At 6/24/04 10:47 PM, Nilm wrote:
But I'm just taking what I see in his notes to gather up the fact that he really didn't think about anything else but himself before comitting the suicide, forcing me, with grief, to think he was just really mentally wrong and should have gotten help or something, I can't see any other reason other than he being messed up in the head, Im sure a few of you could agree with me here. I'm not one to tell others how to feel or how one should act, im just telling you guys what I think in hopes that you might better understand, and if I get dissed at for this, I don't really care as long as I can get some people to discuss Adam's death and why he did it and why some should not feel remorse for his death, thats all,you know?
A man preoccupied with mental health issues thinking only of himself...wow, what a breakthrough in the field of mental health.
I'd take your argument that you only want to "have a discussion" about his death at face value if it wasn't for the hypocrisy you show.
You mention that you actually feel grief for the man, but grief is a form of deep mental anguish, such as when you're mourning the passing of someone. You can't claim to grieve someone when you encourage the idea that one should not feel "remorse" over the passing of that same person.
You don't want to grieve or have "remorse" over someone's passing? Great. Knock yourself out. But why the fuck do you have to broadcast, and encourage the idea, of denying someone your grief because you didn't like the way he died?
Are some of the platitudes dedicates towards LC over the top? Maybe. Not knowing this guy at all, his passing is sad, but I won't be making web pages about it.
But you insist on parsing through his letters, offering half-ass diagnoses about his mental health under the guise of "discussion". Why bother?
There were a whole bunch of flowers placed on a street called Princess of Wales Ct near where I live when Diana died. None of the people knew her personally, and probably none of them even saw her in person. But they were sad for her loss.
I saw no sense in their homage what so ever. But I wasn't going to berate or question their feelings, which you want to do with gusto. You may not be telling people how to feel, but you're arguing your case pretty fucking strong...and it's splitting hairs that you're not 'telling' them how to feel.
Your arguments say more about you than they do about the topic at hand