At 6/8/16 04:58 PM, midimachine wrote:
you said that the onus is on the child and their parents to avoid predatory behaviour. which is kinda like telling girls not to wear short skirts because they're "asking to get raped". that was the horrifying part.
look, i don't actually think you're a creep. but i do think your attitude towards interacting with strange children is problematic at best.
The onus is not on the child, the onus is on the parents that when they SEE predatory behaviour, they inform the child. The child may not have the capacity to note it for himself, I KNOW that. I've been through that same phase before. Does that mean the child should be stopped from going on the internet? Does that mean that the child should be stopped from sharing what he knows about his skills? Heavens no!
Does that mean that we avoid being predators? Yes. Absolutely. Because at the end of the day, if we're caught for it, it is WE who are answerable in a court of law.
Does that mean that every adult speaking with him over FL Studio 11 topics is going to be a predator? Heavens, NO. And you and I know that. You and I know that there are so many decent people out here. Let's give them a little faith, shall we? It's not like every single user on Newgrounds is out to give him a lollipop and then whisk him away and cover his mouth in chloroform or show his dick on camera or something.
My point is, it's fine to interact with ANYONE -- children, adults, whatever -- as long as we are honest and good to them, and by good, I mean good. Not seeking to do the child any harm, physically, mentally or emotionally, and actually respecting them for who they are and what they can give. Eventually the child will learn to distinguish good contact on the Net from bad, even if he hasn't been at that point -- but until then... yes, we acknowledge the Net is not a safe-space kind of place, but it's not all doom and gloom either.
It all boils down to respect. Yes, the adults have to be respectful to the child first and foremost because of their age and vulnerability, but also because they can give of themselves with whatever they've learnt, just like us.
I've interacted with many people. Adults, minors. Not only over the net, but also as a result of being in this Soundskills community project that I occasionally mention in my audio thread. I will gladly undergo a CRB check (or whatever it's called these days) if it puts people's minds at ease that I'm talking with minors on a frequent basis.
And I apologise for calling you despicable. In the heat of text I did not see your intentions.