"Lovesick"

[StarF68]

Well, the correct definition for this term is: So deeply affected by love as to be unable to act normally.

Now, I can act normally, but I'm "lovesick" in a completely different way. I shall elaborate.

Actually, before I go on let me clarify something. I just need to get this out. I need to tell someone, even if it is the NG BBS. Even if it is people who don't really care, and even if it is (some) people who may taunt or joke about it. Note that any post such as "I don't care" or something of the sort will just be disregarded, same with any tauntings or jokes (Unless actually funny. I can take a good joke, but it better be just that: a good joke. ^_^)

Alright here it goes. I am in love. Yes, I am 15, but I do not believe that age should affect love directly. Please don't post saying "Oh, you're 15, you can't be in love."

Bullshit. Love isn't something based on age. It's a feeling. And I can understand some things. For example:

1. Most of what teenagers go through that they believe to be love is actually lust. Since I am aware of this I am able to qualify what I feel as love, not lust.
2. Most people will say "Well it's not like you're going to get married to this person, so what's the point?" I can honestly say that I have no problem spending the rest of my life with Ellie, the girl I truley love.

So don't try to give me any of this "Oh, it's not really love" bullshit. Fine, you can say it is you really want to, but I know what I'm feeling.

But this is usually where the jokes, taunting, and obvious "Oh, this can't be love" remarks come in: She lives in Colorado.

NO! Wait, before you hit "Reply" and start with your oh-so-whitty (I'm sure) remarks, I will explain. This was not some "I went into a chatroom looking for a gf" bullshit story.

Yes, I met her on the internet. BUT, we talked on the internet for seven months as nothing more than friends. She has relatives in Minnesota, and that summer she came here and we spent a lot of time together, at which point I fell in love.

You don't get to choose who you love, so I guess distance just screwed me. >:|

Now, this summer (With luck) I will finally have a license and be able to see her more often. But until then is a long wait. She doesn't get to come to Minnesota except for summers. And it's killing me to have to be so far away from her so long. :(

The only thing keeping me happy about it is the fact that I get to talk to her most every day. ^_^

But whenever she's gone I start to feel alone again and I have to be with her. And I guess I'm just trying to write it down here or something, so I feel better, or something like that.

I could use some luff right now. :(

[Hedwick]

Love is a word invented by companies to give excuses for creating excessive amounts of sitcoms.

[SevenSeize]

I was in love when I was 15. I don't think you're crazy. Long distance relationships can be really tough. I think maybe you should keep it simple at first and see how it goes. As you both get older you'll either grow closer or drift apart. It can work, but it'll be hard. Good luck!

[BurningMe]

I'm sorry the whole distance thing is bringing you down. I've had a distance relationship, I met a girl at a family friends party and she lived a good couple hours away. Granted it's worse for you I can relate.

About the whole love thing. I agree to a point. That point being is yes it's love, but not exactly what I might call true love. Honestly I'm going out with a girl at the moment who I could say I love, I feel strongly for her and her well being. Also I enojy being with her in an engaging way phyiscally and mentally. The lack of experience in life and relationships in general though does not, I think, qualify me to say if it's true love. I know it's not infatuation or lust, but I can't be completely sure one of us might change and our personalities might clash later on in our relationship.

That is the problem with falling in love at this age. We want to believe we can be with one person forever, but it doesn't work that way. The human mind doesn't fully develop until about 20 something years old. At that point the hormones calm down and what not, but between me being 16 and 20 something I know I will change, maybe not drastically, but I will, we all do. This is why we can never know for sure at our age if the love will last therefore making less than true love, but also above lust.

O.o Long post for me.

[StarF68]

At 2/21/06 08:49 PM, Kontra- wrote: I'm sorry the whole distance thing is bringing you down. I've had a distance relationship, I met a girl at a family friends party and she lived a good couple hours away. Granted it's worse for you but I can relate.

Yep that is true, and thanks for the... luff I think. Close enough. XD
O.o

About the whole love thing. I agree to a point. That point being is yes it's love, but not exactly what I might call true love. Honestly I'm going out with a girl at the moment who I could say I love, I feel strongly for her and her well being. Also I enojy being with her in an engaging way phyiscally and mentally. The lack of experience in life and relationships in general though does not, I think, qualify me to say if it's true love. I know it's not infatuation or lust, but I can't be completely sure one of us might change and our personalities might clash later on in our relationship.

Yes, you're right. There are different categories, you know. Like lust, love, "true" love. But when it comes to other people that's the weird thing, it's really hard to classify what it is (Except for lust, that seems to be easy to pick out sometimes).

I see what you're saying, and I believe that what we have is true love, and I can only believe/hope that I'm right.

That is the problem with falling in love at this age. We want to believe we can be with one person forever, but it doesn't work that way. The human mind doesn't fully develop until about 20 something years old. At that point the hormones calm down and what not, but between me being 16 and 20 something I know I will change, maybe not drastically, but I will, we all do. This is why we can never know for sure at our age if the love will last therefore making less than true love, but also above lust.

True, good point. It is weird, and people do definately change. But here is something I can say that sort of goes with the point, people can also change together. Example: I met Ellie nearly two years ago, and since then I know I have changed. I know it. And she has changed in ways too. But never have we acted in ways that we really disliked each other for, you know? I can only hope that whatever changes may occur, it's not something drastic that would change our relationship. I love her, I really do, and I can't imagine any changes changing that. :o

Though I do see your point.

O.o Long post for me.

Lol good job, I like long posts. ^_^

At 2/21/06 08:47 PM, Zenobia wrote: I was in love when I was 15. I don't think you're crazy. Long distance relationships can be really tough. I think maybe you should keep it simple at first and see how it goes. As you both get older you'll either grow closer or drift apart. It can work, but it'll be hard. Good luck!

Thanks. ^_^

It is hard, but it's also kind of a good thing in a small way. I mean, it shows trust between both sides and also takes love. Like if there wasn't love (In some amount) it would be impossible to make it work, because sooner or later one side would just get sick of it and end it. I honestly doubt that it will happen with me. I'm not trying to be cocky or anything, but I honestly doubt it. :D

At 2/21/06 08:47 PM, ChuckChildren wrote: Thats from Catscratch

*Blankly stares*

Say huh?

At 2/21/06 08:46 PM, -Hedwick- wrote: Love is a word invented by companies to give excuses for creating excessive amounts of sitcoms.

>:P

That is all.

[strumpy]

all i can say is good luck and i hope shes hawt

[CryogenChaos]

At 2/21/06 09:04 PM, VeinsOnFire- wrote: Relationships are meaningless, love is meaningless, we're driven by libido and instincts.

If thats true, then does that make us nothing more than animals?

[Leon-the-WhiteMage]

I don't think that love is just based on animal magnitism (Maybe to a point), But I don't agree love is pointless... Have you been hurt or something Viens? I guess love hurts sometimes but I don't think it should have to.

Anyway, you want to be close to this girl you love? Do you think it might change the relationship?

Nevermind, it's none of my buisiness. Good luck! ^_^

[BurningMe]

At 2/21/06 09:00 PM, StarF68 wrote: True, good point. It is weird, and people do definately change. But here is something I can say that sort of goes with the point, people can also change together. Example: I met Ellie nearly two years ago, and since then I know I have changed. I know it. And she has changed in ways too. But never have we acted in ways that we really disliked each other for, you know? I can only hope that whatever changes may occur, it's not something drastic that would change our relationship. I love her, I really do, and I can't imagine any changes changing that. :o

Though I do see your point.

I never said it couldn't happen. I truly hope it works out for both of you. Love in my mind is the greatest thing one can have with another human being. Good luck and get your lincense so you can go surprise her. :D

[Guardian]

I once read a quote that went something like this: "Love is but a human emotion, but if found, is the greatest treasure in the world."

Love is precious. If she is the right one, things will work out for you! I wish you and her a happy path down the road of life, wherever it may take you!

[StarF68]

At 2/21/06 09:26 PM, guardian wrote: I once read a quote that went something like this: "Love is but a human emotion, but if found, is the greatest treasure in the world."

Love is precious. If she is the right one, things will work out for you! I wish you and her a happy path down the road of life, wherever it may take you!

Thank you! ^_^

Much luff to everyone who wishes us good luck and such. <3<3 ^_^

At 2/21/06 09:25 PM, Kontra- wrote: I never said it couldn't happen. I truly hope it works out for both of you. Love in my mind is the greatest thing one can have with another human being. Good luck and get

your lincense so you can go surprise her. :D

Yep, I'm going to get a job soon and start saving money, and go there by August hopefully. Her birthday is in August so it would be a good surprise. And I have the perfect gift idea as well. :D

At 2/21/06 09:21 PM, Leon_the_WhiteMage wrote: I don't think that love is just based on animal magnitism (Maybe to a point), But I don't agree love is pointless... Have you been hurt or something Viens? I guess love hurts sometimes but I don't think it should have to.

It's not. That's what makes humans different from animals, the actual feelings. If we were simply driven by libido and instincts we would simply have sex for the sake of reproducing or just having sex, cutting out love completely. But love exists, because believe it or not not every guy is a horny bastard. >:o

Anyway, you want to be close to this girl you love? Do you think it might change the relationship?

If it did change it would be for the better, I know that. ^_^

Nevermind, it's none of my buisiness. Good luck! ^_^

Thank you! ^_^

At 2/21/06 09:03 PM, damn_barney wrote: all i can say is good luck

Thank you. ^_^

and i hope shes hawt

>:|

[Vlux]

I'm going to be a fag, so uhh *cough*pix*cough*

[Vlux]

At 2/21/06 11:30 PM, Vlux wrote: I'm going to be a fag, so uhh *cough*pix*cough*

Shit, I just found out pushing "Enter" can get your post submitted.

Anyways, all I have to say is that long-distance relationship doesn't work. I completely understand you, but from what you've posted, you seems to be very devoted to this girl. So, who knows, it might work out, it might not. However, if you ask me, I'd say a mere 30% that the relationship will last.

[Legionnaire-X]

Being lovesick hurts, really really badly.

[StarF68]

At 2/21/06 11:33 PM, Vlux wrote:

At 2/21/06 11:30 PM, Vlux wrote: I'm going to be a fag, so uhh *cough*pix*cough*

Shit, I just found out pushing "Enter" can get your post submitted.

Anyways, all I have to say is that long-distance relationship doesn't work. I completely understand you, but from what you've posted, you seems to be very devoted to this girl. So, who knows, it might work out, it might not. However, if you ask me, I'd say a mere 30% that the relationship will last.

It's true that a lot of long-distance relationships don't work. Many are because it's due to the fact that the people really never ever get a chance to see each other. However in maybe a year or two she might be moving here. So really we just have to make it work as a long-distance thing for that long, and yeah, I am. I believe we can make it work, but it's extremely hard to be so far apart. :O

As for the pics thing, I don't know if that was a joke or not, but no. >:P

[Guardian]

At 2/21/06 11:23 PM, StarF68 wrote:
Thank you! ^_^

Much luff to everyone who wishes us good luck and such. <3<3 ^_^

Hey, anytime, your post from yesterday made me think about things I hadn't thought about in a long time. Its rare when something or somebody does that. You will find success in whatever you wish to do.

[SeizureDog]

Lovesick. Yeah, that's what going on with me. I don't deal with love too well, it ends up overwhelming me. I'm going to try and relax though. Even if it's really hard...

My related topic that no one seemed to post it :P

Anywho, about your love. Won't say what you feel isn't true. I felt the same way about someone once. Same logic and everything. Man she really broke my heart though. Good luck though.

[StarF68]

At 2/21/06 11:43 PM, Seizure_Dog wrote: Lovesick. Yeah, that's what going on with me. I don't deal with love too well, it ends up overwhelming me. I'm going to try and relax though. Even if it's really hard...

My related topic that no one seemed to post it :P

Well I'll post in it. ^_^

Anywho, about your love. Won't say what you feel isn't true. I felt the same way about someone once. Same logic and everything. Man she really broke my heart though. Good luck though.

Well I guess for something to be successful both halves must be comitted to it the same amount. So I guess as long as we both truley love each other it should be okay, and I don't doubt that she loves me at all. Hopefully it will stay that way, because I don't know what I would do without her. Now I'm not going to say that without her I would - *ahem* - "go emo" as people would say, but I would get depressed (For the proper amount of time, because you have to realize that life goes on). I just hope that I never have to go through something as horrible as that though. :O

[Wadezilla]

Hot shit. Do her in the ass.

[Ellie]

At 2/21/06 08:41 PM, StarF68 wrote: Bullshit. Love isn't something based on age. It's a feeling.

I don't believe age plays a part either. Love isn't clearly defined.

[psycho-squirrel2]

your 15. you dont need love yet. wait till your a little older.

[Ellie]

At 2/22/06 12:20 AM, Shin-Tenshu wrote: your 15. you dont need love yet. wait till your a little older.

Everything he posted about age not being a factor just flew right over your head didn't it?

[StarF68]

At 2/21/06 11:51 PM, Wadezilla wrote: Hot shit. Do her in the ass.

Ha.

Ha.

Go away.

At 2/22/06 12:13 AM, -Ellie- wrote:

At 2/21/06 08:41 PM, StarF68 wrote: Bullshit. Love isn't something based on age. It's a feeling.

I don't believe age plays a part either. Love isn't clearly defined.

And it isn't meant to be defined. It's not something to be given guidelines and rules as to who is "allowed" to experience it. :o

At 2/22/06 12:20 AM, Shin-Tenshu wrote: your 15. you dont need love yet. wait till your a little older.

I didn't choose to fall in love. I'm not doing it to fit in, to have a social status, to be "popular", to be able to say "oh yeah I have a girlfriend". It's not because I want anything sexual or anything of that nature. It's not so I can pretend to know what I'm talking about, and it's not so that I can give myself a sense of false-happiness. I fell in love with an amazing girl, and it wasn't a decision I voluentarily made. Love is love, you can't say who "needs" it or "deserves" it, and you can't put an age limit on it.

[ZENON]

Congratulations on that, but, does she love you back?
Because it would be completely unnescessary if you loved this girl to death and you'd be willing to spend your entire life with her, but she didn't love you back.

[Ryan]

I hope you two bang for hours...Condoms plz.

Btw you gave a bit too much defnition on how you don't care about non-helpful critisism...Lol, we get it.

[Modnar]

At 2/21/06 08:41 PM, StarF68 wrote:

I could use some luff right now. :(

<3<3<3

Can't imagine what you're going through But give it some time and see what happens, it usually works for me.

[Marcato]

I believe that age plays a factor in whether someone can identify what they feel as "love" or whatnot. It also has a lot to do with timing. When someone is young, they may not be able to love a certain person because of experiences, age, blah blah blah. But later on in life, they are like "<3"!

But no one can tell you how you feel. If you feel that you're in love, then : ) be happy!!!

[StarF68]

At 2/22/06 12:29 AM, Modnar wrote:

At 2/21/06 08:41 PM, StarF68 wrote:

I could use some luff right now. :(

<3<3<3

^_^
Thank you.

Can't imagine what you're going through But give it some time and see what happens, it usually works for me.

Time is a good and a bad thing. Each day is more waiting, yet each day brings me closer to the point I can see her again. :O

At 2/22/06 12:25 AM, Marine237 wrote: I hope you two bang for hours...Condoms plz.

Haha I don't know if it was how it was phrased or what, but that made me lol. :)

Btw you gave a bit too much defnition on how you don't care about non-helpful critisism...Lol, we get it.

Heh, maybe I was just in the moment. You know if I've learned anything on the BBS it's that if you want to get a point across seriously you have to make yourself clear. Maybe I overdid it a bit.

At 2/22/06 12:25 AM, -ZENON- wrote: Congratulations on that, but, does she love you back?
Because it would be completely unnescessary if you loved this girl to death and you'd be willing to spend your entire life with her, but she didn't love you back.

Yes, she does. And I have absolutely no doubts of that either. It's such a great feeling to love someone and know they love you back. =^_^=

[ZENON]

At 2/22/06 12:31 AM, StarF68 wrote:

At 2/22/06 12:25 AM, -ZENON- wrote:

but, does she love you back?
Yes, she does.

With that being said, I will say this:

Good luck.

[StarF68]

At 2/22/06 12:34 AM, -ZENON- wrote:

At 2/22/06 12:31 AM, StarF68 wrote:

At 2/22/06 12:25 AM, -ZENON- wrote:

but, does she love you back?
Yes, she does.

With that being said, I will say this:

Good luck.

Thank you. ^_^

And now I must retire to bed, for my eyes feel like they're burning. @_@