At 6 minuets ago, The-Great-One wrote:
Congratulations to you for coming completely out of the closet, but you need to sit down with your
mother and talk to her. I guarantee that your day and your mom have already talked about you. To live in
doubt and fear of what if is not a place to be, I've been there for years now.
At 4 minutes ago, tox wrote:
sadly.. she has denied that to me because she will not even talk to me about it, and when i or my sister : or my father try to talk to her about it she states that she is not ready to talk about it...
its been 2 weeks now and all that she has done is not talk to me and treat me like i dont either exist or
that i need to be something that i am not
so, this is me, standing up for me, and saying that if she cant accept me, i will find acceptance
is that wrong?
At 2 minuets ago The-Great-One wrote:
No that is not wrong. Now that the story is given in full I understand more now. I will say that you
should not show anger towards your mother, but pity. That due to her not understanding or having an open mind that she would lose a son.
sadly this all started when my mother cornered my sister unknowenly at a family outing, to a resteraunt...
the conversation went to an idea of Eric, the star child, the one that keeps his shit together, the oldest son... was volunteering at a LGBT group and if she skew anything about it
(at this point i have avoided telling my mother about being pan.. because i was not ready to tell her just yet)
and my sister sumerizes her ideas with the idea that, anyone can love anyone, it is their choice, love is about love, and love can go anywhere...
the conversation continues and she tattles off "all the other kinds of people that can go there from:
Two spirit, transgender, transsexual, intersex, asexual, gender neutral, pansexual, genderqueer, intergender, androgynous, unisex, queer, questioning, lesbian, gay, bisexual, dyke
and she wanted to know again if she knew anything
at this point my sister is quiet and my mom drops the idea that:
you are either straight or gay, there is nothing in between, anything that is in between is either confused or wrong or have yet to chose
its all fucked up i guess