Unfortunately, anime is one of those mediums that is not well respected in the West by those who aren't anime fans whether it's simply not knowing or caring what it is, to general xenophobia and everything in-between. It also doesn't really help that there isn't a lot of anime that is shown on TV anymore, and when it is shown today, it's only on late night Saturday, though in all fairness, it's like that for a long time and they have pretty much done well. In short, it's largely due to either personal taste, pop couture isolation, or simple ignorance/racism.
As a fellow anime fan, I am sympathetic to the OP's objections to an extent, but the realization is that anime is a niche market with a niche fanbase (a growing one, but still small) in the West, and partly because of it's foreign material, a segment of anime critics and haters use that as a crux against it. There are also a lot of other factors that go into this as well, (such as fan bases, what's being made, even the economics of it all.) but the disrespect aspect is the biggest bugaboo about anime.