Saying goodbye to your love

[leasheddemon]

On March 5th me and my girlfriend will make one year. We have had a rocky start but now things are so golden. I love her and she loves me and things could not be better. I haven't been this happy in a long time, past relationship was bad blah blah blah. She showed me that there can still be happiness in my life and that love can be shared again. She just gave me some very sad painful news, sometime in August or September she will be leaving to move to the Dominican Republic to go to school out there. We both agreed that long distance just won't work. So we talked and decided that we love one another it's best that we share the good moments before we have to say goodbye. Visiting won't happen, on both ends. its not a matter of making the effort, its just that we decided her future is important and no distractions should come.

She won't be coming back, she has decided that all four years of school will be out there. It hurts so much and i'm not sure why i'm letting a bunch of strangers know this, but i'm curious i know for a fact i'm not the only person to have felt this pain, any body else go through something similar? If so what did you do to move on? How did things end? I'm doing my best to suck it up and not be a depressing presence so that we can just have happy memories to remember one another with. I hate that idea that she will find someone else to be with, because we'll never know what our future could have held. Who knows maybe the future will see us together again, or with other people, I won't know until it happens.

[Gremlin]

At 2/8/15 11:44 AM, Voltage wrote: Break out the kegs @BrenTheMan, looks like we got ourselves a legit single fella over here.

He is into single men?

[CGA-999]

Don't worry too much. On NG, if you have a GF, you are looked down upon.

JK, but very few users have girlfriends.

[Gremlin]

At 2/8/15 11:51 AM, Voltage wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:47 AM, Gremlin wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:44 AM, Voltage wrote: Break out the kegs @BrenTheMan, looks like we got ourselves a legit single fella over here.

He is into single men?

No you fool, we are going to liquor him up with Bud Light and have him sleep with all the fine mamacitas we don't tell newer NG users about!

Oh sweet! Not only is that a great idea, but we seem to have found a common language and I learned a new word.

Learning is awesome!

[DESHIEL]

You are both 15 years old. The next one will make you forget.

[Maltos]

At 2/8/15 11:39 AM, leasheddemon wrote:

we'll never know what our future could have held. Who knows maybe the future will see us together again, or with other people, I won't know until it happens.

This was a crushing story I feel for you as I too have goodbye to someone I loved.

Time will go by slowly and the memories of her smile or the very first time you met, this and more will tear you apart. I'm speaking from xp.

So many thoughts of her will take time to get over and no matter how much it hurts another day without her will come from the very second you wake to the moment you fall asleep.

It's going to hurt. . . a lot but some day you will be the person you used to be and you will find happiness again.

However I say don't let her go bro
if you love her then come up with a plan and lie to the parents on both sides and say that she is pregnant. No one can force an abortion on anyone. . . this may or may not work. . .kinda just a weird suggestion.

Do what you have to do if you love her than keep her. Other wise some day curiosity will catch you and you'll look her up on facebook an you will see pictures of her happy with another man and you will see her with her children and the pain will come back and it will be worse.

unless you speak to her
then your nothing but a vague memory of some guy she used to be with along time ago
and now she's married with kids and the love she had with you will be nothing in comparison.

and knowing that hurts. . . . don't wonder what could have been
because I've just told you what will be if you let her go.

[Maltos]

At 2/8/15 12:06 PM, Monster-64 wrote: When my brother went to college outside off the state, he had to break up with his girlfriend because he's smart enough to know long distance relationships suck and don't work. So just say goodbye and that this relationship can't work out.

Also, make sure that your goodbye is meaningful and has plenty of frames in it.

not true
long distance can work just not 4ever

dont' let her go OP
even if you have to do long distance until you can see her and you can be together

[Gremlin]

At 2/8/15 12:04 PM, Voltage wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:58 AM, Gremlin wrote:

Learning is awesome!

I don't know how you never heard o that word

Engrish isn't my native, nor Spanish

Anyways I shall take my leave from this thread as I can not contribute to it, other than sorry to hear about it magic man, adios amigo.

[Maltos]

At 2/8/15 12:11 PM, Monster-64 wrote:

At 2/8/15 12:09 PM, Maltos wrote:

You dare contradict my expertise on relationships? hmph *writes down on notepad*

I was long distance with my gf for 2 years then I moved to NY and we were married in 2010 and have been together since and we've got a baby boy

now whacha got?

[Maltos]

At 2/8/15 12:13 PM, Monster-64 wrote:

EDIT: also, now they hate me

Thats weird. . . .

[RandyRandom]

Something similar happened to my ex. Her family was planning on moving overseas to Canada to live there for a year. We planned to stay together anyways, especially since it was just one year. So we spent the months beforehand making sure to enjoy as much of the last time we had together.

But in the end, they didn't leave.

[leasheddemon]

At 2/8/15 12:41 PM, RandyRandom wrote: Something similar happened to my ex. Her family was planning on moving overseas to Canada to live there for a year. We planned to stay together anyways, especially since it was just one year. So we spent the months beforehand making sure to enjoy as much of the last time we had together.

But in the end, they didn't leave.

I'm hoping things work out here with school for her. She was having a lot of issues when it came to applying with financial aid, and what not because of her parents, they aren't citizens and live out in DR. Apart of me is staying as optimistic as possible but apart of me knows if i do it might just make me feel worst. a lot can happen in seven months, but on the flipside of that nothing can happen. I know she wouldn't stay here for me and i would never expect her to. Her future is the most important thing, and i know i sound selfish but i want to be apart of it, but at the same time i accept if i can't be apart of it.

[leasheddemon]

At 2/8/15 12:12 PM, Maltos wrote:

At 2/8/15 12:11 PM, Monster-64 wrote:

At 2/8/15 12:09 PM, Maltos wrote:

You dare contradict my expertise on relationships? hmph *writes down on notepad*

I was long distance with my gf for 2 years then I moved to NY and we were married in 2010 and have been together since and we've got a baby boy

now whacha got?

You saying that does give me some hope, but again you can never know what will happen.

[uglybetty]

At 2/8/15 12:41 PM, RandyRandom wrote: Something similar happened to my ex. Her family was planning on moving overseas to Canada to live there for a year. We planned to stay together anyways, especially since it was just one year. So we spent the months beforehand making sure to enjoy as much of the last time we had together.

But in the end, they didn't leave.

i bet you got a few nuts busted am i right buddy? wanna share the dirty details?

[leasheddemon]

At 2/8/15 01:10 PM, PerfectAnomaly56 wrote: when this happens to me, i tend to drink whiskey until i forget what planet im on

i can't i have a horrible tendency to overdo it. I know my limit and will purposefully go over that.

[RB]

At 2/8/15 11:57 AM, cga-999 wrote:

JK, but very few users have girlfriends.

I'm one of those dicks.

[CGA-999]

At 2/8/15 03:48 PM, RB wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:57 AM, cga-999 wrote:

JK, but very few users have girlfriends.

I'm one of those dicks.

You have a GF?

[RB]

At 2/8/15 03:51 PM, cga-999 wrote:

At 2/8/15 03:48 PM, RB wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:57 AM, cga-999 wrote:

JK, but very few users have girlfriends.

I'm one of those dicks.

You have a GF?

Unfortunatly, yes, I do.

[Painbringer]

At 2/8/15 11:39 AM, leasheddemon wrote: She won't be coming back, she has decided that all four years of school will be out there.

Maybe you two can get back together in four years.

That is if both of you haven't found someone better by then.

[Ericho]

Wow, that's really heartfelt dude. While I have never been in a relationship like this before, I still really appreciate how open you are willing to be by telling everyone about this. I hope you can at least call her on the phone and work these things out. I have the utmost respect for you.

[CGA-999]

At 2/8/15 03:55 PM, RB wrote:

At 2/8/15 03:51 PM, cga-999 wrote:

At 2/8/15 03:48 PM, RB wrote:

At 2/8/15 11:57 AM, cga-999 wrote:

JK, but very few users have girlfriends.

I'm one of those dicks.

You have a GF?

Unfortunatly, yes, I do.

That's not unfortunate. That's actually a good thing. My statement was intended in the most joking way possible.

[Lusin]

Leasheddemon, I'm gonna teach you how to live. Meet me at the bar in 5 minutes, and suit up! Tonight is gonna be legen-wait for it... Dary!

[Lorkas]

Well, fuck, that sure sucks.

[Lorkas]

At 2/8/15 01:12 PM, uglybetty wrote:

At 2/8/15 12:41 PM, RandyRandom wrote: Something similar happened to my ex. Her family was planning on moving overseas to Canada to live there for a year. We planned to stay together anyways, especially since it was just one year. So we spent the months beforehand making sure to enjoy as much of the last time we had together.

But in the end, they didn't leave.

i bet you got a few nuts busted am i right buddy? wanna share the dirty details?

You have no idea how hard that post made me laugh uglybetty.

You simply have no idea. It would be pointless to explain.

[Kwing]

Don't be a pussy. You don't need anyone, and nobody needs you. Consider your intimate partnerships to be a bonus and not a standard. That's my advice.

[MykeiXWolfe]

let it go

[FoAngel]

That's really sad, but its good that you love each other enough to let each other go, i hope you guys still communicate while she's over there

[Gagsy]

If its meant to be then its meant to be. You may In the distant future find your paths crossing again, if not then I'm sure its because you've both found new meaningful loves. What's lovely is that you ended it at the right time. It won't sour your memories of each other and honestly should help the healing process.

You have like 6 months together though surely? Make the most of it if you can.

[RB]

At 2/8/15 03:58 PM, cga-999 wrote:

At 2/8/15 03:55 PM, RB wrote: Unfortunatly, yes, I do.

That's not unfortunate. That's actually a good thing. My statement was intended in the most joking way possible.

And I was being sarcastic.

[Luke]

There's no easy way to get over somebody. Just gotta wait it out, and one day you'll wake up and be over her. Can take a long time though for some people.
Don't become an alcoholic like I did.