At 4/4/14 01:20 AM, Sensationalism wrote:
I remember back when there were new things to do together with my SO. Sometimes I suggested stuff, sometimes he did. I was up for trying whatever so of course I was down with his suggestions. Especially because I really liked him and was willing to make an effort to make it interesting and keep him around.
Not sex related, I even did slightly boring things and was content because it was stuff he liked. Stuff I don't do anymore because we live together and I like some time for us to have our own space hehe.
I feel you on that. And she'll do stuff she doesn't necessarily like a whole lot for me. But more often than not it boils down to the same thing that I do for her over and over again. She insists on taking care of me in a 1950's way, which is nice, but I don't want that. I want an intellectual and emotional equal. Not someone who I feel I could lie my ass off to and get away with it because they aren't quick enough to put two and two together. Did I mention that she's beginning to make me hate Joss Whedon?
You sound like you don't enjoy her. She sounds like she doesn't like you very much. She also sounds like she's using you and being a bitch. Especially about the smoking, some effort could be made without her even having to quit completely.
Good luck bro, you deserve to find a really good woman and have a great relationship. I'm just not sure this one is it.
She's definitely not the one. And honestly, I don't enjoy her. The last girl I dated, even though she turned out to be an immature bitch, (you recall the drama) at least had ambition and energy. This one is just....meh. She became pretty transparent once we moved in together, and she no longer holds my attention. I often find myself talking to other women on campus. I'm not a cheater, but I can't help but find other women more intellectually stimulating.
At 4/4/14 01:05 AM, NGPuppet wrote:
She goes to bars 3/4 times a week. Most girls don't even go to bars, let alone that excessively. One of the main reasons of going to bars is to get laid.
Yeah, wtf is she doing there? Can't she just get drunk at home?
She enjoys keeping shitty company for some reason. Most of the time she meets people, and I later discover that they are sketchy as hell types. There are only one of two reasons to frequent a bar in a college town and that's either
1. You are a 21 year old college student.
or
2. You are a depressed alcoholic who has been laid off from his work or never made it into his or her chosen career field.
At 4/4/14 01:48 AM, Darthdenim wrote:
Just stay with her, man.
Don't gamble a comfortable situation away for uncertainty.
You make a good point. But not because I'm worried about being alone. I may hold onto it for now though. You see, when you have a degree and a great career going for you and you get older as a male, dating becomes a man's game. All the women who dated shit heads earlier in life will want to date you because "Now I ain't sayin' she's a gold digga, but she ain't messin with no broke **ggas". I have a future ahead of me that will ensure I am quite comfortable in finances, and purchasing power. I'm not worried about being alone. That and ambitious women typically want to be with ambitious men. I am an ambitious man.
At 4/4/14 04:09 AM, Blink-the-God wrote:
Wow... How is that even possible to be more boring than jerking yourself off.
Does she even initiate sex?
Yes. Honestly though, I just avoid it because she needs things to be a certain way and is really not open to experimentation. She wants one position and one position all the time, and anything other than that is for me.
