At 3/13/05 05:40 AM, gfoxcook wrote:
At 3/12/05 04:57 PM, Speaks_Softly wrote:
<snip>... I have to sit through about 300 instances of abuse every day when browsing this site. It gets REALLY old, and don't expect me to sit still for some of this "you're gay, you deserve (or get) a bullet in the head" crap that's expressed all over the place here. Talk about abusive!<snip>...
IOW, if you're tiring of the homophobic bullshit some authors are giving you, perhaps toning down the publicity you're giving to your sexuality... might be the best choice. In a perfect world I wouldn't even have to recommend that as this would be a non-issue. But this isn't a perfect world, and NG reflects that, sadly.
First off, thanks for responding. As a very new person around here, I have no idea how the mod thing is set up, and I really haven't even looked at the BBS. In any case, as to the above, I was really referring to the content of flashes more than anything directed at me.
The real thing is that as soon as I am ok with my work and start posting it, this problem is going to heat up for me (since people WILL have a grasp of my orientation in many cases). So I would like to get as comfortable with the abuse policy in regard to this kind of stuff as I can.
Also, I found your comment to keep my orientation more private pretty offensive. While I don't go out of my way to yell I'M GAY in anyone's face, when I start putting my work out there, people are going to understand I'm gay in some cases. Your answer to this is that I not make any flash that is too overt? Do you consider how many overt heterosexual references I hear every day that you don't even notice because it's "normal" to you? Hopefully you'll reconsider this way of thinking about this subject.
Anyway, I do appreciate your response, and keep in mind that I'm just trying to figure out how to interact here as serendipitously as possible, and I have infinitely better things to do than spend my time bellowing GAY RIGHT ON NG NOW or other such bullhonkery.