interesting question

[looksgood]

Ok I was just faced with an interesting question the other day lol. I honestly didn't know how I would answer it if I was actualy faced with the situation.

But here is the question I would like to hear everyones thoughts on. If you met someone that was great...I mean attractive, funny, careing, and all that stuff...and you found out they have a problem like this would you consider seeing them in a relationship? Lets say this person is great BUT this person has to have surgery often. The reason for it is lets say fluid on the brain that has to be taken off. Now it is treatable but HIGHLY dangerus. Would you still see them, or would you be too afraid of hurting if something went wrong?

Same question basicly as would you consider dateing someone with a terminal desiease.

[life]

I probaly would if i got to know them very well.

[BananaBreadMuffin]

At 6/3/04 04:10 PM, looksgood wrote: Same question basicly as would you consider dateing someone with a terminal desiease.

No, not the same. Terminal disease, 100% certain death.

Syphoning excess brain fluid = 50% (or wahtever) death = not certain death.

You might be able to live with them, even if they do have to have surgery every month.

[Alastor]

I would still go with her.
For two reasons:
1. I'm on of those guys who likes to live in the moment and not worry about the future too much
2. Imagine how the girl would feel if she got no attention because of her disease.

Unless her affliction was highly contagious, I would still stay with her and absorb the sweet moments.

[looksgood]

At 6/3/04 04:12 PM, BareNakedMike wrote: Yes go see them it will make them feel happy.

And why did it take u so long to say the question lol
u were describing her then got to her problum.

LOL...I thought I should lay down some foundation. I would actualy be scared to death of it to tell ya the truth. Don't know if I could deal with it.

[Back-Door-Baron]

The risks of love are always situational. With such a large risk of losing the one you love, is the time you spend with them now worth that risk? Yeah, you'll hurt if anything happens, but it's not a certainty. Look at how you feel now and decide on that. If they move you enough to risk losing them, then you know you truly love them and are willing to hurt for at least some time with them. I'm not trying to pressure you into going through with it, but the only way I can see you spending time with this person is if you feel that strongly for them

For those of you who want to know more about this:
Hydrocephalus operations are risky, yes, but they are also very common. This is a congenital problem where a baby has fluid enter their 4th ventricle in the brain (a place that's supposed to be clear of all fluid except for Cerebral Spinal Fluid), and it happens in more than just a few babies. It can be acquired, but the incidence of acquired hydrocephalus is unknown.

Check out this website for more information

[Coop]

At 6/3/04 04:11 PM, Funky_Penguin wrote: No, not the same. Terminal disease, 100% certain death.

Syphoning excess brain fluid = 50% (or wahtever) death = not certain death.

If you're going to get picky, then LIFE is a terminal disease. And in answer to the first question, yes I would start/ continue a relationship with someone like that, as it would make their life nice

[J-Dawg87]

you may feel bad if you lose her, but how much worse would you feel if you knew she died alone, because you were too scared to stay with someone you cared about?

stick with her, man.

[SteveGuzzi]

perhaps i may offer a bipartite solution

[ElAsesino213]

oh man, you're right that is an interesting question

[subpar]

If I can get whatever-the-fuck disease, no.

If they have a bunch of surgery scars on their face and their nose keeps falling off, no.

Otherwise, yes.

Anyway, if they die, they're going to die whether you're in a relationship or not. If you liked them anyway it's still going to suck just as bad if it happens.

It's a wierd question...

[looksgood]

At 6/3/04 04:20 PM, yadjmir wrote: The risks of love are always situational. With such a large risk of losing the one you love, is the time you spend with them now worth that risk? Yeah, you'll hurt if anything happens, but it's not a certainty. Look at how you feel now and decide on that. If they move you enough to risk losing them, then you know you truly love them and are willing to hurt for at least some time with them. I'm not trying to pressure you into going through with it, but the only way I can see you spending time with this person is if you feel that strongly for them

For those of you who want to know more about this:
Hydrocephalus operations are risky, yes, but they are also very common. This is a congenital problem where a baby has fluid enter their 4th ventricle in the brain (a place that's supposed to be clear of all fluid except for Cerebral Spinal Fluid), and it happens in more than just a few babies. It can be acquired, but the incidence of acquired hydrocephalus is unknown.

Check out this website for more information

Yeah thanks for the info. It is kinda crazy actualy. See I just met this girl the other day. We talked for about 3 hours into morning. It was 1 am before we said goodnight. So actualy it may have been longer than that lol. I thought she was great to be honest. It is rare that 2 shy people can just somehow strike up a conversation that lasts so long with no silant odd moment lol. I really think it was weird cause we only talked for a VERY short time in comparison yet I could tell she was begining to think that maybe we could be more than friends.

I told her I had to gaurd my heart and wanted her to do the same. That I didnt want to rush into anything. She agreed but said something like if it happens it happens. That is where I am at in this actualy. I just met her, but I can already tell that if we allowed it we could be more than friends. But this is the only problem. I am just afraid that if I get attatched I will lose her and that wont be good. So I am tring to stay unattatched. Thats why I wanted peoples thoughts on this subject.

[looksgood]

So what if it WAS a terminal desiese? What would you do then?

[mightypotato]

I'd still go out with her. There's always that chance that she could get better. Besides, the heart wants what the heart wants. Go fer it.

[poxpower]

At 6/3/04 04:38 PM, SteveGuzzi wrote: perhaps i may offer a bipartite solution

She'd cheat on me with the damn plumber, I know it.

[Wraith]

At 6/3/04 04:38 PM, SteveGuzzi wrote: perhaps i may offer a bipartite solution

Steve, Steve, Steve. I wonder if you drank the fluid, you would gain brain cells?

[Pilot-Doofy]

Sure I'd spend time with them and probably love them as much as I would the next person. They can't help their disability so why hold it against them?

That's a selfish question. "I'm not going to date you and make you and me happy because you will die, and when you die it will make me sad!"

[theboognish]

At 6/3/04 04:11 PM, CrimsonRain wrote: I probaly would if i got to know them very well.

i got by the name mark. and furthermore no i would not cuz they'd die and it would be gross

[D34M0N]

I don't think i would date such a person. Too costly.

[Infinik]

As that picture put it, the best cure for water on the brain is a tap on the head.

[looksgood]

At 6/3/04 06:00 PM, Crimson_Edge wrote: That's a selfish question. "I'm not going to date you and make you and me happy because you will die, and when you die it will make me sad!"

I hate to tell ya but there is a lot more to it than selfishness. With this thing this girl doesnt want kids, she has constant head akes, and the medical bills would be huge. But the deal is, I have an option. I dont have to get hurt or fall in love right now. I am not looking at it to say make THEM feel better. A relationship goes both ways. I dont think it is selfish to protect yourself from pain.

[IvanVackinof]

Parapligics put up the least amount of struggle.