no one should get married

[mulder-xuk]

marriage is not a thing that should be done

if 2 people love each other then they can live together and have children (or not if they cant or choose not to) and grow old together

[MistaRaz]

most marriges cost too much, and most marriges dont last

[gmanx2099]

I know couples that have been together for a LONG time and they all have something in common. THEY ARE NOT MARRIED!!!! With the exception of my grandparents, I have yet to meet someone who has been married for over a year.

Married life should not be the way to go!

[RandomFreak]

Yes at this point marriage is really more trouble then it's worth. I mean unless the religious aspect has meaning all it does is make a break up a huge legal and finacial hassle.

[mulder-xuk]

would anyone agree that a main reason to get married is to just have a wedding?

[Freakapotimus]

At 1/8/03 05:33 AM, mulder_xuk wrote: would anyone agree that a main reason to get married is to just have a wedding?

My mother says that to me all the time. She was especially pushing it when my boyfriend was moving in, she wanted us to get married first. But I'm still not wanting to get married. She wants to have a big party.

[mulder-xuk]

having a wedding is no reason to get married

it would be like getting a body part removed just to have surgery

[TheShrike]

I just thought this would be fun to revive since people keep dragging the whole gay marriage thing up.

[TwinClock]

I agree, the main reason that marriage is initiated is because two people want to stay together and they think that marriage is a commitment to that. Or at least that should be why people want to get married. But the fact is that well over half of all marriages end in divorce, and many of those are after just a short time, and many of the remaining marriages are not even happy ones. The truth is that non-married couples seem to have a stronger commitment to one another than the so-called sacred vows that one takes prior to marriage. And those who get married because they think it will strengthen their bond together should really think about that and take marriage a little more seriously, if they in the end decide that it is the right road. Either marriage is entered in too lightly, or there is something about it that drives some people to insanity, and that should truly be something to avoid. If one wants to remain in a healthy relationship that is.

[caseyizzle]

i have ben married almost a year. i am still happy and my wedding only cost 200 and it was the best wedding i have been to becuase it didnt' waste anyones time. after "i do" people left and everyone was happy. no one had to stay i encouraged people to leave and get on with their day. of 2 people want to get married whats the problem?

[Perseph0ne6]

Marriage is just a traditional way of announcing to your community that you are binding yourselves to eachother for life. But yeah, I would say its mostly for the Wedding, and also the rings that warn others you're taken.

[House-Of-Leaves]

Good lord, people.

The institution of marriage was created for biblical reasons. A union of two souls in the eyes of God. THAT is why people get married, or that's how it used to be.

Now? It's sometimes for the wrong reason. I've been blessed, surrounded by good marriages and examples. My parents have been married for almost 40 years.

I do agree, however, that life with another person is possible without marriage. I believe it's something that shouldn't be entered into lightly.

And for cryin' out loud...if you get married, HONOR YOUR VOWS.

Divorce is too easy.

[VIVI]

I believe people should get married but that decision is entirely up to those 2 people. I say that if you aren't responsible and can't commit then don't even bother setting a wedding date. It's true most people do it for the wedding but that is the wrong reason and why most end up in divorce. Although, it doesn't matter if you get married or not, the state declares commonlaw marriage if the couple lives together for more than a couple years.

[Interface]

plus you pay higher taxes when you're married

[redneckking]

Some of the people who posted in this topic are barely 20 or younger and aren't mature enough to know why marriage is a good thing. People don't want to get married so they can sleep around a lot not because its a hassle. Many of my friends have been married for several years and love being married. Its not about the money or how much of a pain in the ass a wedding is, its about the ceromony and what it represents.

[Freakapotimus]

I'm over 20, and I don't want to get married. I'm not promiscuous, so that's not the reason. I'm not ready for that type of committment.

[clownfish]

At 1/31/03 11:01 AM, redneckking wrote: Some of the people who posted in this topic are barely 20 or younger and aren't mature enough to know why marriage is a good thing. People don't want to get married so they can sleep around a lot not because its a hassle. Many of my friends have been married for several years and love being married. Its not about the money or how much of a pain in the ass a wedding is, its about the ceromony and what it represents.

Ah, come on, that's prejudiced bullshit. I bet there are a lot of teens that DO think you should get married. About now you will click on my profile and find out I am 14. Does that mean I'm an idiot, and can't speak for myself?

[clownfish]

I think the entire ritual is about three things:
1. You get to throw a big party.
2. You make friends with other married couples more easily.
3. When you split up, you can let court deside who gets what.

The entire sanctity everyone's so full of these days has been gone since the divorce rate went over 50%. I don't know how it will be in the future, but I think most couples will no longer get married. Face it, there is no good reason to keep this old outdated habit alive, it's nowadays just about parents running around their children saying stuff like "You aren't ready for such a big step unless your married." I even think there are quite some people getting married because their parents them tell them to.

[DrNatchKilder]

The marrige is a party ONLY for the lawyers.

One reason people get married are legal issues. When you are married, the inheritances and all these kind of things are a bit more easy

[Alakazam]

Marriage is a joke.

I do not want to get married simply because I do not want to deal with another person's opinion on things that I want to do. If you are simply together, you can tell that person to take a hike if things do not work out, and it will not cost you a damn thing [at lest most of the time]. Marriage also opens the door for children. Sorry, not I. Kids are monkies on acid [bonus points if you know who said that]. I am over 20, I am in school, and when I get a good paying job, I want to buy things for myself. I do not want to have to worry about taking care of my children or a wife.

So inconclusion I do not want to marry because:

1)I want sex from the variety pack of life...I do not want to eat cheerios for eternity
2)I am selfish, I want things when I want them and how I want them. My money, not hers...
3)You cannot be a kid and have kids too.

[redneckking]

I didn't say everyone was really young and I did not mean to imply that everyone of the same age group thinks the same but many of the post that say marriage is stupid and dumb stuff like, marriage is dumb just because were the people I was refering to.

[Nirvana13666]

If people want to get married then they should. I feel marriage is a public declaration of a bond between two people. I have been with my soul mate for 2 years and we plan on getting married in the future but if it doesn’t happen it won’t mean I think of him as my life partner any less.

[Commander-K25]

The reason marriages don't last today is that people, (especially young 20 somethings people), are much more selfish, shortsighted and noncommittal than previous generations. They expect marriage to be this magical thing that just works perfectly when really it takes a lot of work and dedication.

What is marriage? It is a declaration of dedication.

[Ted-Easton]

Why not get married? It's the same as living together, only you're legally bound. This protects your financial interests, and all of your posessions in case of accidental death.
Also there are many little known tax breaks and perks for being married that single people do not recieve.
There is no reason NOT to get married, and, it seems, saying otherwise is just being difficult for the sake of it.

[Shih]

At 1/31/03 07:03 PM, Alakazam wrote: Kids are monkies on acid [bonus points if you know who said that].

Sam Kinnison

[TheShrike]

Good point.

But not worthy of a thread.

People will marry if they truly want. You might as well whine about the stars shining too brightly.

[nitroxide]

Marriage is a public declaration of love wether or not i get married doesnt matter my girlfriend is still my soulmate and my eternal life partner but people should be able to reveal that love publically with marriage. i dont believe in church and i will not get married there but that ceromony wherever it may be will symbolize all my feelings for my other half and i think its a great feeling to find the one that you can declare your heart and dreams to.

[FrakMan]

I've been married now for 2.5 years, and I couldn't be happier. I was engaged for about 2 years and knew her for quite some time before that too, so I got to know my wife pretty well before-hand. While it is true that our bond formed well before marriage, we wanted to make it official both for religious reasons and to psychologically fix ourselves with the idea of staying together for the rest of our lives. I'm a firm believer in the necessity of a family unit (and no, I'm not some ultra-conservative corn-fed whatever) for the good of one's children as well as one's self. While I definitely agree that one could form this bond and mental state without a formal label (and I respect those who do), I find it easier to take our relationship seriously this way. Unfortunately that is not what most people seem to get married for these days. It's all about mentally setting yourself to commit to someone... in my opinion, that's what it should be, anyway.

[bumcheekcity]

At 1/7/03 01:00 PM, mulder_xuk wrote: marriage is not a thing that should be done

if 2 people love each other then they can live together and have children (or not if they cant or choose not to) and grow old together

They don't have to get married, in my opinion, but if they want to then it's their choice. My parents have been married happily for 15 years and I know other people that have split after one. It's not a thing to go into lightly, but I don't think it should be banned.

[JMHX]

What it really comes down to in the end is the personal choices and beliefs of the two (you spell out two, people! It aggrivates me! You spell out the number up to 10, when you start using numerics).

If the two people, be they man and woman or man and man or woman and woman like that, will get married if and when they want to. The reasons for marriage change and are unique with each case, and no scientific study or modern debate will ever find one reason why or why not to be married.