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So anyway, since alot of people joining are 14, I thought I'd say that to me, it's alright to be a virgin then, but I'll be 16 in a few days, that's the LEGAL age dammit! It really feels bad not having done it when you know so many people younger than you have :<

At 8/2/06 09:38 PM, WilliWowza wrote: So anyway, since alot of people joining are 14, I thought I'd say that to me, it's alright to be a virgin then, but I'll be 16 in a few days, that's the LEGAL age dammit! It really feels bad not having done it when you know so many people younger than you have :<

Don't let that pressure cause you to make a bad decision. Sex is an important thing that you must learn to appreciate. And the reason its looked down upon with younger people is because young people have no idea what they're doing when they have sex and then guess what you have? TEEN PARENTS. Do you wannna be a baby's daddy at 14? i didn't think so.

Im not a member of this club (you gotta at least meet the qualifications :P) but I'm also 20 years old. But don't EVER fall into the mentality of "everybody's doin it" cuz guess what. NO ONE DOES IT WHEN THEY'RE 14. If they say that they have, they're either lying or incredibly stupid.

I'll join up. I agree with the second post of this club. It should be with someone you really love, not just someone that's hott and you wanna fuck. You should be making love, not fucking.

I'll join up.

finally...a club that has morals.id like to join,im getting peer pressure all the time and i will NEVER do it until im married.god all the sex/sex themes out there are just sickening.and im only 14,hate 2 c what happens when im 20

They are stupid, but still it's the fact they are doing it
Last week I was with a 14 and 15 year old, and when I said I was still a virgin they looked at me like I'd turned into Hitler or something

Ok! We're off to a good start. Welcome to everyone who has joined so far, and to those who had inquiries if they were eligible.. yes you are! Simply refer to my introductory post. ;)

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At 8/2/06 04:41 PM, mirokuneo14 wrote: Theres absolutly nothing wrong with being a virgin!

That's the point we're getting across here. There really is nothing wrong with being a virgin, our society has slipped into a twisted thought process where sexuality has been severely degraded. Crated into a trend, if you will. Matters of love, true intimacy, and lasting romance have become like fairy tales to our youth. And who is setting this example? Well. I'll use a popular corporate media slogan to sum it up, "sex sells".

At 8/2/06 04:53 PM, Naked_Beercan wrote: Yey i joined NG just to be in this group, WOOT.....
*runs in a circular motion*

Where ever there be virgins, the Naked Beercan shall follow?

At 8/2/06 04:53 PM, Tri-Nitro-Toluene wrote: I have to admit, I find it rather annoying the way sex seems to have been trivialised into something that all the "Cool" kids do, which makes kids rush into things that they should probably wait for.

You bring up a good point, "things they should probably wait for". To explore further into that, the reasons why they should wait is because at the tender teenage years when life is already overwhelming, to rush into such an act will only rob themselves of something which, if they had waited until they were more sensible and knowledgable adults, would have been a much more enjoyable and purposeful experience.

I believe that people should take time to explore their own bodies before they allow someone else to. With the already rampant self esteem issues of teens, that could only spell disaster. Also, the confusion of the emotional attachment would take part, and usually in the end result with heartbreak. Many of these points don't just refer to the teenage years, but rather are heightened, due to increased sensitivity in all these areas.

Any added thoughts on this?

At 8/2/06 05:32 PM, Athlas wrote: Let's all sob about our pityful, virgin lifes, shall we?

Really now, here's an example of a common misconception about virginity made by people. There is nothing to sob about, and there is nothing pitiful about being a virgin. What is there to gain from frivolous sex? From rushing the experience? I can understand longing for love, but pointless lust? How does that serve you? Down the road, is it really worth it? Think about it, i'd like a serious answer.

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Thank you to everyone else who contributed with their thoughts and opinions, it's encouraged!

YEAH VIRGINS! I'm so glad I joined this club... so many interesting stories...

After reading through a lot of this and such, I'd have to say that I very much agree with a lot of the posts that have been put here so far. It doesn't matter at all how many times you do it, what matters is the moment and such. Defintly should be with someone you truly love and not just some one night stand from a bar that could have anything that may ruin your life. I wouldn't mind joining up in this, and no I'm not afraid to admit I am a virgin. No one should really, but peer pressure in today's society is what causes people to want to jump the gun and do it so they feel accepted or lie just so they don't get ridiculed. So yeah, I'll join up. :)

At 8/2/06 09:38 PM, WilliWowza wrote: So anyway, since alot of people joining are 14, I thought I'd say that to me, it's alright to be a virgin then, but I'll be 16 in a few days, that's the LEGAL age dammit! It really feels bad not having done it when you know so many people younger than you have :<

You shouldn't feel bad.

Remember, virginity is one thing that they can never get back. This is what I always say, I could be like you in five seconds (literally), you can never be like me.

At 8/3/06 01:41 AM, Dobio wrote: Remember, virginity is one thing that they can never get back. This is what I always say, I could be like you in five seconds (literally), you can never be like me.

But DOBIO!

No one can be like YOU!

<3

And yeah, I agree. It only happens once in a lifetime, that in itself should put more emphasis on it's importance which is overlooked.

At 8/3/06 02:11 AM, Sarah_Rawr wrote: But DOBIO!

No one can be like YOU!

Awwww shucks!

<3

*heart*

And yeah, I agree. It only happens once in a lifetime, that in itself should put more emphasis on it's importance which is overlooked.

Yeah. People think of it, as a coming of age, having sex, instead of a significant part of a person's life and potential relationship.

Ugh, it's so frustrating.

At 8/3/06 02:19 AM, Dobio wrote: Yeah. People think of it, as a coming of age, having sex, instead of a significant part of a person's life and potential relationship.

Yeah, and that's not even what it's all meant to be about. It's basically all on waiting, and then when the time is right with that one special person then do it. Nothing wrong with waiting, but people these days think that it's "cool" to just do it to say they did. Not cool at all... :(

Ugh, it's so frustrating.

Yeah, I hear ya, people need to think more about stuff like this instead of jumping the gun...

I had this one friend....who thought he was a complete loser unless he lost his virginity. So basically, he was scared to ask any girls out, etc etc, just because he had never had sex.

I was like, man, how the hell are you going to lose it if you never date?

Then he ended up fucking a fat girl...so I guess it worked out.

At 8/3/06 02:32 AM, Dobio wrote: I had this one friend....who thought he was a complete loser unless he lost his virginity. So basically, he was scared to ask any girls out, etc etc, just because he had never had sex.
I was like, man, how the hell are you going to lose it if you never date?
Then he ended up fucking a fat girl...so I guess it worked out.

Oh man, lol. You know, I actually have a very similar story like that. This guy that I knew had horrible self confidence issues, and was very subject to going along with what was "popular" in order to have a sense of belonging, so naturally he was in a rush to lose his virginity. Finally, while he was drunk at a party, he lost it to a "fat chick", as he said it. For years afterwards, (I talked to him off and on, not very close), he would keep bringing up that incident. He regretted it horribly.

The sad part is, I think he regretted that the chick was fat more than the act of losing his virginity. Fucking shallow people. ;(

At 8/3/06 01:26 AM, Sarah_Rawr wrote:

At 8/2/06 05:32 PM, Athlas wrote: Let's all sob about our pityful, virgin lifes, shall we?

Really now, here's an example of a common misconception about virginity made by people. There is nothing to sob about, and there is nothing pitiful about being a virgin. What is there to gain from frivolous sex? From rushing the experience? I can understand longing for love, but pointless lust? How does that serve you? Down the road, is it really worth it? Think about it, i'd like a serious answer.

Erm...actually, I was being sarcastic. But not that obvious, so my apologies for any confusion I might have caused.

Though I am no virgin I agree that it should be special. Wait till you really love ther person your with. I will be open and say I have had sex with three women in my life and only one that I wasnt in love with. That one haunts me to this day and I am still pissed that I was so foolish and let my empty desire to feel close to some one combined with drinking talk me into that meaningless act. So take it from some one that knows NEVER even if you have had sex before do it just for fun or to feel close to some one. It will always bother you. So all in all good for you people of this club. Your smarter than many people out there.
Goddess some one should watch mewhen I am drunk I am going to regret leting out such personal info in the morning when I sober up.

At 8/3/06 01:26 AM, Sarah_Rawr wrote:

At 8/2/06 04:53 PM, Naked_Beercan wrote: Yey i joined NG just to be in this group, WOOT.....
*runs in a circular motion*

Where ever there be virgins, the Naked Beercan shall follow?

What is there to gain from frivolous sex? From rushing the experience? I can understand longing for love, but pointless lust? How does that serve you? Down the road, is it really worth it? Think about it, i'd like a serious answer.

Thank you to everyone else who contributed with their thoughts and opinions, it's encouraged!

Were ever there be Sarah (or virgins) the Naked Beercan shall follow....

There is alot to be gained from frivolous sex and rushing the exoerience, i shall list you but a few.

#1 you get to see that hot new nurse at the docs more often (when your going in to be checked for STD's)

#2 It's quite possible you will end up getting child benefits, theres nothing better than free money (even when your living in the ghetto)

#3 You can become "Da MaN" in the locker room untill you reach puberty and noone really cares either way.

These are just a few positive parts of young lust ;-)

However saying that, STD's generally make your friends laugh at you, and the girls avoid you, Living on welfair because you had to leave school to take care of the baby generally isnt as fun as it sounds, being "Da MaN" will last a whole 12mins untill some guy farts and everyone laughs :)

Now heres a question, would you rather have them 3 possible outcomes (maby all 3 at once if your lucky) and be the idol to all your "friends" for a week, or would you rather find real friends that want to be friends with you for being you, while respecting yourself and having others respect you (Both Virgin and non-virgin alike)?

(I rant when i post)

Also, just for you folks that dont know, i can guarantee that about 80% of all the guys that brag about getting jiggy with it, have only been as close as touching themselves while watching oprah.....
So next time your best friend, or that guy in the locker room is telling you about the girl he "did" think of This Vision of Beauty and have your self a little chuckle

I'm a virgin and probably will be for quite a while because my current girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she's out of school which isn't until the end of next year. Hopefully we're still together then.

At 8/3/06 06:29 AM, -metalstorm- wrote: I'm a virgin and probably will be for quite a while because my current girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she's out of school which isn't until the end of next year. Hopefully we're still together then.

Your current girlfriend appears very intelligent, you should try to keep hold of her :)

Well I have chosen to wait for love, I mean what's all the fuss about anyway? Nothing can be as good as it is made out to be, so for now it don't bother me.

Im a Virgin,lol but i am only 13.

At 8/3/06 06:54 AM, Naked_Beercan wrote: Your current girlfriend appears very intelligent, you should try to keep hold of her :)

Funnily enough she's one of the top students in the state.

At 8/3/06 07:29 AM, -metalstorm- wrote:

At 8/3/06 06:54 AM, Naked_Beercan wrote: Your current girlfriend appears very intelligent, you should try to keep hold of her :)

Funnily enough she's one of the top students in the state.

Point made ;-)

I have a girlfriend who wants to have "play-sex" can you tell me what that is and if it is alright?

At 8/3/06 09:15 AM, Dejanus wrote: I have a girlfriend who wants to have "play-sex" can you tell me what that is and if it is alright?

LOL sounds like "dry humping" to me. Basicly its when your makeing out and are all over each other with out your cloths comeing off. Its fine so long as YOUR ok with it. I mean if all your worried about is not haveing sex then yea this is fine because cloths dont come off. Then again I might be wrong about what she means. Best bet is ask her what she ment. Remember only YOU can decide whats ok or not. Your the one going to have to live with what you do so make sure you wont regret it.

At 8/3/06 09:15 AM, Dejanus wrote: I have a girlfriend who wants to have "play-sex" can you tell me what that is and if it is alright?

Erm...satisfy her with a dildo? Either that, or have casual, almost meaningless sex. Just for fun.

But that's my interpretation, I could be wrong.

Athas, that was disturbing. I think she meant what the guy before you said. And I dont think she would have a dildo at 15!

At 8/3/06 09:58 AM, Dejanus wrote: Athas, that was disturbing. I think she meant what the guy before you said. And I dont think she would have a dildo at 15!

After reading that post, I agree. Silly me.

At any rate, everything is as disturbing as you make of it.

I just don't understand why some people are so rushed to "do it" for the first time. There's no need to rush and get right to "doing the deed" as some would say. I know a few people have said almost the same thing I'm saying, but really, when people rush into doing it, that's what kills relationships. I hope I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Your not, thats how I feel also.