At 5/14/06 01:11 AM, HeinousDude wrote:
And they do believe so, judging from the paper. Yes, they're bad parents and they probably don't know it, that doesn't necessarily mean the parents who would adopt the baby would certainly be better parents.
You do have a good point there. But I see it this way, would you buy a car from a dealership that has a bad reputation, for cheating it's customers; or do you go to a dealership you've never been to before? Do you go to a place that's extremely likely to screw around, or a place that MIGHT screw around?
You only pointed out indications of her potentially being a bad parent. You have not proven it. Remember these standards are just characteristics that are gathered up from a number of bad parents. We come up with the pattern, the patterns don't follow what we make up. Nobody expected Seabiscuit to win either, and that was a true story.
I believe those indicators do prove that she'll make a bad parent. The thing with Seabiscuit is, that horse was willing to train hard to be a Champion. This 12 year-old has exhibited zero positive traits. (And no; I don't consider wanting to keep her baby, instead of giving it up for adoption, as a positive trait). There is no indication that she plans on working hard to give her baby a good upbringing........ even to the incredibly limited extent to which an immature 12 year-old child CAN give a baby a decent upbringing.
This argument is getting off topic. The main thing is you don't think a 12 year old is mature enough to raise a child. Her parents have proven that people can be old and still be bad parents, why must there not exist an opposite exception?
I don't see how we're getting off-topic. We're still talking about the same immature 12 year-old, and her "Sure, do whatever you want," folks. (I refuse to refer to them as "parents" anymore. That's a title that should be reseved for adults who at least try to raise their children and have the balls to make tough decisions). But you are correct; I don't believe a 12 year-old is mature enough to raise a child. I don't believe any child is mature enough to raise a child. And this particular 12 year-old has clearly shown that she is LESS mature than an average 12 year-old.
As to your last point: Do you really believe than an "opposite exception" can exist? Do you really believe that a child is capable of raising another child, to become a mature adult? (I say, no. That's why I believe there is no opposite exception with this topic. You need an adult to raise a child to become an adult) I might be wrong, but didn't you say that you also believe that a 12 year-old is not going to make a good parent, in an earlier post?.......... And with this specific example, you pointed out the reason why an exception to the rule simply won't happen; no one involved has ANY parenting skills! The 12 year-old clearly has no parenting skills, her folks (considering how she turned out) also have zero parenting skills. 3 individuals with zero parenting skills, taking care of a baby......... This is a case of 3 + 0 = forget the possibility of an exception, a miracle is needed for THIS baby!