At 8/23/05 10:20 PM, LadyGrace wrote:
I feel that in this day and age, it's not really necessary. There's no overpopulation of women, so really, there's no need for men to take on multiple wives, unless it's just for his own sexual please. And if that's the case, that's not a true foundation for marriage anyway.
Also, a lot of the polygamous marriages in Utah produce juvenile delinquints because of the fact that when the boys in their families turn 18, the "father" throws them out on the street. They don't like males because they're competition, but because of the fact that these boys are thrown on the street, they break the law to survive.
Of course, sometimes polygamy brings about a strong family life, but only during certain times in history and during certain economic situations. Read The Moon Is A Harsh Mistress then you'll see one of the many cases in which I would support polygamy.
(Looks at the foolish puuman and laughs)
We are mammals, there is always a way higher female population compare to males, take dogs, cats, chimps, whales, dolphins, bats, lions, tigers, bears, rats, kangaroos, Jaguars, leapards, Gorillas, Monkeys, seals, cows, and horse for example. They have female populations usually twice or three times higher than that of males. I think you got your source about the "population" thing from the Hindu reason for polygamy.
And the humans have overpopulated the planet, otherwise we wouldn't be having extreme amount of hunger in Africa that wasn't there a few centuries ago, in China, and in Latin America.
Bible and Torah Wise: Abraham married two women.
The only religion with an actual limit on the number of wives a man can have and the number of husbands a woman can have is Islam. All other polygamy restrictions come from the government regulations and not from religion.
Of course marrying more than woman has its problems.
Polygamy the way it should be:
1) Only marry an addition wife with the approval (sexual and respect and concern wise) of all wives you currently have.
2) Share your wives with equal respect and treat your entire community (you and your wives as complete equals)
3) Don't marry a feminist - let them die out due to having no males willing to reproduce with them. We already have enough problems in this world as it is, we don't need them anyways.
4) Allow your wives to have the freedom of finding a woman of their own that they are eager to share with the community.
5) The true purpose of Polygamy is to establish a perfect union of which acts as a realm of mutual love between multiple people. It berids the ideas of conservatude (Stricting yourself to one person and never leaving him or her). And it allows one person to not be excluded to just one person. Alot of the reason why people cheat on their women or men, is because they are confined the same person all the time. This a natural aspect of all human, eat the same kind of chocolate too long and you'll never eat one ever again. (tis the old saying) What that means is one person can grow tired of another person, if that is the only person they ever express their feelings for. And people that normally bottle up their feelings normally become looneys later in life. So its better to just get done with your needs rather than going along with what everyone else expects you to do. Get my drift?
Here is a better way to explain, one man is married to two women, he dies. They still have each other.
Another story, one man is married to one woman, he dies, what is she suppose to do. She can move on, by the time it takes find another partner like him or not like him at all might take her entire life time.
Now if he had married two women whom he adored, because they both treated him in the manner he liked and respected. Don't you think they'll like the way the same way as he is treated. If true partners of love are suppose to be equal?
The only reason why polygamy doesn't work normally is because one partner (normally the male) abuses the relationship.
I am all for polygamy, but mainly because I seek to find a lover for my lover whom is someone that I too can love. And I am strictly heterosexual.