At 4/28/15 10:53 AM, klompors wrote:
What were tricks or stories your parents laid on you so you wouldn't do something (for example)?
Really bad at explaining the topic so I have an example:
When I was around 6, my parents used to tell me that at night there would be a ghost waiting behind the bedroom door waiting for me. Probably so I wouldn't leave my room at night when I had to sleep
What did your parents do/say to convince you not to do something?
Is that here the children matinee ? ^^
Sorry, no offence, but, own my childhood was ending before ca. 30 years. But, I think I know what you ask, also when it is hard to say.
As I was a child, my parents (or better, only my mother, because my parents was divorced after one year from my birth and so, he was nothing existed for me) doesn't have tell me nonsense or fairy tales that I make that or this not or I must do something.
If you ask me personal, I guess it is a big mistake to treat the own child so (only how child). Also when a child is no finished personality, a child is not dull. And especially when I see how children adore me today - here the joke is, I doesn't want that anyhow really ^^ -, then I notice, the reason is, I treat they like adults.
If you be to a child very normal and show him understanding and also respect in this way, you speak to him so, want from him not more as you are self ready to do. And let it work for a favor, then you help him more as only make him true for free all his wishes and with a lot of gifts, attentions.
That was the treating my mother was to me, I have early learn to be self assured, and I have fast learn that mostly the world give you only what back, if you are ready to give what before. Above all, It is also no crime to let children work. So long it is more like a play for they. So long they have fun and find it interesting, then they are from self ready to do more.
Also when you let the child often help you, you involve the child in all your usual things to do every day, even when you change the roles and you ask your child for a advice. And I guranteed, some parents would be then surprised, how smart the child is already. So much, you can achieve a lot without anytime to be violent or to rigorous.
Child's and teenager are young adults, also when they try to test her own borders. And yours, for what you let without one penalty when is was wrong. But also what with rewards for good results.