As stated several times in this thread, the most common traits that girls desire in a guy are confidence and competence; unlike male ideals of attractiveness, it's not (at least completely) physical in nature. Of course, this doesn't mean that a girl will be solely attracted to those character traits, and they can find men attractive in the physical nature too. Of course, this doesn't mean that a girl will only date a guy if he's confident and competent.
Sweeping generalizations, at least in a field where personal taste accounts for literally every aspect, will serve no-one well.
Cockiness, or brashness, has a lot in common with traditional ideals of confidence. Remembering that most people don't see themselves or the people they like as "bad people", it's entirely possible and should even be expected that girls will find guys you don't personally like, attractive.
A few anecdotal first and second-hand accounts of this, and voila; guys like dickheads.
At 5/4/13 03:58 PM, FBIpolux wrote:
OP: Bitter dickhead.
That's a granted.
Not to say you're somehow obligated to not feel bitter that you're completely ineffectual at wooing a girl. Contrary to what these weak, feeble "nice guys" believe, you shouldn't be weeping with gratitude that a girl has even noticed you.
These perpetuated ideals of "alpha" and "beta" are somewhat embarrassing to witness.
At 5/4/13 03:00 PM, LDAF wrote:
I came in to find interesting discussion, and found some reasonable points in the OP's argument.
I may be out of touch with the community on General, but I don't exactly remember this forum being a bastion of reasonable conversation.