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I went to go see Toni yesterday, when her mom was out, and she bent in to kiss me as soon as we got to her house. I looked away, cuz I didn't see it coming and she got a sad look on her face so I said 'What?' and she kept saying nothing. So I looked her in the eyes and like.. bam. Start kissing and stuff. We ended up taking a small step, but it was pretty big for me seeing as we started kissing sunday. So... I'm gonna talk to her about stuff. Chris is going to jail next week, I think. So, I hope Toni calls me tonight or tomorrow, so I can let her know I wanna hang out with just her.
I like this girl, though. She's pretty cool =]

At 5/7/08 08:10 PM, Black-Lightning wrote:

:So I looked her in the eyes and like.. bam. Start kissing and stuff. We ended up taking a small step, but it was pretty big for me seeing as we started kissing sunday.

I like this girl, though. She's pretty cool =]

Damn, that kinda came out of nowhere, huh? I REALLY need to keep myself updated on this crew..

lols i dont know.. wads he goin to jail for and for how long?

I disapprove of cheating btw..

u do it to others one day it'll happen to u

and blacklightning , u gotta consider this point

if she can cheat on Chris behind his back

she can cheat on u too ..

trust me LOL

happened to me b4

At 5/8/08 10:33 AM, Reyuki wrote: if she can cheat on Chris behind his back

she can cheat on u too ..

trust me LOL

happened to me b4

Same goes for rumors. People who speak behind someone elses back, are probably speaking behind your back as well.

Now this DOESN'T apply to somone who left Person A for Person B... They might have just realized that person B is a better fit. The difference is that when you cheat, you're playing both Person A and B. That can happen regardless of Either person, and the blame should be put on the cheater...

At 5/7/08 08:10 PM, Black-Lightning wrote: I went to go see Toni yesterday, when her mom was out, and she bent in to kiss me as soon as we got to her house. I looked away, cuz I didn't see it coming and she got a sad look on her face so I said 'What?' and she kept saying nothing. So I looked her in the eyes and like.. bam. Start kissing and stuff. We ended up taking a small step, but it was pretty big for me seeing as we started kissing sunday. So... I'm gonna talk to her about stuff. Chris is going to jail next week, I think. So, I hope Toni calls me tonight or tomorrow, so I can let her know I wanna hang out with just her.
I like this girl, though. She's pretty cool =]

If you like her more than a friend, than go for it, bud. Shes obviously interested, so I say if yer interested in her, than make somethin out of it. Either way I wish you luck.

This wa my post a couple of pages back.

At 4/29/08 03:45 PM, archex wrote: I've been giving advice but I think need some.
Theres a girl I really like and we are friends but she already has a boyfriend in a on-off relationship.
When he dumps her or does something stupid like call her a slut and cheat on her then I'm always there coz im her mate ( right now)
I guess I'm just too scared to make a move.
Help me please.

Ok i asked her out and she said maybe ( I think shes going to say no :( the i went to my history lesson.
Bad thing is in history she sits right behind me and normally we have a nice little chat but she had this kind of distant look on her face and a couple of times I turned around but she just igored me or didn't know I was looking other times I turned around and was looking out the window I could see that she looked up at me.
I don't think this is going to go well :(.

archex:

Yeah, it doesn't sound good. When see says "let me think about it", and then doesn't give you an answer for a really long time (A week is a good reference), then it's almost guarenteed to go south...

and nobody says awsome dude your back to me

At 5/8/08 07:17 PM, dan00012 wrote: and nobody says awsome dude your back to me

"Awsome dude, you're back!" Don't worry, i remember you...

I decided to come back a little here for a while. I've finally ironed out most of my problems in NG Radio, so i'm back here for a while!

So I like, argue with my girlfriend because of her mom a lot, and it really becomes the root of like every argument we get in, I really don't want to break up with her, but her mom is making it so I barely even get to see her anymore, I really don't want to leave her and every time I try and bring it up in a non-argument form she gets all sad and it makes me feel bad and so I have to assure her I'm not going to leave her.

But I'm starting to question if it's really worth it anymore, I really do like her a lot and we've been dating for almost a year, but it used to be a lot better and we could see each other A LOT more.
I can't even believe that I'm thinking about breaking up with her because of her mom, that's awful, I know she can't control it, but it frustrates me so much just because her mom, and then I always yell at her for it, then when she leaves I regret everything I was mad about because I realize it was pointless and I should have just used to time I had instead of wasting it arguing to her about how B.S her mom is..

Well, I actually feel a little better now that I just typed all that out, THANKS RELATIONSHIP CREW FOR LISTENING :D.

At 5/8/08 09:31 PM, megaepiclulz wrote: Well, I actually feel a little better now that I just typed all that out, THANKS RELATIONSHIP CREW FOR LISTENING :D.

I think you should actually talk to the mom about it, not your girlfriend. You might be able to work things out with her, and be able to see your girlfriend more often.

So I was told I'm basically awesome and that she's falling for me, Toni, and pretty neat stuff like that. The reason why she wants me to come over when her mom ain't home is cuz her mom is all like 'don't you think it's weird you're spending a lot of time with Josh over Chris?' and shit like that.
I don't really know how to make a move on her, though. She really seems to want to spend a lot of time with me and shit like that, though.

At 5/8/08 10:01 PM, Black-Lightning wrote: So I was told I'm basically awesome and that she's falling for me, Toni, and pretty neat stuff like that. The reason why she wants me to come over when her mom ain't home is cuz her mom is all like 'don't you think it's weird you're spending a lot of time with Josh over Chris?' and shit like that.
I don't really know how to make a move on her, though. She really seems to want to spend a lot of time with me and shit like that, though.

hmm..i duno..u should be wary of her , crafty LOL . hmm.. Maybe she outta tell her mum?

actually if she really likes u , whye doesnt she just break up with chris now and get tgt with u?

btw black , u move on quick man =P ember now toni

lols

At 5/8/08 07:17 PM, dan00012 wrote: and nobody says awsome dude your back to me

I love you and I think yer awesome. Thats WAAAY better than a welcome back.

The existence and perpetuation of this topic is dreadful.

At 5/8/08 09:31 PM, megaepiclulz wrote: So I like, argue with my girlfriend because of her mom a lot,

Well, I actually feel a little better now that I just typed all that out, THANKS RELATIONSHIP CREW FOR LISTENING :D.

Well, to me, it seems like getting mad at a person in a wheelchair for having broken legs. It makes no difference how much you get pissed of at HER, she can't change anything. What you might be able to do is encourage her to stand up to her mother (in a good way), since you would look like a complete asshole if YOU tried to stand up to here mother...

Other than that, i think you can't do much...

At 5/8/08 10:01 PM, Black-Lightning wrote: So I was told I'm basically awesome and that she's falling for me, Toni, and pretty neat stuff like that. The reason why she wants me to come over when her mom ain't home is cuz her mom is all like 'don't you think it's weird you're spending a lot of time with Josh over Chris?' and shit like that.
I don't really know how to make a move on her, though. She really seems to want to spend a lot of time with me and shit like that, though.

If you haven't noticed, she kinda made a move on you. A "Move" is only to get to the point of spending time together. You make a move on a girl you don't know to ask her out to eat somewhere. You make a move on a girl you kinda know to go out and do something together. She's put a "Move" on you. All you've got to do is agree...

At 5/9/08 11:40 AM, b3nnic3 wrote: The existence and perpetuation of this topic is dreadful.

Who invited sam stick-in-the-mud?

Anyway, what's wrong with having a second opinion? People don't follow the advice on here religiously..

lol yea agreed

okay this is lame every time i log in all the problems have already been dealt with

At 5/9/08 07:12 PM, dan00012 wrote: okay this is lame every time i log in all the problems have already been dealt with

When i said second opinion, i didn't mean just one person respond. Give your own light on things. I personally don't read the responses of others, cause that would affect my advice... Well, i don't read MUCH of them..

Thanks Simon and Gorillazrock
I am feelin kinda low right now. I think I just have to sum up the courage and say " is it a yes or a no if your gonna say no just say it I really dont care" although probably I will.
Maybe I could resort to emoism or whatever they call it (joking...)

At 5/10/08 06:51 AM, archex wrote: Thanks Simon and Gorillazrock
I am feelin kinda low right now. I think I just have to sum up the courage and say " is it a yes or a no if your gonna say no just say it I really dont care" although probably I will.
Maybe I could resort to emoism or whatever they call it (joking...)

This sort of thing is exactly why I am against asking girls out. When girls go to a club or something, they'll probably be hit on about 20-30 times (when they're attractive of course). Most or even all of those times it will be either one of these two options: "Hey, is it okay if I dance with you?" or "Hey, would you mind if I ask you out?". And you know what, it disgusts girls to hear that. It desensitizes them and makes them act like 'bitches'.

I've found that the best way to hang out with a girl is one of these:
- Tell her that you're doing something and tell her she can tag along if she wants.
- Tell her that you're doing something and tell her she should come with if she wants to have a good time.

I never ask. And to demonstrate my point further, here's a simple example of getting a girl to watch a movie with you while building attraction:

The wussy way:
Him: Hey ****, what are you doing tonight?
Her: I've got nothing yet.
Him: You want to rent a movie or something?
Her: Sure, which one?
Him: I don't know, you pick one.
Her: Oh I don't know... can't you pick one?
Him: You pick, I insist.
Her: Ok... let's go see [enter name].
Him: Ok, how late you want to meet?
Her: Pfff... 9:30?
Him: Ok, that's fine.
Her: I'll see you then, bye.
Him: Bye.

And now the right way:

Him: Hey, what's up?
Her: Oh hey, nothing much. How are you doing?
Him: Great. Hey listen up, I'm renting [enter name] tonight and I want to know if you can come watch.
Her: Yeah sure, how late?
Him: 9:30
Her: Ok, I'll be there.
Him: Allright, see you 9:30.
Her: Yeah, bye bye.

Now, for those who can't tell the obvious difference:
- The guy in situation 1 forced the girl to make all the decisions while the guy in situation 2 made all the decisions himself. The important thing to learn from this is that you as a man have to make the choices. Women aren't lazy, but they want a man who knows what he's doing, which includes making choices.
- The guy in situation 1 asked her if she wanted to do something while number 2 told her what he's doing and ask wther she wants to join or not. Big difference is that number 2 already has plans while number 1 has no clue of what to do. Number 2 is watching the movie anyways while number 1 would spent his night alone if she didn't want to watch.
- Number 2 is going to have way more fun when watching the movie than number 1. This is because a man who doesn't make choices isn't attractive which causes the girl to act cold. He'll be wondering all night why because he doesn't realize he started it off in totally the wrong way. You might ask why this girl went to see the movie with him, but this is usually because she doesn't want him to feel rejected (which is inescapable since he'll just get his hopes up more while nothing will ever happen).

I think that by now you know what went wrong.

Also, a big advantage of doing this is that it's less intimidating for the girl, especially since you're a friend. If you ask her out for a date she'll start thinking that you want something from here. But if you instead invite her for something you were already doing anyway, it will feel more casual. Plus it's easier to start building attraction this way.

Some things I forgot to add:
- Guy number 2 is positive and it doesn't matter to him if she joins him or not. Number 1 on the other hand is asking her to do this and is really hoping she wants to join. Number 2 will never think of the outcome in a negative way.

Also, the 'right' way is not an absolute solution. By which I mean that it's not directly about words I used but about the feelings it communicates. Confidence, positivism, leadership and indifference for guy number 2 makes her attracted to him.

What do you see more often? A hot girl with an 'asshole'/player or a hot girl with a shy, insecure guy? The shy nice guy seems to be a better choice, but the asshole is more attractive since he doesn't care, is confident and does his own thing. I'm not telling you to be an asshole or to not feel anything for girls, but that you can learn from them since they have lots of qualities that you can use to attract women.

At 5/10/08 07:45 AM, Vincoid wrote:

Also, a big advantage of doing this is that it's less intimidating for the girl, especially since you're a friend. If you ask her out for a date she'll start thinking that you want something from here. But if you instead invite her for something you were already doing anyway, it will feel more casual. Plus it's easier to start building attraction this way.

Holy SHIT, man... this actually makes a ton of sense. I gotta remember that when i ask a girl out.

I think most guys follow the rule of not looking that they have nothing to do anyway. That always seems to be the primary objective right next to
*Having Friends so she doesn't think you're a wierdo
*NOT taking her on SOME of her offers, even though you could go.

I don't know why, but you got to play the rules of the game.. Even if it doesn't make sense, that's the way it's played..

Hey, there's this girl I like and she's my friend for some time now
but I don't know how to make clear to her that I love her mor
then just a friend and I'm also scared that something bad will happen ^^

any advice?

At 5/10/08 03:17 PM, DenEmiel wrote: Hey, there's this girl I like and she's my friend for some time now

Always tough to do it with a girl who you've known for a while, but i hope i can fix that...

but I don't know how to make clear to her that I love her more
then just a friend and I'm also scared that something bad will happen ^^

Try to go to more events alone with her. If you hang out in a group, try to invite only her. Make SURE to folow the advice Vincoid gave about asking a girl out. Make it appear as though you're going to go anyway. Be sure of what you're going to ask her, and the time you're going to ask her.

Here's my big advice. ONLY INVITE HER AS A FRIEND, AND STAY THERE IN UNLESS SHE LETS YOU KNOW OTHERWISE. It's fairly well known that you have to be friends with someone before you can really love someone.

Try to build up a relationship (not romantic, yet) by spend as much time as you can JUST WITH HER. Hell, if you're lucky, she might even make a move on you. Women want to know that they can connect with you. If you spend some one-on-one time with her as a friend, then it lets her know that she doesn't have to change her ways to be with you.

any advice?

I think i just despensed some..

At 5/10/08 04:52 PM, Gorillazrock wrote: Try to go to more events alone with her. If you hang out in a group, try to invite only her. Make SURE to folow the advice Vincoid gave about asking a girl out. Make it appear as though you're going to go anyway. Be sure of what you're going to ask her, and the time you're going to ask her.

You know the saying "fake it till you make it"? It's actually better not to fake it at all. For instance, you can go looking/buying some clothes and ask her to join to give you some female advice. You don't actually have to buy/spend a lot but it's a great oppotunity to get to meet her and to gain some fashion tips. Plus she's more likely to go with that because girls always want to help a guy out when it comes to clothing and such.
Also, if you do ask her something like this, don't use the word 'help'. It triggers an automated reaction in a girl which can be avoided by saying: "Hey, I'm going to check out some clothes later today, you wanna join me and give me some female perspective on it?". I'll guarantee you she'll go with unless she can't genuinly make it.

MOST IMPORTANT THING IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS OR ANY SITUATION WITH A WOMAN FOR THAT MATTER: Don't act like you're talking to you're future wife but have fun. If you have fun, so will she. If you feel comfort, so will she.

Small trick: Strangers and friends usually line up and look at each others right eye. This triggers a reaction in the right side of the brain which is the friend part. Try to become conscious about this and look into her left eye. This will trigger more of a relationship feeling inside her.

Also, if you try to see wether she likes you or not, there is one thing that always works: look at the size of her pupils. If her pupils become bigger, it's sigh of her liking you. Of course you have to see how big the pupils are when you've just met.
Mohammed Ali used this trick too in the ring. Everytime before his opponent would strike, their pupils would widen. This way he knew what was coming giving him time to react. And the best about it was that the widening of the pupils can't be avoided, it's a natural reflex. And so it is when it comes to attraction. It's a natural reflex for a woman allowing her to try to find out more about you. Use it.

At 5/10/08 03:17 PM, DenEmiel wrote: Hey, there's this girl I like and she's my friend for some time now
but I don't know how to make clear to her that I love her mor
then just a friend and I'm also scared that something bad will happen ^^

any advice?

ignore gorrilaz rock there is no clear souloution like that but for what gorrilaz said will make you closer freinds and make it tougher and tougher when she says no nothing can make much o a diffrence on the answer if you ask me just hint for a while or my favorate just go straight out and ask her