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At 7/30/09 08:27 AM, Twone wrote: Hey, guys. I need some advice.

My girlfriend of over a year broke up with me yesterday. It wasn't a bad breakup, it just wasn't very mutual. I mean, of course I'm upset, but I haven't lost all hope, you know? I can move on. She's staying in high school and I'm going off to college, so it could be for the best. My problem is I still have one month left here, and we both work at the same store. And we work together next saturday. My question to you is should I stay at work that day, or take off because it'll be awkward? I fear that it could be a problem.

Go to work. Seriously, go to work. There's two things that's gonna happen.

1)She won't be there.
2)She'll be there and you have to see her.

In the second cases, it's better if you meet her. First of all, apologize for what you have done wrong to her, and clearly state you wish to be friends and to put everything behind. If she doesn't want to be friends, then ask just ask that she forgives you. I'm sure she also didn't enjoy the breakup.

So, ask for forgiveness. At least she won't feel too guilty.

And I know there are sometimes where we are not supposed to apologize, but that phase has passed now.

List of emotions that I think are useless.

Jealousy - I get jealous when I can't be part with someone's group. Like a group of friends.
Resent - When someone critics me. I hate it, but I know it's true.
Anger - Constantly snapping at my family.
Depression - It comes after resent.

I think this is all for now.

At 7/30/09 08:27 AM, Twone wrote: Hey, guys. I need some advice.

My girlfriend of over a year broke up with me yesterday. It wasn't a bad breakup, it just wasn't very mutual. I mean, of course I'm upset, but I haven't lost all hope, you know? I can move on. She's staying in high school and I'm going off to college, so it could be for the best. My problem is I still have one month left here, and we both work at the same store. And we work together next saturday. My question to you is should I stay at work that day, or take off because it'll be awkward? I fear that it could be a problem.

Wether it'll be awkward depends completely on you. You can choose to come into work and simply do your job, be friendly with her and have a good day, or to go to work while being scared if seeing her and trying to avoid her.

At 7/30/09 09:19 AM, jackripperz wrote: And I know there are sometimes where we are not supposed to apologize, but that phase has passed now.

Could you elaborate, because honestly, I can't think of a single reason why he should apologize or what he should apologize for?

At 7/30/09 09:38 AM, jackripperz wrote: List of emotions that I think are useless.

All of these emotions are you fault. You have absolute control over your emotions, even though you've probably never learned that it's true or how to handle it. It's a slow progress that takes quite some time to get in control again. A better understanding of these emotions will help you with that.

Jealousy - I get jealous when I can't be part with someone's group. Like a group of friends.

Jealousy, in most cases including this one, is caused by seeking approval. You feel rejected when you're not a part of something and believe your friends don't want you to be with them.
However, life is yours to live your way and you have absolute control over it. Instead you are blaming them for the way you feel. They should be wanting to be with you. They are supposed to make you feel good. They should accept you and approve of you.
The truth is that they don't and you need to accept yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others and to what you think they think of you. None of that matters as, in the end, it adds nothing to your life at all. Take responsibility for the way you feel and don't blame anyone, not even yourself, for the way you feel. View every single moment as an opportunity to grow, learn and take control of your life, emotions included.

Resent - When someone critics me. I hate it, but I know it's true.

This one can be helped fairly easy. What you need to realize is that A) Not all critique is honest because sometimes it's fueled by jealousy, and B) It's a chance to take someone elses view to become aware of yourself. That way you can improve yourself if needed by changing what they critique you on. The weak are hurt by critique, the strong use it to become stronger.

Also, someone elses view of you is their view of you, not who you actually are. Therefor it's unwise to take critique personally as it could very well be a wrong interpretation or a prejudiced view.

Anger - Constantly snapping at my family.

Can you give an example of this?

Depression - It comes after resent.

You blame yourself for being resentful. Blaming yourself is a choice you make, just like you could've chosen to accept your responsibility and handle your resentfulness in a contructive way. The problem was that you weren't aware of this choice, but now you are.
What you need to do now is take advantage of that awareness whenever one of these emotions come up in a destructive way that you don't want it to. So whenever you feel jealousy, think to yourself about what it means and then walk away from it. Do the same with anger, resent, etc. Anything you are not happy with can be changed by becoming aware of it, setting a priority and then commiting to change.
So stop blaming yourself, stop blaming others, take control, take responsibility and lead a constructive life.

At 7/30/09 09:19 AM, jackripperz wrote:

In the second cases, it's better if you meet her. First of all, apologize for what you have done wrong to her, and clearly state you wish to be friends and to put everything behind. If she doesn't want to be friends, then ask just ask that she forgives you. I'm sure she also didn't enjoy the breakup.

I could tell, but she ended it. It didn't hit me hard until today during work. I almost broke down and cried in front of my coworkers. I really cared about her, and she said she still loved me but wanted to split up because she's needy and I'm going to college. If she really loved me like she said, wouldn't she want to stay with me throughout college? It makes me think that she never loved me in the first place, and only wanted me because she was desperate. It feels like the whole relationship was a joke. I was seeing her for nearly a year and a half.

So, ask for forgiveness. At least she won't feel too guilty.
And I know there are sometimes where we are not supposed to apologize, but that phase has passed now.

That's the problem. I still feel like there's nothing for me to apologize for. She broke my heart, but I think she was incredibly upset by it too. I don't know what to think of that.

At 7/30/09 12:48 PM, Vincoid wrote: Wether it'll be awkward depends completely on you. You can choose to come into work and simply do your job, be friendly with her and have a good day, or to go to work while being scared if seeing her and trying to avoid her.

I guess I feel both ways. I'm afraid that it will be too upsetting for the both of us, but then again I feel like it might not bother me and I can just get my work done.

Thanks, guys. I think I'll be at work next saturday. Even though I really cared about her and she was willing to end it just like that, I'll try my best to move on and not be a baby.

To Vincoid: Thanks for telling me what to do. It hurts to hear what people say about me, but at least now I know how to make it better.

The reason I told him to ask for forgiveness was for anything he did wrong in the relationship. The attraction phase has already passed so it's okay now. Also, when you ask for forgiveness, she will probably ask the same thing because she know that in a relationship, it works both ways. She probably did some wrong in the past too.

Plus, they won't be bothered as much since both of them had already accepted what has happened.

To Twone: You say you almost broke down at work? You should. Not at work though. I mean, let it go. Cry. But after you're done, don't get caught up in it. Let your emotions flow like a river. Don't hold it in. In the end, it'll mix with other emotions and explode like a water dam.

Crying is not a sign of weakness. To be able to cry is what most can't do. Like I said, cry and let the emotions out. But don't get caught up in it.

Also, I think she's just afraid of two things.

1)You going to college means a lot of things. Can she really trust you?
2)Can she trust herself when you're not there with her?

Okay, well that's all I think. If I'm wrong, then I'll learn from it. If I'm right, then I'll have a beer.

At 7/31/09 12:32 AM, jackripperz wrote: To Vincoid: Thanks for telling me what to do. It hurts to hear what people say about me, but at least now I know how to make it better.

You're welcome ;)

The reason I told him to ask for forgiveness was for anything he did wrong in the relationship. The attraction phase has already passed so it's okay now. Also, when you ask for forgiveness, she will probably ask the same thing because she know that in a relationship, it works both ways. She probably did some wrong in the past too.

The attraction phase has got nothing to do with it. Sure, he might have done some things wrong in their relationship (hence her breaking up) but that doesn't mean he should apologize.
His mistakes were most likely caused by inexperience and/or a lack of knowledge. Both of those shouldn't be apologized for but rather solved by gaining experience and learning how to be a better person (in relationships).

Plus, they won't be bothered as much since both of them had already accepted what has happened.

Man I got lots of problems. Seriously, I wonder how I manage to be so carefree?

Here's my problem.

Okay, my cousin, is 3 days older than me and she has a freaking problem. Now, I'm trying to be my best to be rational so hear me out and help me dear god because she will not listen to anyone.

She moved into my school this year and everything was cool and fine for a while. At first, I kept hearing bad things about her, so I defended her a couple of times. But, I stopped doing that. In school, she's very close to the teachers so every teacher likes her.

But she has a problem of telling people what to do. Basically, she wants everyone to do the work for her, while she hangs out with her friends and her boyfriend doing absolutely nothing. She's a prefect at school and tonight, she's going to a prefect dinner where she is going to be appointed Assistant Head Prefect or something. People aren't happy since she does nothing, but teachers like her and decides to give her the title.

Now that's one. The second thing is she's a drama queen. I grew up with her and I know her well. Last week, she wanted to scream when I refused to give her my seat in class. (We are all assigned seats.) My response was " You want to scream, yell fine. It's my seat. You still can't sit here." (Now I realize she's starting to sound like a real blonde. Only she's asian.)

When I tell her that she needs to change her freaking attitude with the rest of her prefects and other people, she starts throwing a tantrum. When I tell her she likes to make drama about the littlest things, (I put my hand on her table once and she totally yelled and started to spout things like how her table is special and my hands are dirty.)

She's not dumb though. She gets straight A's. But she's just too needy and wants attention all the time. She can't see herself being wrong. Even when she is. She's been wrong before and she still wont admit it.

Also around 2 years ago, she started stealing people's money. From 200-900+ dollars. Now, I think she's using her best friends money since her bestfriend is rich.

Please Vincoid, help me on this one. Help me change my cousin. As much as I hate her, I don't want to see my own cousin be hated.

At 7/31/09 12:32 AM, jackripperz wrote: To Twone: You say you almost broke down at work? You should. Not at work though. I mean, let it go. Cry. But after you're done, don't get caught up in it. Let your emotions flow like a river. Don't hold it in. In the end, it'll mix with other emotions and explode like a water dam.

I did, trust me. I kind of am right now.

Crying is not a sign of weakness. To be able to cry is what most can't do. Like I said, cry and let the emotions out. But don't get caught up in it.

I try not to. I'm already hanging out with my brothers and friends and still having fun in my darkest of times.

Also, I think she's just afraid of two things.

1)You going to college means a lot of things. Can she really trust you?

She always said she loved me no matter what. I wouldn't cheat on her, and I don't think she realized that. I can't blame this all on her, though, this is how she feels.

2)Can she trust herself when you're not there with her?

She's still in high school and has her biggest year yet. She shouldn't waste it constantly worrying about me. So I give her credit for that.

I think she realizes that long distance relationships are really fucking hard. Her sister and her boyfriend of five years broke up just a few days before us because she's moving to Germany for grad school and he still has one year at Penn State. They dated all throughout high school and then one went to Johns Hopkins in Maryland and the other went to Penn State. All she did was focus on him instead of her college experience. I think that's what my (ex)girlfriend wanted for me, too.

Also, an older brother of mine had a problem with this, too. He wasn't seeing this girl for nearly as long, but she told him she couldn't do it anymore. She broke up with him via text. He felt like shit because he was being cheated by her. Luckily, he found someone in college that he couldn't be happier with.

Okay, well that's all I think. If I'm wrong, then I'll learn from it. If I'm right, then I'll have a beer.

Well you've helped me realize a lot about us and my life. I should be sad, but it shouldn't hinder whatever else I have to do. Go have a beer.

At 7/31/09 07:45 AM, jackripperz wrote: Please Vincoid, help me on this one. Help me change my cousin. As much as I hate her, I don't want to see my own cousin be hated.

I understand where you're coming from man as I had kind of the same thing going on with my brother, but the thing is that you can't help her. Whenever you want to help someone who doesn't want to be helped (or doesn't see that there's a problem) they tend to go directly against what you say, be very stubborn and never give in at all.
I tried to teach my brother some of the things that I teach, but he wouldn't listen either. He didn't think there was anything wrong with him (which there technically isn't) and my attempts were only creating trouble. At some point I simply stopped trying as I realized that I can't help people who aren't willing and that they are responsible for their own life, just like they are responsible for coming to me and ask for help.

As much I want to help you, I can't. Not only is it nearly impossible to change a girl like her in person, it's a million times harder if I have to do it through you with her not wanting to cooperate. So, I'm sorry that I can't help you help her, but you need to realize that it's her life and hope that she one day sees what she's doing and either learns from it or seeks knowledge somewhere else.

At 7/31/09 09:08 AM, Twone wrote:

At 7/31/09 12:32 AM, jackripperz wrote:

Well you've helped me realize a lot about us and my life. I should be sad, but it shouldn't hinder whatever else I have to do. Go have a beer.

The beer is actually just an expression. I'm a minor and a muslim. But I hear they're making a Halal beer for us. I bet it tastes horrible since they minus the alcohol.

Alright V. That's right. I forgot about that philosophy. Thanks for reminding me. I'll be on for a while I think. But if I'm not online, that means I'm grounded or something.

At 7/30/09 07:17 AM, Vincoid wrote:

Hope this helps you as well B4gle ;)

But what if she was trying to make him jealous and he doesn't say anything and she starts to think that he doesn't care.. and takes that in a bad way? Thats why I said just bring it up once and if she says no then just forget about it. Whats wrong with that?

At 7/31/09 01:56 PM, B4gle wrote:

At 7/30/09 07:17 AM, Vincoid wrote:

Hope this helps you as well B4gle ;)

But what if she was trying to make him jealous and he doesn't say anything and she starts to think that he doesn't care.. and takes that in a bad way? Thats why I said just bring it up once and if she says no then just forget about it. Whats wrong with that?

Because that makes it look like he finds it a big deal and is trying to hide it with some casual attempt to get some information out of her. Vincoid's right, it looks horribly insecure. The man's best option is to not do anything at all. She's almost certainly testing him and theres no way to avoid a bad situation. If he does nothing, then she thinks he doesn't care about her. If he does something then he looks like an unattractive guy who's insecure over something as minor as getting ice cream. Sounds like a lose/lose situation for her but in fact she wants to make him look insecure so that she can have more control over him and their relationship.

HI i 13 and i going out with a girl in my school and i scared that she might dump me also i know it my sound stuipd but what should i do with her thanks

At 8/1/09 12:02 AM, visiblecrumpet wrote:

At 7/31/09 01:56 PM, B4gle wrote: But what if she was trying to make him jealous and he doesn't say anything and she starts to think that he doesn't care.. and takes that in a bad way? Thats why I said just bring it up once and if she says no then just forget about it. Whats wrong with that?

Because that makes it look like he finds it a big deal and is trying to hide it with some casual attempt to get some information out of her. Vincoid's right, it looks horribly insecure. The man's best option is to not do anything at all. She's almost certainly testing him and theres no way to avoid a bad situation. If he does nothing, then she thinks he doesn't care about her. If he does something then he looks like an unattractive guy who's insecure over something as minor as getting ice cream. Sounds like a lose/lose situation for her but in fact she wants to make him look insecure so that she can have more control over him and their relationship.

Actually, doing nothing is the right choice to make here. It won't make her think he doesn't care, it makes her think he A) Wants her to have her own life and do her own thing, and B) Is very confident about her wanting him. Not reacting to it will only make him come across as more attractive to her as it shows emotional control as well as independance.

At 8/1/09 03:53 PM, hillyman1234 wrote: HI i 13 and i going out with a girl in my school and i scared that she might dump me also i know it my sound stuipd but what should i do with her thanks

It does sound stupid and here's why: She's going out with you for a reason!

Ok, so I'm back again, the guy with the movies thing, yeah so she's single now (she felt the need to tell me) and so I think I'm definitely gonna do something. Now all I need help on is how not to completely fuck this up, I mean I've got a virgin mouth, i've never been in a relationship before. any tips on how not to completely fucking fail at this?

At 8/2/09 01:06 PM, CowGoMoo wrote: Ok, so I'm back again, the guy with the movies thing, yeah so she's single now (she felt the need to tell me) and so I think I'm definitely gonna do something. Now all I need help on is how not to completely fuck this up, I mean I've got a virgin mouth, i've never been in a relationship before. any tips on how not to completely fucking fail at this?

I've been through this all fairly recently, and believe me: the number one rule is DO NOT OVERTHINK IT. :P Have confidence in yourself. She's into you for a reason. Just be yourself, and don't sweat it. Go with the flow, and everything will be fine.

I had some recent incidents in the bedroom that I'd like to share.

Recently I was having sex for the second time on the same day with my girlfriend during our trip to the beach. The first time I had finished after making her orgasm twice in 16 minutes. The second time, 6 hours later, we had sex from 1:30 AM to about 2:15 AM, during which I was getting the feeling like I was going to cum but the gates never seemed to open up. We just quit because we were sweating, panting, and she was already pretty worked up.

Since then I've had the same problem again, 5 days later. I've heard of premature ejaculation, but never this sort of delayed ejaculation. I don't think it's the sex we're having and its definitely not her physical features.

At 8/3/09 12:56 AM, Ecke wrote: Since then I've had the same problem again, 5 days later. I've heard of premature ejaculation, but never this sort of delayed ejaculation. I don't think it's the sex we're having and its definitely not her physical features.

Yeah that is weird... can't really think of anything to do about it either. Maybe do a little bit of searching on the net and see what comes up. I'm going to check something out and maybe there's an answer in there. I'll let you know if I find it.

At 8/3/09 02:06 AM, Vincoid wrote:

At 8/3/09 12:56 AM, Ecke wrote: Since then I've had the same problem again, 5 days later. I've heard of premature ejaculation, but never this sort of delayed ejaculation. I don't think it's the sex we're having and its definitely not her physical features.

Yeah that is weird... can't really think of anything to do about it either. Maybe do a little bit of searching on the net and see what comes up. I'm going to check something out and maybe there's an answer in there. I'll let you know if I find it.

I looked it up but I couldn't find anything that linked directly to your problem. However, as with so many other things, what you must not do is try and force it. Concentrate on the pleasure you're giving and receiving instead of ejaculating and you have a high probability that it'll come on its own. It also might take a few sessions before this will really sink in and your mind is used to it and is becoming natural with it.

Hope that helps, if not, I hope you find an answer to your problem on your own ;)

I love my girlfriend. Seriously. I love her. But when I'm around her, I can't talk normally. What the hell.
(And this is the man who gives relationship advice alongside Vincoid)

Seriously. I'm outta my mind trying to think what to talk about! I feel if I try to be normal with her, (I'm rude and my jokes people really don't understand) she'll reject me.

Dammit! I need positive reinforcement.

At 8/3/09 09:47 AM, jackripperz wrote: I love my girlfriend. Seriously. I love her. But when I'm around her, I can't talk normally. What the hell.
(And this is the man who gives relationship advice alongside Vincoid)

Don't worry, we all have things we need help with and out own areas of expertise.

Seriously. I'm outta my mind trying to think what to talk about! I feel if I try to be normal with her, (I'm rude and my jokes people really don't understand) she'll reject me.

First off all, this is the reason why you should always be yourself from the very beginning. I'm not saying you haven't been, but it sounds to me like you haven't for quite some time.

Secondly, why do you feel pressured to talk? Do you have to talk in order to feel good about each other?

Thirdly, there is only one way to really find out if she does or doesn't like the real you. What you need to ask yourself is if you, A) are willing to risk finding out wether she likes the real you, and B) are willing to keep her from seeing the real you, thus being constantly aware of being fake with her and, basicly, lying to her?

That's a tough choice but it sounds to me like you're really not happy right now and won't be as long as you're not completely yourself with her.

By the way, if you think being rude and telling jokes people don't understand keep you from being liked, try to change something about that. Stop being rude (as it only shows emotional weakness on your side) and learn what kinds of humor are actually funny.

I think my girlfriend is keeping secrets from me. help?

At 8/3/09 11:22 AM, Chat-man wrote: I think my girlfriend is keeping secrets from me. help?

That's what they're secrets for, so unless you can tell me what the actual problem is (like a lack of trust on your side or possibly destructive secrets on her side) there's nothing to help you with.

Also, secrets aren't a bad thing. If you don't keep room in a relationship for your own, the relationship will suck as it'll feel like you don't have any privacy. Plus there won't be any mystery which is always a bad thing.

At 8/3/09 11:37 AM, Vincoid wrote:
Also, secrets aren't a bad thing. If you don't keep room in a relationship for your own, the relationship will suck as it'll feel like you don't have any privacy. Plus there won't be any mystery which is always a bad thing.

okay, thanks for the help! Now I have less things to worry about!

Alright I can't take it any more. I'm going to post a very large and detailed account of my life and I would be very thankful for any suggestions any of you can make.

About 5 months ago I went into my first really serious relationship (I'm 16 for the record, me and Girl A as she will now be known as started going out on my birthday). Things were going great, I felt better than ever and stuff was good. I lost my virginity with her, which I wasn't too bothered about and I'm still not to this day. However, we went to about 4 parties all in all, and every time it was horrific.

She got extremely drunk every time and made me feel like shit. Things came to a head at the fourth party. She was smashed that badly that she couldn't move. I've never been drunk and don't plan to, I don't need to be drunk to have a good time. Anyway, I got her phone and rang her Nan, asking what was the best plan. Her Nan said she'd come and pick her up.

Why did I ring? Because I'm not looking after her for the fourth party in a row, I wanted some time with my mates and I wanted to have a good time with the other sober people. I told Girl A, and at this news she flipped. She yelled at me, said I ruined her life, I'm a dick, you know, the works. I eventually left early with my friends and that was it. The next day I called her and ended it. I'd never ended a relationship before, let alone my first serious one. It effected me tremendously. I still stand that it was a valid decision, but since then I've not been happy and things have gone downhill.

I'm telling you this because it was a run up to my next person, Girl B. Girl A made me lose contact with all of my friends. She isolated me from the others, and I was so blind, so STUPID to be lured away from them. Girl B I got close to again, and eventually fell for her and she "fell" for me. I was invited over, but the day before she said she liked me, would do anything, but not a relationship because of the holidays. Still thinking this over I went to her house.

We talked for ages, then started making out. This was fine, it happened at the after party at prom, but this was as far as I thought she'd go. We made out more and then went upstairs to her room. It ended up that my hand was down her pants and visa-versa. She pushed my hand down there, I just followed her lead, I never once pushed it.

Her brother came home and I was kicked out, which was fine. We texted TWICE after this, then she blanked me. The next day she was due to go on holiday, we texted a lot, then she said she ran out of credit and went on holiday. I texted her a few days into her holiday and she texted me back, but said she was out of signal? Girl B I've known for five years and she's never been like this. We then didn't speak for two weeks, until today.

She came back today and my friends told me I should ask what the fuck is going on. I texted her. The response was; I still like you, but don't want a relationship. Its now changed from not jsut because of the holidays, but because she doesn't want a relationship with me. What am I supposed to do now? I feel like shit to be honest, Girl B was there for me after A and she made me feel great and happy again, now I'm back to where I started and feel like crap.

Suggestions? Thoughts? Did I go wrong somewhere?

At 8/3/09 12:56 AM, Ecke wrote: I had some recent incidents in the bedroom that I'd like to share.

Recently I was having sex for the second time on the same day with my girlfriend during our trip to the beach. The first time I had finished after making her orgasm twice in 16 minutes. The second time, 6 hours later, we had sex from 1:30 AM to about 2:15 AM, during which I was getting the feeling like I was going to cum but the gates never seemed to open up. We just quit because we were sweating, panting, and she was already pretty worked up.

Since then I've had the same problem again, 5 days later. I've heard of premature ejaculation, but never this sort of delayed ejaculation. I don't think it's the sex we're having and its definitely not her physical features.

This is more of a sex question than a relationship question :P

There are a variety of possible reasons as to why you weren't able to "finish". Did you have any alcohol before the times you weren't able to finish? Alcohol tends to screw around with your ability to preform, so that might be the issue.

Another potential reason is your masturbation habits. If you do it prior to sex, or tend to do it quite a bit in general, it could be that your body is drained and hasn't had time to fully recover.

The third reason i can think of relates to the actual act itself. If you start too rough in the beginning before your body is ready for it, that could affect it too (i.e. start slowly, and build up to the more rough stuff)

The final possible reason is that you are just trying too hard. Every time you feel like your body wants to ejaculate, are you purposely trying to hold it back? Your body can only hold on to that state of being on the edge for a certain period of time (especially without practice), so if you hold it off for too long you might find you aren't able to finish at all.

*God I hope people aren't going to be asking me to solve their sex problems after this...

At 8/3/09 12:43 PM, BrAddErZ958 wrote:

Suggestions? Thoughts? Did I go wrong somewhere?

Well, in my opinion, you didn't do anything wrong. You just didn't want a girlfriend who got too drunk like that, then the thing with the other girl happened, no offence, but girl B sounds a bit like a slut so don't let her bother you, she just probably wanted fuck you.

The only thing I would of done different, is that I wouldnt of called the girls nan. I would of told her that if she didn't stop getting drunk like that and getting out of control, then the relationship would be over.

At 8/3/09 04:33 PM, B4gle wrote: Well, in my opinion, you didn't do anything wrong. You just didn't want a girlfriend who got too drunk like that, then the thing with the other girl happened, no offence, but girl B sounds a bit like a slut so don't let her bother you, she just probably wanted fuck you.

She's really not like that. She's never done anything like this before, and still has her virginity. She means a lot to me because she's a really close friend.

The only thing I would of done different, is that I wouldnt of called the girls nan. I would of told her that if she didn't stop getting drunk like that and getting out of control, then the relationship would be over.

See I told her this a few days before the party and she promised she wouldn't get that drunk, on top of that, she rang her nan (WHILE DRUNK) and said that I was lying about her being drunk.

See the thing is I'm still really down, and don't know what to do about relationships in general, I've had no luck and I still really like Girl B.

Fuckkkkk, another problem. She wants me to be like more open and like tell her everything i guess, but thats just not who I am. I don't think thats who I ever could be. Comfortably, at least. I really want to be with her, I like her alot, but I just don't wanna be something I know I'm not. What should I do?

At 8/3/09 05:48 PM, CowGoMoo wrote: Fuckkkkk, another problem. She wants me to be like more open and like tell her everything i guess, but thats just not who I am. I don't think thats who I ever could be. Comfortably, at least. I really want to be with her, I like her alot, but I just don't wanna be something I know I'm not. What should I do?

You shouldn't ever try to be something you're not. I'd know this all to well. The worst case she could ditch you later along the line, and your friends may not like the change they see. If anything happens, always stay true to yourself.