At 10/5/04 03:34 PM, Frozen_Fox wrote:
At 10/4/04 10:54 AM, TigerDemon wrote:
Well here it is folks the list:wow.....those are gonna come in handy.........wonder why this sort of thread hasnt been done before:\
DATEING TIPS AND RULES:
anyways. this isnt actually about me but my mate. He is gay and really likes a guy were both friends with and wants to ask him out etc. even though the guy aint gay as far as I know. If he does ask him out then theres gonna be hell casue its gonna spread round school like wildfire that my mate is gay and he aint gonna want that so i was wondering if you could come up with some reasons I could tell my mate NOT to ask the guy out.....not exactly your traditional questionfor this sort of thing but I dont wanna end up seeing my mate get hurt by the dickheads at my school
My school has one of the largest homosexual populations around. I have simmilar situations floating around my dorm lately. I think the best idea is that you tell your gay friend that the straight man he has a man crush on is probabaly not going to take it well, and by hitting on him, he will inevitably "out" himself.
There are lots of factors around "comming out", and coping with homosexuality is definately one of the most difficult things a young person can face and have to cope with. I cant tell him when its appropriate to "come out", but there will be hardship involved. Im assumeing he's still young.. like 16, and there are lots of factors surrounding his potential coming out. I honestly recomend he wait until graduation to expose this sexual prefrence, because it will be easier when he's older, and his peers will be less ignorant to it then. I know thats rough advice, but i realy recomend your gay friend withold his sexual frustration and only open up to those who have already come out.
Furthermore, ive been to few gay youth groups, and i would recomend he find one in his area.