First a little background on me... I'm in the process of getting divorced, pretty much just waiting for her to sign and paying alimony until the divorce is final. She stated at one point that she intended to 'bleed me dry' if I left her, and considering how pathetic my paychecks usually are, she seems to be getting her way. Nevertheless, in a little over a year I can have the judge finalize the divorce without her consent, and I will be free.
I've moved on with my life since then. For those who don't know, I am in my second semester back in college, did really well last semester and I'm dong pretty good so far this term, and I'm looking forward to the life I am working to build. I'm really excited about it. But I need to build it before I can be ready to start again in the relationship department, and that means that i am actively trying not to get involved in a relationship.
Problem is, matters of the heart aren't always rational. This girl I went to high school with, she was a sophomore my senior year, always thought she was cool but didnt know her, like, really well in high school... Now I work with her, and I've worked with her a lot over the last six months... Usually in a job where we spend a lot of time talking, not only about work-related stuff but just talking in general... And I've started falling for her, and I'm starting to fall hard.
I don't want this. And not just for those reasons, she's engaged to a guy that I hung out with in high school. I definitely don't want to be that guy.
I guess my question is, how do you stop yourself from falling for someone?