Hey again everyone, good to see this club is still goin'!
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At 8/3/06 05:51 PM, Tri-Nitro-Toluene wrote:
Am I the only person who finds the word " love" completley and totally abused when it coems to relationships. I've seen people go out with each other for a week, or even a few days, and then proclaim there "love" for one another.
No, you're not the only one. That is a strong issue which has been brought up, and i'm glad that you expounded on it. The message getting across here is not just the act of abstinance from sex, but the causes and reasons behind it as well. Love is one of those.
I find it rather disturbing how society has somehow managed to trivialise one of the most important emotions, and turn it into a word that is used between two people just because they want to get inside each others pants as fast as possible, instead of a way of showing a deep connection between two people.
Because love has been trivialized, then naturally, so has the act of sex. The perception of what is meaningful has been degraded to an impatient ritual of wanting momentary pleasure. There are many reasons for this, one of them is what you said, wanting to "get into each other's pants" too hastily, but another would be Nativity, as well as loneliness. This in turn goes back to what I had said before about how important it is to first discover yourself, being comfortable with your own feelings and body, before reaching out to another individual. Trying to validate yourself through another person will ultimately fail if you can't even date for a week without feeling the need to confess your love, due to some deep rooted issue of insecurity.
On a side note, you are right on the dot with saying that love is one of the most important emotions. Personally, i'd be as daring as to say it is the most important emotion, not just pertaining to the romantic relationship between two people, because it extends far beyond that. Think about it. Anyway, i'm glad that you understand this, and hopefully this club will spread that awareness. ;)
At 8/3/06 08:34 PM, screamokaratekick wrote:
I love this club. I do have a question for our founder: What inspired you to start this club? Are you some sort of peer mentor, or do you simply believe in "love, not lust?" Anyway, just curious.
You could say it's a bit of both. I believe in the opinions that I have shared here so far, but it is also as a means for people to join and feel comfortable with their decision, instead of feeling left-out in this often times foolish society. Also, after noticing the increased population of the younger spectrum of users, i'm glad to know that by reading through and joining this club, they'll have the opportunity to see an alternative route to take in their lives without feeling "uncool". Giving people a moment to pause and think about their actions, considering what really has substantial meaning in their lives, is one of the main goals.
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I'd like to bring up a point, this club is here to support the pro-virgin life style, and although analyzing the faults of lust and promiscuity is perfectly fine, it's intention is not to bash anyone. Just a separate opinion, and a different lifestyle. So let's hear more about the positive side of being a virgin! Rah rah rah!