Need To Vent

[ADHD-Rebel]

So I have to vent to someone on the internet, so I don't end up venting to anyone in real life. Stupid high school lovesick problems. You have been warned.

So I was friends with this girl for probably about the past 2 years now. We got really close. Turns out she had a bunch of issues like she was sending around naked pictures to different dudes she knew just for attention and she was avoiding eating all-together just so she could lose weight (she was very insecure about herself, even though she's actually very small). I kind of helped to get her out of the whole sending pictures around thing, although she still has a bit of a problem with the eating thing. She's getting better with it, though.

The reason she was not eating in the first place was because some guy that she was crazy over didn't think she looked really good. She lost about 15 pounds in like a two months. For a while they didn't speak (like, at all, they actually hated each other) because he had said some kind of harsh stuff to her. For a while I tried to get a bit more romantic with her. She seemed to like me back a lot more, too. She was asking me to walk with her to places, sit behind her, and she was always saying things like "I love you!" at really random times. I would return the same flirty behavior and joke around with her a lot. Most of the people who saw it would say things like "are you two dating now?" and "you would make such a cute couple!". Well during this time period the same guy happened to come back and apologize. And honestly, it started out a pretty innocent apology, they got back to being friends. About a few weeks or so later I noticed the flirting kind of suddenly stopped between us and a week later they were dating. ._."

Now she hasn't even friendzoned me, I'm in this weird trance place where she sometimes treats me like I'm a friend and other days she just acts like I'm some obscure person she hardly knows and can't stand. I think the worst part is I was so close, and if I had been a little faster I could have got there. This guy hasn't really been treating her right either...he got a blowjob from her the day they started dating and knowing how she is, he was probably taking advantage of the situation.

TL;DR: Relationships are gay.

[Gimmick]

http://www.cleverbot.com/

[Flerovium]

Well ah, sucks to be you.
Don't bother talking to her anymore, it's not really worth it.

[BasedBubbus]

At 6/3/13 10:52 PM, ADHD-Rebel wrote:

TL;DR: Relationships are gay.

no im p sure there are hetero relationships

[ADHD-Rebel]

At 6/3/13 10:56 PM, Gimmick wrote: http://www.cleverbot.com/

lol

[Cosmic]

She didn't seem too smart. Not the kind of girl worth going for.

[Jacob]

Don't worry about it. I know it hurts, but she's messed up. Truly messed up. You've done what you can to help her, but she doesn't want it. She's seeking short term affirmation from someone whom she feels she needs to impress, and that's what she's going to do.
You were always good to her, so she doesn't feel the need to please or impress you. You're a tool for her satisfaction when her target is too far to chase.

We've all been there. From the best to the worst of us, we've been there.
This doesn't mean the douche always gets the girl, nor does it mean you shouldn't be a little more careful.
All it means is that you were looking in the wrong place, and it wasn't meant to be. She's not good for you, and she never will be - no matter how much you cared for her.

So give her up. Let her sink in the shit she's swimming in. If big girl doesn't want her floaties, so be it.

Find some other friends, and let a new relationship happen naturally when the time comes. Take up a new hobby, and work at it. Maybe make it into a usable skill.
You've got some time on your hands that wasn't there before. Use it.

Let the loss take its toll - don't ignore it. But don't dwell on it either. You're covered in the shit she dragged you into. Yeah, it'll smell less if you ignore it and let it dry - but you're still covered in shit. So look at it, know that it's an issue, get a little upset that you let yourself swim in someone else's poo, and shower it off little by little.
I promise you'll be fine in time.

[ADHD-Rebel]

2^

Just concludes what I thought was the case on what I should do. Thanks guys.

[BrokenDeck]

If you are going to vent about your personal life, do so in your profile's Newposts, not in the General Forums....

[EJR]

(sry brokendeck)

http://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/topic/180360/

[BrokenDeck]

At 6/4/13 03:49 PM, EJR wrote: (sry brokendeck)

http://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/topic/180360/

lol

THAT too.

Thanks for the link. I forgot about that club. :)