Wade, I understand your frusteration. I'm a moderator of another forum that has about 300 active users (link), and I'm sometimes tempted to tell some of the users to eat maggot shit myself (only on my forum it would come out as "eat maggot soisoisoisoi").
In fact, just recently we were dealing with some complaints from users for taking down our shoutbox. It was taken down because it was decreasing forum activity and made us vulernable to attacks via HTML. Of course, users wouldn't listen to us, and one of them started a complaint topic. In response, I said this:
"GOD, I hate it when people make threads like this.
It was removed for reasons. It caused a decrease in forum activity, which is bad. The forum is about posting, not about shouting. Also, due to it having no limit HTML-wise, it made us vulnerable to attacks. This forum and your computer could have been harmed if some asshole wanted to do the damage.
There are multiple ways to contact people from these forums. Here are a few:
1) Your intro. The purpose of the Intros forum is to get associated with the users.
2) PM.
3) AIM/other IM programs.
4) Skype. Skype is a free Internet phone service that can be found for download here. I doubt many people on this forum have it, but it's a good program to have."
So I really just try to keep my cool. As you can see in the first sentence I lost it a bit, but I got better.
I think listening to music helps deal with some anger; it calms me down and helps me think clearly.
I hope you read this, and I hope it helps. Good luck dealing with the dickheads, but I know it's nothing new; Newgrounds is full of them.