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At 7/23/09 07:30 AM, Vincoid wrote:
Not worry since you can't predict the future and thus there's nothing to worry about.

First off all, why worry about a girl killing herself when you leave her if you're not planning on leaving her? Also, why worry that she'd kill herself because there's no way to know for sure and, even if it did happen, it's not your responsibility but hers?

I'm not saying she would kill herself. Im just saying shes medically diagnosed as suicidal. She used to cut before we met but sicne we've been going out she has seemed much happier. I really do love her, and was sort've scared but your right...you can't predict the future.

So you have nothing to worry about at all. You don't know when you're going to die and how, but you don't worry about that either. You don't know when anything in the future will happen, yet you worry only about the thing that's certain, namely this girl loving you and you loving her back.
If there's truly something wrong here besides you worrying about nothing, it's her being suicidal (if she really is). Though it's highly unlikely she'll actually kill herself, you might want to wonder why she's miserable and how you can help her deal with it.

Thanks Vincoid, I appreciate it. This took a lot of things, namely stress, off my mind.

D

At 7/23/09 04:25 PM, CowGoMoo wrote: I'm afraid this is where I have to disagree with you. I looked through some stuff on various websites that other people had said and it would seems like I match every single one, such as not even knowing why I like her and getting reminded of her through literally everything.

That really doesn't mean you love her man. Besides, why should I be wrong, simply because there are more people saying you're right? Has it occured to you that there is roughly 75-90% of people with the wrong idea of love? Has it occured to you that they could all be wrong and I, having been succesfully helping guys with this exact same idea for the past two years, am right?

Not that it really matters though who you think is right, but what does matter is how you feel. If you tell yourself you love her, you can very easily act like a wuss toward her and screw everything up.

At 7/23/09 08:18 PM, Brumak wrote: Thanks Vincoid, I appreciate it. This took a lot of things, namely stress, off my mind.

D

You're welcome. And remember, the future isn't something to worry about and be afraid off, but something to look forward to. Get rid of the idea that things happens to you and start thinking in a way that tells you that you make things happen. This will motivate you to make the best of and see the best in the future, whatever it may be.

At 7/23/09 03:30 PM, Vincoid wrote: 3. Your idea of being a good boyfriend is buying your girl a lot of stuff, which is always a guaranteed way to fail a relationship.

I guarantee I'll fuck up right here.

That's why I'll post soon enough if I ever get in a relationship.

Lol, coming and going... :D

At 7/24/09 01:56 PM, UltimateAxl wrote:

At 7/23/09 03:30 PM, Vincoid wrote: 3. Your idea of being a good boyfriend is buying your girl a lot of stuff, which is always a guaranteed way to fail a relationship.

I guarantee I'll fuck up right here.

That's why I'll post soon enough if I ever get in a relationship.

And you don't think it's wise to actually get rid of that tendency BEFORE you have a relationship to fuck up?

At 7/24/09 02:23 PM, Vincoid wrote: And you don't think it's wise to actually get rid of that tendency BEFORE you have a relationship to fuck up?

Good point.

But it's a new experience for me so I might be a little blind-sighted. Of course I can't judge my feelings yet until I began a relationship. Sometimes I got to learn myself, and trust myself too.

Sorry I like to jump and post things in this thread, agreeing or not agreeing.

Be a better idea to think of it now than later.

Alright, I think I've had enough expirence with girls to start helping out here, so I'll start giving advice when people ask. Hopefully that will give Vincoid some less work since he seems to be helping everyone here.

I've got the same problem as a million other guys. I'm in the friend zone. Me and this girl are pretty much best friends, not a day goes by where we dont at least text eachother. We have known eachother for about a year. I have reason to believe that when we first met she wanted to go out but at the time I was having family troubles and was to depressed for a relationship. Any chance of me getting her to feel the same about me as I do about her?

At 7/25/09 03:13 AM, scarneck wrote: I've got the same problem as a million other guys. I'm in the friend zone. Me and this girl are pretty much best friends, not a day goes by where we dont at least text eachother. We have known eachother for about a year. I have reason to believe that when we first met she wanted to go out but at the time I was having family troubles and was to depressed for a relationship. Any chance of me getting her to feel the same about me as I do about her?

Yeah. Don't try to make a sudden change though. If your really into this girl your going to have to change your relationship with her from being a friend, to a girlfriend very slowly.

Just stop acting so much as a friend, and drop little hints every now and then that your interested. Sometimes dont text her back, act like your busy. Just stop doing things that a best friend does and start acting differently.

The worst thing you can do is just randomly say "I have secretly loved you for the past year do you love me back?"

Just keep it cool and let her come to you, if she says she likes you, say you also like her and then you could start dating. If that doesn't happen, move on, there are other people in the world.

I wanna jump in and help a little bit here.

At 7/25/09 03:13 AM, scarneck wrote: I've got the same problem as a million other guys. I'm in the friend zone. Me and this girl are pretty much best friends, not a day goes by where we dont at least text each other. We have known each other for about a year. I have reason to believe that when we first met she wanted to go out but at the time I was having family troubles and was to depressed for a relationship. Any chance of me getting her to feel the same about me as I do about her

Well, since you said you are her " Best Friend ", the best possible way, like the guy above me said, is to change slowly. Don't change suddenly. Speak differently, look at things at a new perspective and remember the 60/40 rule.

If you don't know what it means, it means Listen 60%,Talk 40%. Remember to keep this balance. Talk less, not say one line and shut up for the rest of the conversation. Just say less. 60/40

Also, show a bit of disinterest at her. She will start noticing you more.

That's all from me. I think I got it right.

Yeah I'm not an "emotional tampon" (great term) kind of friend. It's more like shes one of the guys kind of deal. She probably knows how I feel seeing as I make LOTS of sex jokes (shes into that). I wouldnt even be considering this if I hadnt kind of set myself up for this for awhile already. Basically that stuff is what i've been doing so I'm happy to hear that I'm doing alright.

At 7/24/09 04:18 PM, B4gle wrote: Hopefully that will give Vincoid some less work since he seems to be helping everyone here.

It's choice mate. You of all people should know I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't want to ;P

Seems my gf's number is unavailable. Been trying to contact her for the past three days and all I get is some Russian jibberish saying the number can't be reached. Sunday was the last time we spoke to each other/texted. Two options:

1. Phone is dead.
2. She's been cheating on me as expected and tries to avoid confrontation.

Two weeks to go till her return from Russia.

At 7/26/09 12:22 PM, NetWar wrote: Seems my gf's number is unavailable. Been trying to contact her for the past three days and all I get is some Russian jibberish saying the number can't be reached. Sunday was the last time we spoke to each other/texted. Two options:

1. Phone is dead.
2. She's been cheating on me as expected and tries to avoid confrontation.

Two weeks to go till her return from Russia.

Well, I may not be a genius. Especially when seen next to Vincoid but I'll make my suggestion but heed anybody elses words over mine!

If she's cheating on you, then she is and nothing you can do can really stop it, unless you get a hold of her on the phone which doesn't seem to be the case. My suggestion would be to just stop trying to call her. If you stop calling her then she will either not notice, because her phones dead. Or wonder why you stopped calling her when she was so used to ignoring you.

This could place her in an uncomfortable position, and she would wonder why you stopped calling, then address the situation when she returns.

My suggestion as of now, but I'd listen to what other people have to say!

At 7/25/09 08:44 PM, scarneck wrote: Yeah I'm not an "emotional tampon" (great term) kind of friend. It's more like shes one of the guys kind of deal. She probably knows how I feel seeing as I make LOTS of sex jokes (shes into that). I wouldnt even be considering this if I hadnt kind of set myself up for this for awhile already. Basically that stuff is what i've been doing so I'm happy to hear that I'm doing alright.

Good to hear, tell us about the progress.

Also, can someone tell me how to have control over my emotions? It seems I'm pretty weak at it. I mean I don't show it, but damn it hurts like hell. Up to the point I might even show it.

Alright,i have one. I met a girl a while back,about a year and a half ago. We went out for about 6 months,then she broke up with me. At first,it was a complete depressive meltdown (I think that's the right term -_-) but being a moron,i kept being her friend. I tried for the longest time to keep being her friend,lasted a few more months,but i couldn't stand it. I stopped talking to her completly,she probably didn't even notice...But after a few more months,i logged into the place where i met her. She immediatly noticed and said hi with,what i thought, was great joy and worry. We talked for a bit,but later switched to our usual messenger. We talked a bit about what had been going on in our lives. But the conversation slowly turned into a (in my opinion,because i still had feelings for her) wonderful conversation when she said "lee um...do you still maybe..like me?" (I'll tell you now,we are both 14 -_-) Which i immediatly freaked out,ecstatic because she asked me,since i knew what it meant. So i answered,and she told me the same. We went out again for a WEEK! -_- Which really got to me because we said that we'd try to make it at least until we saw each other. The sad thing was that this time,she broke up with me again,telling me that it was "Health problems",i mean,how could it be health problems!? >.<a nyway,another month passed by and my friend somehow got her e-mail adress and started e-mailing her. I found this out just at random,i checked my e-mail (which is the same company who ran my messenger...Fu** yahoo >.>) and all of the sudden,she messages me telling me that i was pathetic for making another e-mail and acting like i was a friend and that i should never talk to her ever again...Which pissed me off,but also restarted a sort of depression. Is there any way at all that i can at least be her friend,because she reallty is a very sweet girl who knows me better than anyone besides my parents. Please help me...

Man, is it too much to ask for some paragraphs? Anyway, I cleaned it for people who wants to help. Counseling ain't really my department. (Mine is Attraction and Rebounds)

But, my opinion is:

a)Still too young
b)Rushing the whole thing
c)Both are you still aren't ready
d)Both of you are lacking in communication. I mean, your faults and rights and whatnot.

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Alright,I have one. I met a girl a while back,about a year and a half ago. We went out for about 6 months,then she broke up with me.

At first,it was a complete depressive meltdown (I think that's the right term -_-) but being a moron,i kept being her friend. I tried for the longest time to keep being her friend,lasted a few more months,but i couldn't stand it. I stopped talking to her completly,she probably didn't even notice...But after a few more months,i logged into the place where i met her.

She immediatly noticed and said hi with,what i thought, was great joy and worry. We talked for a bit,but later switched to our usual messenger. We talked a bit about what had been going on in our lives. But the conversation slowly turned into a (in my opinion,because i still had feelings for her) wonderful conversation when she said "lee um...do you still maybe..like me?" (I'll tell you now,we are both 14 -_-) Which i immediatly freaked out,ecstatic because she asked me,since i knew what it meant. So i answered,and she told me the same. We went out again for a WEEK!

Which really got to me because we said that we'd try to make it at least until we saw each other. The sad thing was that this time,she broke up with me again,telling me that it was "Health problems",i mean,how could it be health problems!?

Anyway,another month passed by and my friend somehow got her e-mail adress and started e-mailing her. I found this out just at random,i checked my e-mail (which is the same company who ran my messenger...Fu** yahoo >.>) and all of the sudden,she messages me telling me that i was pathetic for making another e-mail and acting like i was a friend and that i should never talk to her ever again...Which pissed me off,but also restarted a sort of depression.

Is there any way at all that i can at least be her friend,because she reallty is a very sweet girl who knows me better than anyone besides my parents. Please help me...

At 7/27/09 10:01 AM, jackripperz wrote: Man, is it too much to ask for some paragraphs? Anyway, I cleaned it for people who wants to help. Counseling ain't really my department. (Mine is Attraction and Rebounds)

But, my opinion is:

a)Still too young
b)Rushing the whole thing
c)Both are you still aren't ready
d)Both of you are lacking in communication. I mean, your faults and rights and whatnot.

(Sorry about the paragraphs thing -_- I got a little too caught up in it >.< And also we did tell our pros and cons to each other,for example,i told her about the voices *crazy smile*)

Is there any way at all that i can at least be her friend,because she reallty is a very sweet girl who knows me better than anyone besides my parents. Please help me...

Truthfully, there really isn't much of a way to do something like that. The best case scenario would be to simply find another girl who provides the same type of things this original one does, it would be a far more logical, and healthy solution. Even being friends will only prolong your "pain" because you don't want to be anything other than together.

Find someone else.

O.O Thanks..It does seem like a good idea...I'll...I'll try ^.^ Thank you :)

At 7/27/09 05:25 AM, jackripperz wrote: Also, can someone tell me how to have control over my emotions? It seems I'm pretty weak at it. I mean I don't show it, but damn it hurts like hell. Up to the point I might even show it.

Well, I believe it's not so much about having control over them but rather eliminating them entirely (not all emotions, but the destructive ones).

The first step in this is setting up preferences and the second is awareness. You start out by deciding for yourself which emotions you don't want to feel and why not. Realizing this is very important.
For instance, you wouldn't want to feel any jealousy seeing as it doesn't help you in any way and will only make things worse for you. If you know you don't want this then you can notice it as it happens. When it happens, you can correct yourself and tell yourself this isn't what you want and stop it. This step takes quite some time (months, maybe years) and is very hard as it requires a lot of discipline.

Other examples are getting mad at other people for the way you react to what they say, getting mad at yourself for (not) doing something or blaming others or yourself for things out of your control or out of their control.

Also, try to realize why these things are destructive and useless as a part of becoming more aware of them and getting more motivated to actually get rid of them. If you can't figure out why, make a list of them and I'll go through them and tell you.

At 7/27/09 12:47 AM, Winned wrote: If she's cheating on you, then she is and nothing you can do can really stop it, unless you get a hold of her on the phone which doesn't seem to be the case. My suggestion would be to just stop trying to call her. If you stop calling her then she will either not notice, because her phones dead. Or wonder why you stopped calling her when she was so used to ignoring you.

Tried every combination I could think of and still no luck. Either way, I just can't get through. Fuck it. I give up.

This could place her in an uncomfortable position, and she would wonder why you stopped calling, then address the situation when she returns.

Or she could text me for once after a week of radio silence... A little "Hey, what's up?" doesn't hurt once in a while. And now I get this shit.

Meh, I'll just have to wait and see.

My suggestion as of now,

Was pretty good, actually.

I'm usually not the one to go posting my problems on here all too often, but I think I need some opinions to get my head straight:

I've been with my girlfriend for not far off 2 years now, and we're both happy and haven't had any major arguments or problems.

But, she's away in Turkey for 8 weeks this summer, which means I have barely seen her since a brief visit to her house 6 weeks ago (before she flew out). Since that weekend, I've gone relationship cold turkey; she barely has the time to email me, and when she does, the messages are fairly brief and seem rushed. I'm aware that she has little to no internet access though but it's a little disconcerting all the same. Says her phone didn't work and has a turkish one now, so it seems I can't phone her.

The trouble is, I find myself being drawn to a girl who I work with. I hate myself for being so weak as to begin to develop a crush on this girl, but it seems that I'm doing so. We get along well, and I know she isn't interested in me, yet still I jokingly flirt with her (as I do with any of my female friends) and generally have a laugh.

I got back from a week's holiday today, and she was outside. She seemed genuinely pleased to see me and gave me a hug...and I gave her a kiss on the cheek. Perfectly innocent, but ever since I've felt like shit. I feel like I shouldn't have done it, but the thing is I did it without even thinking. That can't be a good sign can it?

So now what the fuck do I do? I feel like shit, I love my girlfriend and I miss her, but why is it so fucking hard? I can't pour my feelings out to a computer screen, I'm only doing it here because this place is fairly anonymous. I don't want to cheat on her, nor do I want anyone else, but I feel like I'm constantly being tested and it's not goddam fair.

TL:DR - Girlfriend is away for 3 months and pretty much uncontactable, so I seem to be developing a crush on a work colleague.

At 7/28/09 08:23 PM, BrockManson wrote: I'm usually not the one to go posting my problems on here all too often, but I think I need some opinions to get my head straight:

I got back from a week's holiday today, and she was outside. She seemed genuinely pleased to see me and gave me a hug...and I gave her a kiss on the cheek. Perfectly innocent, but ever since I've felt like shit. I feel like I shouldn't have done it, but the thing is I did it without even thinking. That can't be a good sign can it?

Don't worry about it man. What you're going through is perfectly normal as you're used to being with your girl. Not being able to feel the same emotions as you usually do, you fool yourself into thinking you're into this girl at work. You'll notice that your co-worker will start to feel like a co-worker again once your girl is back.

So now what the fuck do I do? I feel like shit, I love my girlfriend and I miss her, but why is it so fucking hard? I can't pour my feelings out to a computer screen, I'm only doing it here because this place is fairly anonymous. I don't want to cheat on her, nor do I want anyone else, but I feel like I'm constantly being tested and it's not goddam fair.

Actually, you are constantly being tested, even if you are not aware of it. However, fair has got nothing to do with it. Commitments and relationships are hard work and the whole point of them is that the hard work is worth it.

My advice for now is to relax and not worry about this girl or your girlfriend. Right now you might doubt the reasons for her short messages and not being able to call her, but this is simply a reaction caused by her not being at your side right now. Just realize that she, just like you, has her own life apart from you and there is no reason to discourage that.
You'll feel better as soon as your girl is back and you'll see your worrying was for nothing ;)

At 7/28/09 02:30 AM, Vincoid wrote:

At 7/27/09 05:25 AM, jackripperz wrote: Also, can someone tell me how to have control over my emotions? It seems I'm pretty weak at it. I mean I don't show it, but damn it hurts like hell. Up to the point I might even show it.

Well, I believe it's not so much about having control over them but rather eliminating them entirely (not all emotions, but the destructive ones).

The first step in this is setting up preferences and the second is awareness. You start out by deciding for yourself which emotions you don't want to feel and why not. Realizing this is very important.
For instance, you wouldn't want to feel any jealousy seeing as it doesn't help you in any way and will only make things worse for you. If you know you don't want this then you can notice it as it happens. When it happens, you can correct yourself and tell yourself this isn't what you want and stop it. This step takes quite some time (months, maybe years) and is very hard as it requires a lot of discipline.

Other examples are getting mad at other people for the way you react to what they say, getting mad at yourself for (not) doing something or blaming others or yourself for things out of your control or out of their control.

Also, try to realize why these things are destructive and useless as a part of becoming more aware of them and getting more motivated to actually get rid of them. If you can't figure out why, make a list of them and I'll go through them and tell you.

Alright. I'll try to write a list.

At 7/28/09 08:23 PM, BrockManson wrote: I'm usually not the one to go posting my problems on here all too often, but I think I need some opinions to get my head straight:

I've been with my girlfriend for not far off 2 years now, and we're both happy and haven't had any major arguments or problems.

Awesome. Stable relationship.

But, she's away in Turkey for 8 weeks this summer, which means I have barely seen her since a brief visit to her house 6 weeks ago (before she flew out).

Crap. That's not good.

:Since that weekend, I've gone relationship cold turkey; she barely has the time to email me, and when she does, the messages are fairly brief and seem rushed. I'm aware that she has little to no internet access though but it's a little disconcerting all the same. Says her phone didn't work and has a turkish one now, so it seems I can't phone her.

I need to get this straight first, how many weeks has she been overseas? Is it 8 weeks? Because according to my calculations, last time you saw her was 6 weeks ago, which means she had only flown out for 2 weeks. We'll ignore this for now.

The trouble is, I find myself being drawn to a girl who I work with. I hate myself for being so weak as to begin to develop a crush on this girl, but it seems that I'm doing so. We get along well, and I know she isn't interested in me, yet still I jokingly flirt with her (as I do with any of my female friends) and generally have a laugh.

Uh huh.

I got back from a week's holiday today, and she was outside. She seemed genuinely pleased to see me and gave me a hug...and I gave her a kiss on the cheek. Perfectly innocent, but ever since I've felt like shit. I feel like I shouldn't have done it, but the thing is I did it without even thinking. That can't be a good sign can it?

Depends really.

So now what the fuck do I do? I feel like shit, I love my girlfriend and I miss her, but why is it so fucking hard? I can't pour my feelings out to a computer screen, I'm only doing it here because this place is fairly anonymous. I don't want to cheat on her, nor do I want anyone else, but I feel like I'm constantly being tested and it's not goddam fair.

TL:DR - Girlfriend is away for 3 months and pretty much uncontactable, so I seem to be developing a crush on a work colleague.

Oh man. This is hard. Um, well about the colleague thing. First I advise you to not get in too deep on that. It can lead to a lot of problems. For example

1) Both of you get too deep, break up. She can't handle, she ruins your life when girlfriends come back.
2)You can't stop thinking about her. Girlfriend is ignored. She runs off, you chase her, you lost her, and you lose the one you've been thinking off all along because she thinks you don't love her cause you chase your GF meaning you don't accept her.
3)It can destroy your career if she decides to go apeshit on this thing.

Anyway, I know how it feels. There's a lot of love in you, and you don't know where can you pour it on. Well, this is my suggestion but, why don't you write a list about what do you love about your girlfriend and what would you do to make her even more in love with you? Romantic stuff.

Post it here and I'll post my list too.

Alright, someone else take over.

Cheers guys, I'm trying not to let this girl know I have a crush on her, but I imagine it's fairly obvious. I don't want a relationship with this girl, nor do I particularly want to cheat on my girlfriend, I'm just ashamed of myself that I'm feeling this way about another girl. I think you're right Vincoid; she seems to be the girl I'm projecting all this pent up boyfriend crap towards as I see her pretty much every day.

jackripperz, I saw my girlfriend 2 days before she left, and that was roughly over 5 weeks ago. I'm picking her up from the airport mid-august. This other girl isn't the type who would be all clingy and needy, she's very much her own person. She started messing about with a guy the day after she broke up with her long-term bf. We both work at the same bar, I hardly think were we to ever go out that it'd be bad for either of our careers though. ;)

I like your idea of writing a list, it'll be interesting to see why I've been with her for so long, and it'll be comforting at least.

I just needed to vent all this, I don't really have that many people I feel comfortable telling this all to. Thanks again lads.

Am I right to be pissed off that my girlfriend is going out to ice cream and a movie with two different guys, two different days this week?

Or am I just a jealous douche?

At 7/26/09 11:37 AM, Vincoid wrote:

At 7/24/09 04:18 PM, B4gle wrote: Hopefully that will give Vincoid some less work since he seems to be helping everyone here.

It's choice mate. You of all people should know I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't want to ;P

:P I know, but I think everyone is starting to depend on you here, like if you are busy or away then they are screwed. I just figured you might be feeling pressured to help people.

At 7/29/09 06:03 PM, Bballdude9997 wrote: Am I right to be pissed off that my girlfriend is going out to ice cream and a movie with two different guys, two different days this week?

Or am I just a jealous douche?

Honestly, I would be jealous too. But don't say to your girlfriend "HEY I DONT WANT YOU HANGING OUT WITH THOSE GUYS ANYMORE!", cause that will probably make her want to hangout with them more.

Just ask her something like this "so those 2 guys you hangout with, theres nothing going on between you is there?" and if she says no, say okay and just drop the subject like it isn't a big deal.

Then at least she will know that you trust her. Also, don't be afraid to go out with other girls just as friends too. If she gets mad at you about it, just bring up the 2 guys she hangs out with.

Thats what I would do anyway. Hope this helps.

At 7/29/09 11:05 PM, B4gle wrote:

P I know, but I think everyone is starting to depend on you here, like if you are busy or away then they are screwed. I just figured you might be feeling pressured to help people.

Hahaha, I'd be the worst teacher ever if I felt pressured because that would go directly against what I teach :P

At 7/29/09 11:11 PM, B4gle wrote:

At 7/29/09 06:03 PM, Bballdude9997 wrote: Am I right to be pissed off that my girlfriend is going out to ice cream and a movie with two different guys, two different days this week?

Or am I just a jealous douche?

Not really, but the reason you are a douche is because you get pissed off about what she does. Your emotions are the problem along with being dependable on her.

Honestly, I would be jealous too. But don't say to your girlfriend "HEY I DONT WANT YOU HANGING OUT WITH THOSE GUYS ANYMORE!", cause that will probably make her want to hangout with them more.

No, it would make her want to be with him less.

Just ask her something like this "so those 2 guys you hangout with, theres nothing going on between you is there?" and if she says no, say okay and just drop the subject like it isn't a big deal.

Actually, if you say it like that it sounds like it IS a big deal because it's insecure as hell. If you want it to feel like it's not a big deal then don't even mention it. Have trust in her and the relationship you have.

Then at least she will know that you trust her. Also, don't be afraid to go out with other girls just as friends too. If she gets mad at you about it, just bring up the 2 guys she hangs out with.

Right, because that would be the mature thing to do... uhum. If you want to hang out with girls, make sure it's because you want to genuinely hang out with them instead of pissing her off. Also, if she does complaint about that, were you to hang out with other girls, the argument should be that you hang out with whomever you want to hang out with, and not what she does.

Thats what I would do anyway. Hope this helps.

Hope this helps you as well B4gle ;)

Hey, guys. I need some advice.

My girlfriend of over a year broke up with me yesterday. It wasn't a bad breakup, it just wasn't very mutual. I mean, of course I'm upset, but I haven't lost all hope, you know? I can move on. She's staying in high school and I'm going off to college, so it could be for the best. My problem is I still have one month left here, and we both work at the same store. And we work together next saturday. My question to you is should I stay at work that day, or take off because it'll be awkward? I fear that it could be a problem.