At 2/20/13 06:07 PM, Zanroth wrote:
The veil of anonymity that should allow you to do whatever you want on the web without actually harming anyone.
The shy ones among us can finally act like the person they want to be without consequence, and people can freely share their opinion about anything.
Services like Facebook bring new opportunities, at the cost of having to assume yet another persona, one in the middle of who you want to be and who people expect you to be.
A platform for partial self deployment at the cost of worsening your already present multiple personality disorder.
You put it in the sentences I wish I would've structured. This is a very big point in it all. It's just kind of annoying it just sort of mixes the people you know that know you a certain way along with other people who know you but don't know certain things about you which can influence other social aspects or opportunities. I DID make a new Facebook account recently, but rather than adding the 200 friends from high school I never talk to and hated back then, the people I kept because "Hey sometime in the future I may wanna talk to them", and everyone else, and instead I'll just keep it as a page for people I know to view my works and keep in contact with, rather than posting what I'm doing and "HEY EVERYONE LOOK AT HOW SOCIAL I AM", that of course being an unconscious reason you choose not to believe. At least that denial was very hard to let go for me at first.
At 2/20/13 06:55 PM, Havegum wrote:
When I don't want to use facebook, all I have to do is not visit the page at that time. And I don't have an obsession with people staying active on facebook, there's usually a gap of 4-10 days between each time I visit the page. All I'm saying with "log-in-with-facebook" becoming a new standard for a bunch of sites, why take away the convenience?
It's not like deleting your account gives you anything but the bragging right to say "Oh hi, I deleted my facebook account", whereas not deleting your account gets you easier access to various information.
Again, not the same for everyone. I started using Facebook around 2010 and I just added a couple of close friends I always talked to. Suddenly I started adding just everyone I met and got around 500 friends, the majority of which weren't really friends, and would just judge if they came across something they didn't understand about me (animation being one of them, most of the people I live around have a very close mind about art). It's not being ashamed of who I am, it's the fact that it gives them access to shit I don't really want to hide from anybody, would like to show to anybody, but they will make a bigger deal of it than they should because they spent 3 hours on Facebook filling their heads with useless information from other people like knowing where they were last night, what they drank, where they're going, or their pretentious little quote writing, so when they come across something NEW or WEIRD to them, they make huge deals about it.
TL;DR: It's a great tool, yes, when used in moderation, but the majority of the people don't use Facebook like you do, and add just about fucking everyone they know, mixing up groups of people and personality and blah blah the guy I quoted on top said it best.
The solution to me is: if Facebook is necessary, use it for the necessary reasons and don't spoil yourself for likes. My new profile is completely private, I intend to put little to no personal info, and anyone I meet in person can just ask for my number. (Damn this is starting to remind me of that It's Always Sunny episode)