his idea of foreplay is taking his pants off. But hey, I'm not complaining about that, no one is don juan 24/7.

BUT whenever I can't have sex with him (ie that time of the month>, he teases me, flirts with me, and tries to seduce me relentlessly. Seriosly, he's a pussy-tease. It really frustrates me, and hurts my feelings. Why would he only give me that much romantic attention if we can't have sex? I mean sweet kisses and hugs are one thing, but what he does is going a lot farther.

Its a rule of mine to never tease women, and especially never tease men, its rude and mean. Can any of you offer advice on what I can do, or why he's doing this? I've tried asking him but he won't give me any answers. :(

[Testerline]

At 3/29/03 03:58 PM, Perseph0ne6 wrote:

He isnt teasing you its jut he cant do the nasty with you so he is getting what sexual contact he can. Tell him that it gets your juices flowing when he does that stuff and he will do it more often. Or he is just a moron.

[Keyser-Soze]

Maybe he tries to use the foreplay as a replacement for sex.

Make it clear that you don't like that when you can't have sex.

[Ozcar]

Maybe he just want sex... after all this is how the normal things work:

Girls: First, fall in love, later sex.

Guys: First the make sex, later they fall in love.

Almost all the times the guys only look for sex (Ask me that... I'm a guy) and the girls first need love...

But this isn't all the time...

Try to find another boyfriend, this boyfriend of yours only wants you for sex... or you too?

"Spread the love U2"

[Nitz1000]

Perhaps you should talk it over with your boyfriend, and not strangers on the internet.

[Perseph0ne6]

At 3/29/03 04:04 PM, Nitz1000 wrote: Perhaps you should talk it over with your boyfriend, and not strangers on the internet.

Riiiight, well that was obviously my first inclination, and I did try, but he won't give me a straight answer or any answer at all. I think he's embarassed about why he's doing it.

I've tried over and over and I finally gave up because I don't want to be a nag. But I really need help understand this. So instead of asking our mutual guys friends and potentially embarassing him, I went to the internet.

[Perseph0ne6]

At 3/29/03 04:00 PM, Testies wrote:

At 3/29/03 03:58 PM, Perseph0ne6 wrote:

Tell him that it gets your juices flowing when he does that stuff and he will do it more often:

Good point.

[House-Of-Leaves]

So, tell you something. I'm 25, and I've had the same problem with MINE. And here's how I dealt with it.

I told him the truth. I gave him dirty details. I appologize to anyone that's offended by this, but girls? If you've got this problem? It works.

Tell him, flat out, that because he's not giving you foreplay, he's just no good in bed. With women, we have to get -ready- to have something there. Erections take...what? 30 seconds? Wake up, guys. Us women sorta need our bodies to be physically ready to take what you're gonna give us. That means turning us on.

That means some goddamned foreplay.

Be graphic with him. The (sorta patronizing) words I used to straighten him out: "Honey. I know you're excited. I know I'm cute, and you want me. But I gotta be wet to take that thing. You just undressing does NOT TURN ME ON. The removal of clothing is one of the most un-erotic things a person does. So tell you what. If you don't turn me on? I'm not giving it up anymore. I'm not here for you to use, I'm here to enjoy it, too. If you don't let me enjoy it, and turn me on? Then it's pointless.'

Now, he'll pout. He'll take it as a blow to his ego, most likely.

But be firm. Tell him that once he's there, and things are going? He's great. But in order to make pasta, you gotta boil the water, dont you? Same thing.

[cantprovenothin]

Maybe he's just pokin at ya for anal =O)

[Testerline]

At 3/29/03 04:10 PM, Perseph0ne6 wrote: Good point.

for me at least it is a big turn on to give my girl pleasure so whever she has somthing she wants to try i am game ( unless it is really wierd but she isnt like that)

[shazzam]

At 3/29/03 04:27 PM, cantprovenothin wrote: Maybe he's just pokin at ya for anal =O)

Lol, Sorry but i really don't care about this.

[Taors]

At 3/29/03 04:25 PM, House_Of_Leaves wrote: Erections take...what? 30 seconds?

More like 2 seconds.

[DJcole]

At 3/29/03 04:27 PM, cantprovenothin wrote: Maybe he's just pokin at ya for anal =O)

Thats the funniest shit iv read on this bbs. great work.

lol, im sorry, but if none of that works just bitch slap him and go nun.
works for me and the ladies.